But if any of you were to go out with him, a few months later you would be posting on MN...
"AMBU to expect him to stop drinking?", - and MNers would be calling his behaviour 'selfish'. He should spend more time with you.
"He prefers his car to me" would be in the relationship thread. MNers would be suggesting - nay, DEMANDING that you leave him, describing him risking your life in theby his driving as "twuntish".
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Sorry, but as a non-bad-boy bloke it is annoying the way women seem to go for this type, and then be seemingly amazed when they don't change their behaviour for them, and then seem to feel it's the blokes fault for not changing. Start off with someone nice - it will be a lot easier in the long ruN!