Expect IABU but here goes. Dh has always had a thing about sleep, seems to need a lot of it, needs naps all the f**king time, is a nasty vicious bastard if he doesn't get his 10 hour ration. Makes me . It's not just me being a bitch about this btw, all our friends and my family have questionned his sleep habits asking if he has some sort of medical problem as he seems so obsessed with it, he hasn't it's just the way he's been brought up.
On the other hand I have chronic insomnia gets worse and wosre as I get older, spend hours lying awake. Have tried EVERYTHING. Aside from sleeping for 3 hours every pm (which is the only time I seem to be able to have restful sleep) which isn't possible with 7 month old and 3.5 year old i have to exist in a state of chronic sleep deprivation. But i do it because i have to! I work, i do childcare, I do housework, I have various hobbies, i organise everything re holidays house stuff, dcs activities appointments etc. I just DO IT.
Since having dcs DH obviously has had to cut back on his soporific pastime, with disastrous effects. Even on 7-8 hours he's in a vile f**king mood and just WON'T stay awake. E.g. playing with dd, lenas on hand lying on floor doses off. In the evening spending a couple of precious hours with me, doses off. In from work sits on the sofa doses off. This is afetr 7-8 hours uniterrupted night sleep which he gets every other night (we take it in turns at night with dcs, 7mo is a lot better but 3.5 year old shouts out sometimes). he does LOADS of exercise and IMO it's making him even more "tired" which means the house is a pit because he just doesn't do stuff and we never have a conversation as he's always dosing. Enough energy for his 3 hour mountain bike rides at the weekend though .
If we do have babysitters we go out and it's whinge whinge whinge about being tired despite him knowing FULL WELL that I'm exhausted, clinically, as described by the GP!!
I'm sick of his need for excess sleep governing our lives. he's also (and this REALLY pisses me off) left work a bit early and rather than go straight to nursery to get dd has come home for a "cuppa" dosed off and left poor dd at nursery. Cue me getting home from work late, dh asleep and dd still at nursery. Race round to pick her up and she's the last one there looking so sad makes me and .
I now have to phone him when I know he's at home and due to pick her up to make sure he's awake.
I only have myself to blame though, he's always been like this, when we first met i worked shifts he was a studetn STILL (age 27 I should have known then) and when he got his first job I either had to ring from and early shift at 8.00am to wake him up OR set MY alarm to wake him up when I was on a late and could have been having a lie IN!!! He still refuses to set an alarm to this day relying on me or the dcs to get him up. If we didn't he'd have been sacked from every job by now. Actually I've now refused to do this anymore and he has to have an alarm which he's not happy about.
My Mum thinks he's "abnormal" with his sleep issues, I agree AIBU?????