To want to buy my DD some slighter more expensive clothes?

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I only mean Zara/Next as opposed to Asda/Tesco/Matalan/Primark!

Its not like the things break the bank is it? Its all a matter of choice....but one of my friends only ever buys from the cheaper stores and I am sorry but you can tell.

We are far from wealthy, they probably have more disposable income than us, but I buy fewer, better quality items I guess.

Spent the morning with a friend who made lots of digs - can you tell

It's your money, your business. next time your "friend" comments, say something like "I prefer quality over quantity, that's all" and smile sweetly.

Personally, I buy a mix. Smart shirts, jeans, jumpers, coats from Next/M&S. H&M/BHS for daywear and Primark/Asda for playgroup/toddlers and park/mucking about. No way am I spending £15 on a pair of jeans to then spend an hour scrubbing poster paints out!

A friend's DS is currently wearing clothes which DH used to bring back from the US ($2 to the £, outlet centre prices) in heaps for DS - DS and DD have worn them, now friend's DS, then I will probably sell most of them. Most are Gap and OshKosh, with a few Ralph Lauren etc.

Most of DD's girl-clothes (so not inherited from DS) come from nearly new sales.

...I am SO not fussed - and since none of them are new, there aren't ever 3 other little girls at nursery in the same T-shirt.

stealthsquiggle, I do the same- buy DC's clothes in the US, in clearance sales, where I pay for Gap what I would pay for Primark. And can then sell it on ebay if my DC have outgrown it.

I thought GAP had closed down the sweatshops? If I know otherwise, I will stop shopping there immediately.

Having two girls, I find supermarket clothes can be a false economy. Having just got all of DD1s clothes out to sort out for Dd2 to wear, they are all Next, Debenhams, Monsoon and M&S. I find (Particularly) George just does not make the grade, and the clothes do not last anywhere near as long, sometimes not even a season. I have long since stopped buying George clothes because they just didn't stay good enough quality. That said, a few Tesco clothes were of good enough quality for me to keep.

Today my DD2 is wearing a topI bought in the Monsoon sale, at a fraction of the actual cost, that was originally slightly too big for DD1. She got two summers out of it, and now DD2 is in her second year of wearing it and it still looks pristine. It has not gone out of shape, the colour is great... It looks like I bought it this year, rather than having had four year's worth of use (and a couple in storage!).

I'm quite like the OP, I prefer to buy less clothes, and have clothes that will see me through two children, and in fact most of my clothes have gone through 4 girls, because I then pass them on to my cousin who uses them for her two girls! And, by and large, the quality is good enough to last.

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YANBU - be honest with her. Tell her it ticks you off that she keeps refering to it.
Then you could tell her it was all bought off eBay. If that doesn't work then start commenting on how cheap her clothes look. "Lovely but that must have been a bargain."
I love good quality clothes but I can't afford them in the stores so I buy second hand. My lo was dressed entirely in Mini boden today - none of it was new and you couldn't tell. I also have some very nice Monsoon stuff for him. I'm a brand snob and proud!

I think your friend is jealous.

Is she the same about the clothes that you wear?

I would be irritated too. You can spend the money on whatever you want. Some people cannot accept that.

Don't see anything wrong with it at all sounds like your friend is a bit jealous.

I tend to go for the supermarkets (prefer Sainsburys) but wouldn't really pay more, my 2 ds's are such mucky pups it would be a total waste to pay more for clothes for them to be covered in food/mud/snot etc.

I'm not entirely convinced about the more expensive = better quality, mine always have smart price/value jeans which lasted ds1 well and are still going strong for ds2, the Next jeans ds1 had went into holes at the knee pretty quickly, I think they're probably made to look nice rather than to be hardwearing.

I would spend a bit more for a special outfit for their birthdays but they probably only have 1 pair of smart trousers/jeans and 1 or 2 smart shirts each.

actually it drives me a bit mad the obsessive questions about my dds clothes! i buy bits and pieces i find irresistible, often in sales, new on ebay etc

my dds are gorgeous and i love putting together outfits for the girls as i do for myself, so a general compliment of ahh the girls look so cute etc is fine but some people are OTT, scrutinising and demanding to know labels and prices! wtf is that all about?

i've also encountered a whiff of 'you're a show off' from some sourpusses at toddler groups etc, i really don't understand!

lastly have to say it's your eye for quality/ taste. someone bought dd some jeans from tesco and they're prettier than anything i've seen in monsoon etc

I have never bought either of my DS's name brand clothing brand new. DS1 currently has a gap hoody which i paid £1.25 for, DS2 has an identical one which my sister gave me.

other than that its primark all the way. And i don't but clarkes shoes either....shoezone and priceless shoes are just as nice.

The point is my DS's don't look like they are wearing "cheap" clothing because it is taken care of.

I also have outfits which are not dated iyswim that belonged to DS1, have gone through 4 other DC and now are back to DS2.

It does all depend, melon, you're right. DS's boden jeans were expensive but didn't make the cut as the distressed styling made them wear out faster. We've gotten a few pairs at Target for half as much and we've been able to hand them down as they've held up so well. (Think I may have posted on this before...oh well )

It sounds to me, OP, that it's the same old "you're making a different choice than I am, therefore you must disapprove of my choice, therefore I must become defensive and act as though your choice is the wrong one" trap that a lot of mothers fall into.