to think that if you wouldn't insult someone in RL, you shouldn't on MN?

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I've only been on MN a few weeks but I've been really surprised at the language and 'verbal' abuse on some of the threads. Tonight, I read an AIBU, for example, where a post was just a one line insult - no explanation or other comment given. I know AIBU is supposed to be the place where people ask for and get honest answers but some of these insults seem pretty unpleasant, especially where the OP makes it clear they are just seeking an opinion on whether their POV is reasonable.

My current thinking is that I only say here on MN what I would feel comfortable saying to another person face to face. AIBU?

i think I'd have said " you are a nob in real life"

ooh is this a thread about a thread [gasp]

I am generally quite nice on here, honest but civil

But I am a bit about a recent post, but I lost my temper and the tone really pissed me off!

I think people on here are generally OK, and I think those that are flamed generally deserved it

Put it this way, genuinely sensitive issues, even in AIBU, are treated kindly IMO

some people put peoples back up, c'est la vie

i agree that it does upset me a bit when newbies get HAMMERED

bless em they gaily type away and get shat on! txt spk is lk a rd rg to a bl

YABU if you think being blunt on MN is in some way akin to insulting someone in RL.
YANBU if you think that using MN as a way of being rude to people for the sake of it is unnecessary.

The fact that MN isn't RL means that you can be more candid and blunt without risking any RL friendships. If we had to act on MN as we do in RL then it would be a much more mundane experience.
MN is nothing like RL and if anyone starts to take it to heart then they are in for a thrashing emotionally because most of the OPs are things that just wouldn't be asked in RL. I can't think that many people in RL would ask a group of strangers to give them an honest opinion on their baby name choice/decision about a relationship/parenting skills.
If we were asked for honest opinion in RL as people do on MN, we would temper it accordingly, taking into account the relationship we have with the person asking so as not to offend or upset them but on MN we don't need to take that into account and as long as it's not unnecessarily rude, bluntness is what makes MN appealing.
On MN you can ask for the virtual slap in the face and if you post asking for opinion on things then you know that you are bound to get people who won't agree with your way of thinking but that's ok because it's an internet forum, it's not RL.

it does annoy me when people post

then people disagree

they they get PISSY!

thats when it tends to kick off IMO, pisses me off for sure

or they dont like the responses, err did you read this website before you decided to post

i love when op slag off dissenters,and personally thank all those who agreed

fanks dimwits love & hugs 4 c n sense
cheers buckethead 4 stickin up for me 2 these biatches
and fuck off to rest of you lot i have heard about mn

thnxs huns. hugs all rnd. xxxxxxxxxxx

btw, wots wrong with rsks in a btl at 3wks???

evil

YABU. I get tired of polite bullshit and PC bollocks in RL. If I get slated on here (which I don't often, 'cos I'm great ), I suppose I could consider that at least I'm getting an honest answer for once.

I think a few people don't lurve me on here but I am equally gobby in real life with people that offend me. The only times I've been a cow on here was when people made sly digs or else they disagreed with something I said

MN is not RL, its refreshing to be able to get things off your chest on here sometimes.

I think there is a difference anyway between 'you are being a nob' and 'you are a nob'.

I didn't see much wrong in that particular thread - it was pretty lighthearted on balance wasn't it?

So, YABU.