DH left me 2 weeks ago. He said it was coz he needed to think things over, best friend died 2 months before, we never did things together, wasn't how a marriage should be etc etc. I felt very sympathetic towards him, helped him find a place, look for furniture, very supportive, blaming myself.
Turns out he was and still is, having an affair with a work colleague. That's the real reason he's left.....he's moved to the same town where she lives. He only told me coz he wants me to file for divorce and when I spoke to a solicitor I realised I had to find reasons for the divorce and DH and I had to come up with reasons, and he told me.
His family don't know this, they think it's for the 1st set of reasons above. I've seen a note his mum wrote to him, mentioning how I'm selfish and how he's got to be careful as divorce is the leading cause of poverty. They think he's really suffering and I'm a cow.
Yesterday his sister phoned, I get caller alert on my phone and saw it was her so didn't pick up as I knew she was phoning in error. She didn't call back, but I'm thinking I could ring her back innocently. Should I ring back and assume she knows about this other woman (she doesn't). She would likely offer sympathy to me and I would say that infidelity in the workplace goes on and that it's a shame etc.
Or should I leave him guilt ridden and tortured about it all and hope that he feels duty bound to tell his family himself?
AIBU to want to say something?
SK