To want my children to be able to play in their own back garden

[Mumsaysno]

Am I being unreasonable to expect my children to be able to play in their own backgarden in peace without other children shouting over to them and "spying on them" whilst jumping on a massive trampoline that overlooks our garden. Have tried growing bamboo up the fence that divides the garden and this grew really well and screened both the trampoline and children and then they moved the trampoline along the fence and away from the bamboo. So now whenever we are in the garden they are peering over making comments. Is it unreasonable to expect to be able to have peace and privacy in your own garden in nice weather.

Sounds like the other children are just trying to interact with the kids next door...YABabitU

although I am sure it must be slightly annoying!

is it really that much of a problem? Exactly how much time do they spend in the air anyway?

YABU. You are very lucky to a) have a garden and b) one that is relatively private. They are just kids playing.

Its not how much time they spend in the air, they can see into the garden just by standing on the trampoline, and seem to find our garden and what goes on it, much more interesting than playing in their own. Yes it is very annoying.

unless they are being rude, then YABU. Children want to interact with other children, there isn't much you can do about that.

Or else go and buy a house in the middle of nowhere.

kids are just drawn to other kids though, that's just how it is....

YABU ..my dcs when younger always played with the neighbours dcs over the fence ...

Grow more bamboo.

Just feel lucky that you have a garden that your children can play in (we don't). Unless you can afford to move to a large house in the midle of no where then i think you (and a lot of people) will always have this problem.

Not just the children though they are there on the trampoline the minute they hear anyone in the garden, me putting out the washing or my husband cutting the grass. Wasn't aware me and my husband were so interesting to watch perhaps we should be on tv then.

think your being a tad unreasonable, they are kids, our neighbours ds is a bit like that so if i see him hanging around when my dd is playing i invite him around. Why dont you do the same?

Why don't you just invite the other children to play? Whenever the little boy who lives opposite us sees my godson arrive at our house, he comes straight over to play. If he doesn't see him arrive, within minutes my godson is asking to go and knock for him. I don't consider this nosey or intrusive, they're just little boys who like to have a bit of company. Maybe the other children would like to have someone to share their huge trampoline with?
If YOU want privacy from the children when you're out in the garden on your own then you need to say something to them very simply and without being horrible or rude to the effect that you are having some quiet time and would they please play in their own garden for a while without disturbing you.

Sorry to hear that FioFio, we have never been rude to the children and have always told our children to be polite to them but it does get very annoying after a while when they are just standing there on their trampoline and staring over into our garden.

yanbu
we are over looke by a park, and it used to wind e up that if dd was in the garden the brats little darlings would be peering in(climbing on fence)

Maybe they get fed up of hearing your children playing in the garden?

I have a neighbour a bit like you, if i walk my dog in the field behind her house she seems to think i'm nosing in her garden .

You cant really stop them from playing in their own garden.

Marne, my children play in the garden and are incredibly quiet compared to them and we have a climbing frame in our garden but my children PLAY in the garden these children do not play if they hear us in the garden they STAND on their trampoline and just stare over at us no matter what we are doing.

Will say again, they probably want to come and play, esp if you have a climbing frame in your garden. Have you asked them what they want?

have tried inviting them round before, but then they take advantage and don't play nicely with my children and then want to go and play indoors, even though we are all outside and then when we have said time to go home they won't go home.

I would swap a garden for my crappy balcony anyday the kids next door wouldn't bother me.

I've posted a little bit about my neighbours before on other threads but be grateful that's all you have to worry about.

I can't take my 1yr old out in the garden AT ALL, as the kids next door thinks it's fun to throw rocks at his head. I said something to them once and then found our car windowscreen busted.

YAB a bit U but I understand why your pissed off.

god know's what else to suggest then apart from get a bigger fence or move to somewhere with no neighbours

My children will stand on our table to nose at next door. I tell them that next door would appreciate some privacy, but the next day they're back on the table. And yes, I do move the table, but with narrow gardens it doesn't really do much good. So I think it's perfectly normal behaviour from your neighbour's children.

are you really asking if you are BU, I don't think you think you are, really.