or is he??

[TheLadyEvenstar]

DP came in from work at around 4.15, I had only got in about 4pm. Anyway there was no dinner ready as I had been out and about. So he came in and made himself a vesta chow mein (

my ds of same age often hovers over our food too,despite having eaten earlier.....

quite normal!!

My Grandad just loved a Vesta curry - Gran made him it for a treat after he took her grocery shopping on a Friday. Sorry about your prob OP but you just reminded me of a lovely memory, so thanks

REL, my dad used to eat them as well when i was very young...it does bring back memories.

It was very rude of him to makke himself a ready meal when you were just about to cook. I would have had words at that point.

Not surprised to hear there was another issue because his behaviour all in all sounds very unpleasant.

I have a two year old too and she always wants some of what we're having.

lol it must be a 2yr old thing!!!

Skidoody more childish than anything!!

Sounds like you need to actually talk to each other baout wht you are cooking/about to cook/eating/want to eat, rather than each silently making a succession of ready meals.

Trillian, he knew i was going to cook as he had spoken to me before he came home. I had only been in 10 or 15 minutes longer than him and had had things to do in that time. It wasn't as if he didn't know because he did.
Thats what really peed me off, he had already spoken to me and knew dinner was going to be made. When he made himself something I decided to make myself something as he had already eaten.

TLE - I hope you are out with the boys now and are enjoying the day. TBH - your DH & I would last 5 minutes, he is frequently moody, pissy with you and does as he pleases... it's a wonder you don't have a flourishing veggie patch!!

With his temperament I think I would be saying to him - 'I love you, (well I wouldn't actually because with his temperament I'd of killed him by now!! - but that aside!!), I don't care what size you are (if it's true), but your health is suffering and if you want to be here to see DS2 grow up you need to deal with it. I will help you anyway I can - I will cook healthy meal (most of the time ) and I will exercise with you if you want me to - but it's up to you what you do. However, you have to know that it hurts me to see you not making an effort to be healthy so that you see DS2 grow up'. Then leave it up to him.

Chipping, i have to be honest he rarely goes anywhere or does anything other than work and fishing when he takes DS1. He isn't normally pissy with me only when Dss comes into the conversation.

The only thing he did wrong was swear, apart from that you are clearly the unreasonable one.

TLE - I don't want to bring up other threads, but it's hard to reply to an AIBU when you have formed an opinion of a poster (or rather, their DH) from other threads - without taking that into account. Probably better I shut up now

Are you going out today?

Chipping, i really don't know which thread/threads you are talking about tbh!!!

Evenstar is clearly just trying to keep her DP around for as long as possible, and him being a greedy bastard and frankly quite selfish is not very nice. If everone tried to look after their healt like she is maybe there would be so much illness due to obesity.

Also, I know her and her family in real life and trust me, her ds2 is very well fed and is 6 months younger than my DD and is heavier than she is, he is definitely not underfed. She makes yummy home made, healty food along with juggling all the housework, looking after her 2 DS and eveything else that comes woth being a SAHM.

ahh just been reading your thread LM where TLE is sticking up for you & rightly so , and here you are on TLE's thread sticking up for her & must be nice to be Rl & cyber friends x

thanks elmo, you are welcome to join us where are ou?? we are both in south london

in Ireland unfortunately , cant believe some of the stuff that has been said on your thread , very unfair imo . hope you get it all sorted out with dh , reckon you should be letting him bath & get dd off to bed tonight while you put your feet up & chill with a nice glass or2 of wine

Er... hello? TLE's dh told her to "go fuck herself? And people think he was justified?
No man should ever, ever talk like that to his wife unless she slept with the entire local football team!
TLE he is an arse!

Oh and it's also up to TLE to make sure a big meal is cooked for the whole family? Is this the 1950's thread?

Chip did you leave your chains at the kitchen sink???

You're being unreasonable

Activate, care to elaborate?

lol TLE - imo men revert back to their cavemen instincts when they are hungry lol hope all is well in your household now

I don't get why anyone needs to eat lasagne and ham and cheese and bread...sounds like you all eat too much anyway.

Sounds ike a complete inability to communicate both by him and you- and what did you intend to give your DS? He must have a big appetite to eat all of your food so you end up hungry!

Sorry but the answer surely is to have more organised mealtimes where you all eat the same thing at the same time- at least most of the time.

Start acting like an adult- both of you.