or is he??

[TheLadyEvenstar]

DP came in from work at around 4.15, I had only got in about 4pm. Anyway there was no dinner ready as I had been out and about. So he came in and made himself a vesta chow mein (

Im struggling to understand how it is ever ok to put another adult on a diet. I would be livid if my DP did it to me!

so/ TLE when he said he'd give some of his to ds2 why didn't YOU say to ds2, no more now, you can have some of daddy's in a minute

or why not, strange idea this... give ds2 his own dinner????

i really don't get it.

you had some dinner which you willingly shared.

your dp made himself (lots) of food.

you then complain because he hasn't offered you any of his, despite you having eaten and willingly shared it with your son.

i mean, you only had to ask!! he isn't a mind reader

It's no wonder you both need to diet tbh. You sound like you have huge food issues

Reality, I am 5ft 8" and weigh about 12 stone. I am a 12-14 in clothes and the only thing i really need to lose is my belly which i have had since having DS2. I normally cook every day it was just today I had a tv dinner.

A small ready meal is not healthy nor filling for a grown man. Why didnt one of you cook a home made, filling healthy meal?

DS2 had his own dinner I have already said that.

Mad we both are dieting because he needs to lose weight desperatly. I know it sounds harsh but he has already had a warning of heart attack has blood pressure probs, probs with bowels, and other things. I do not want DS2 to grow up without knowing his daddy or having to spend loads of time in hospitals visiting his dad like I did I know how hard that can be on a child, the only difference is my dad was disabled and there was no choice. DP on the other hand is not and just needs to lose wieght.

hey everyone has a day when they can't be arsed surely? ours was today and it resulted ina trip to the chippy

the issue ehre isn't the ready meal.

but as you were making ready-meals it would surely have been sensible to do one each, eat it together, get ds2 some of his own and thena ll would have been fine

Mad, I had every intention of cooking but I had been out as well as him. So when he came in he made himself something although he had spoken to me 10 minutes before and knew when I got in I was going to cook dinner.
I came in unpacked shopping sorted DS2 out, made a coffee and was deciding exactly what to cook when he came in and cooked his dinner, without so much as a word.

tle i'd have gone ahead and made dinner as planned i think, and just saved any leftover for lunch the next day.

anyway, you should have some chocolate and wine and chill out a bit

TIY, ideally that would have been perfect but he came home in an arsey mood and when i asked him what was up he said "nothing" couldnt do more than that.

I think there is possibly one thing that did annoy him....???? we were meant to be going out tomorrow and he is a lover of fair rides [yawn] I said i didn't want to go to the place he suggested as DS2 and I would be bored, then suggested somewhere else suitable for Ds1 ds2 dp and i. which he did seem fine with but his mood didn't lighten any.

Reality, I have 5 in the freezer which are all weight watchers meals. they are there for the days when dp is working nights and eats at work so I will have one while the DC have something else.

I also was mighty peed off that he had had a second meal in itself more than not sharing because at 1am when he is crippled with pain I will be woken up by him and his moaning ffs.

TIY, I was tired as well lol and couldn't really be bothered had fed DS2 and then done my lasagne....lazy i know but hey ho I am allowed once in a while to be lazy surely.

No chocolate or wine here at all I do have lots of coffee though lol and some ww homous, ww pita bread, salad, and plenty of juice

I'd put this down to you both having a long day at work and him not looking forward to his dinner because he knew it wasnt even gonna touch the sides!

No one wants to be told what to do, even if its in their best interests, but i do stand by my first reply about men not being mind readers, specially as you added that little snippet about him telling you he would give some of his dinner to your son.

Might have been an idea to just mention that as your son had eaten a lot of your dinner, then it would be an idea for you to share with your OH. Frankly i'd have had my fork ready as soon as the microwave had pinged

Maleeka, sorry I didn't make it clear every day aside from today he has a decent sized meal. since last sunday we have had home made chicken and veg soup, spaghetti bolognaise,chicken stew, korma and roast beef. So not nasty tv dinners or small meals just healthier than normal tbh.

So I take it these 'individual' lasagnes are boxed ones, as they are WW?

Why don't you just make a huge lasagne, and all have some of that? Probably taste better than the WW ones, too!

I am not surprised that your ds doesn't eat properly, or what you give him, because he is now used to picking at your meals, so he doesn't really need his own food!

Different, I didn't say DS2 doesn't eat properly he eats and did eat his own meal.

TLE, don't feel you ahve to justify what you have eaten! people seem unduly worried about the fact you've had a ready-meal here lol

the issue isn't WHAT was being eaten, it was whether it should have been shared.

y'need to talk more! he needs to spill about what's getting his goat, you need to tell him you want some food while he's making it.

go out tomorrow. have a NICE day!

Not sure who's being unreasonable now, BUT, a WW ready meal and salad isn't enough for a man of that size. He needs at least 2000 calories a day.

Wasting, thats not the only thing he has eaten today!!

TIY, I have found out what has been eating him!!! but thats a whole other post!

I would hope not!

But assuming he's having three meals a day, a WW ready meal isn't enough for one of those. He'd need a second dinner.

Yes, you revealed it by stealth, some way into the thread, after being told that he should have had more then cheese & bread...

more than

oh well.....its done now!

TLE.....how is it today?? you all in a better mood and off out for the day?

didnt know those vesta meals still existed....we had those in the seventies/eighties and thought they were son exotic!!

different because the issue was not about DS2 so i felt no need to originally mention what he had had through out the day until I was told i was underfeeding him. Yes I can see that a 2yr old who is in 4-5yr old clothes, size 10 shoes and weighs just under 3st is underfed.

TBB he has suddenly been called into work today. so i am going to take the boys out later if the weather warms up.