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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be monumentally annoyed with my husband?

53 replies

isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:33

my sister bought me a massage for my birthday. The last time I had time away from my children was my last birthday. My husband told me that in order to "earn" my massage (solo) time, I should put in house work hours in advance. I was outraged! I don't think he realises what i do at home in addition to working. He works really hard, and does lots of housework at home too but it really feels like he is some sort of competition with me over who does how much. Does anyone else feel like this?

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:35

sorry he said what? put in the housework hours in advance? seriously? if DP came up with this one he'd be wearing his bollox for earrings... cheeky bugger

ouryve · 01/04/2010 23:36

Is that his sick idea of an April fool?

I'd be telling him where to stick the dishmop and demonstrating it for good measure.

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isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:38

you've made me laugh, thank you

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Alambil · 01/04/2010 23:38

so, where are you going for a weekend away?

hope he has fun with the kids!

bibbitybobbityhat · 01/04/2010 23:39

Quite seriously, and I never say things like this, tell him to fuck the fuck off.

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isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:40

went to sister's house for massage last weekend and lunch lasgt weekend, was lovely!!
(was just wondering in hindsight weather was wrong to get so worked up. )

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PrettyCandles · 01/04/2010 23:41

He doesn't seem to understand: it's free time, not time-off-in-lieu. Whether he takes 15min or 1h for lunch, he's not expected to work extra time in order to have that 1h - it is his by right (and by contract). As is your time off.

He may not realise that many (all?) employment contracts have written into them an obligatory amount of rest-time during the day.

Original poster
isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:41

whether (not weather)

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outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:46

isittooearly definately not. If i were you i would sit on my arse all week and do nothing and show him exactly how much you actually do in the house..... again what a cheeky bastard

jasper · 01/04/2010 23:50

hmm. As a middle child I am duty bound to see both sides.
But in this case, I can't quite see his side....

BitOfFun · 01/04/2010 23:51

This is a clear case of Fuck the Fuck Off and Fuck Off Again When You Get There.

Tinnitus · 01/04/2010 23:52

He has stones, I'll give him that.

Seriously, what a dick.

jasper · 01/04/2010 23:53

This man is an abuser.
Take your kids and leave.

Just kidding

outnumbered2to1 · 01/04/2010 23:54

lmao at bitofFun

scottishmummy · 01/04/2010 23:58

never felt like this,but im not a tit.do you have post-it note on head says mug you're acting like one?

earn priveleges?cycling christ i hope this is a joke. he will royally take the piss for as long as you let him

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isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:58

am a bit embarrassed to tell you how I dealt with this situation but did get a bloody fabulous birthday present - i fully recommend to anyone to get seriously pissed off just before a present giving moment - it does reap rewards!!

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jasper · 02/04/2010 00:00

come on, spit it out, what did you do?

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 00:06

jasper my guess would be kicking him out of the bedroom..... worked on my DP like a charm

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isittooearlyforgin · 02/04/2010 00:08

I refused to speak to him for as long as it took for him to apologise (childish in the extreme I know but its tricky to know what else to do when your other half just won't address the situation) By day 5 he cracked. Was seriously considering divorce!!

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DuelingFanjo · 02/04/2010 00:08

I would have told him to go himself!

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 00:11

by day one i would have CRACKED him - probably over his head...... lol

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 00:12

go girlfriend.good relationship is about communication

airing one's opinion non-confrontationally
ability to negotiate difficult times

or throwing a huff and petted lip til the ole gimmer gives in. nice

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 00:16

gotta love the silent treatment - it works bloody wonders....

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isittooearlyforgin · 02/04/2010 00:17

scottish mummy - what is your problem? why are you so hufty?

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scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 00:19

you continue traipsing your marital dross around mn

i will continue posting

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