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Original poster

to be monumentally annoyed with my husband?

53 replies

isittooearlyforgin · 01/04/2010 23:33

my sister bought me a massage for my birthday. The last time I had time away from my children was my last birthday. My husband told me that in order to "earn" my massage (solo) time, I should put in house work hours in advance. I was outraged! I don't think he realises what i do at home in addition to working. He works really hard, and does lots of housework at home too but it really feels like he is some sort of competition with me over who does how much. Does anyone else feel like this?

OP posts:
mrsboogie · 02/04/2010 00:22

if there was no marital doss on MN there'd be about three threads on the whole site....

Original poster
isittooearlyforgin · 02/04/2010 00:22

there has been a marital tiff in a generally loving relationship and it has been sorted out with apologies and finished in cuddles and a bloody great present, we don't always behave in an ideal way (him and me) but that's life I guess. Do you always behave impeccably or there ever times that you get a mard on?

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outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 00:23

here scottishmummy that was a bit harsh do you not think.....

marital dross and the everyday shennanigans of life are the lifeblood of MN

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 00:25

i dont traipse my detritus round mn.

and no i dont do huffs
or earn priveleges

think about how you describe yourself and your husband online before you get defensive at me

you dont paint a glowing picture hun

Original poster
isittooearlyforgin · 02/04/2010 00:28

not defensive, just sharing. not a glowing picture i admit, a part of life which doesn't always go to plan, just like other areas - like child rearing, work, friendships, etc etc.

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 00:31

so suck it up then,you wrote it.cant complain if you dont come across as marrieds of the year

Original poster
isittooearlyforgin · 02/04/2010 00:32

we don't come across as marrieds of the year, was seriously reassessing relationship but just surprised by your strength of feeling on the matter

OP posts:
jasper · 02/04/2010 00:43

isittooearly , most of us appreciate the window into others ' imperfect marriages .

Keep up the good work. Glad you worked it out x

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 00:45

inane cmon sisters have a laugh at my tit dh are bit sad.in that the assumption is all us laydees will join in oh mash his nuts/kick to kerb/no maaaaaaaaan does that to me sister blah blah

change the gender,know what if a man posted that it would be all leave him/look at i-am-woman-i-am-goddess site

may i suggest that given you posted that keech about your marriage,that you have/had issues enough to share

this is is general comment on the my man the tit detritus

which often ends (like this) how very dare you to non affirmative posts

presumably had i sucked up and said oh aye hes a bad un,kick his clackers that would have been ok?

Condensedmilkaddict · 02/04/2010 00:47

So - are you 'allowed' out now OP?

jasper · 02/04/2010 00:56

sm step away from the wine

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 01:03

is that the best you can surmise?no jasper dont presume.just because dont likey dont throw generalisations.do try harder to invent reason why you no likey my post

look at the jist of this

this is sterotypical my man is a tit,lets all have a laugh.tell me how hard i have it

oh no!a contrary opinion-must be half cut.how else could anyone not fail to lurve this

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 01:17

scottish did someone piss on your cornflakes this morning?

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 01:20

absolutley not.is that the best you can muster?

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 01:25

na i could "muster" a whole lot more just cannae be bothered. by the way is muster the word of the week on your calendar?

claig · 02/04/2010 01:29

scottishmummy's posts are some of the best on MN. They can be harsh but they usually get to the heart of an issue like a knife cutting through butter. They are down to earth one liners that are often humourous. I just thank my lucky stars that I haven't been on the end of her withering gaze yet.

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 01:33

try to make a cogent point.you will sound less of a ned outnumbered2to1

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 01:34

a little bit of good natured banter never goes amiss................!!

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 01:36

it takes one to know one scottishmummy

scottishmummy · 02/04/2010 01:38

i think not.try harder.muster a witty riposte.i dare you

Condensedmilkaddict · 02/04/2010 01:41

So anyway, OP are you 'allowed' out yet?

That for me is the most disturbing part of your post.

outnumbered2to1 · 02/04/2010 01:45

ah the glesgae banter! there's nothing like it!!

i bow to your superior intellect and wisdom scottish mummy and retire to lick my wounds ready for the next rounnd, but would like it noted in the minutes that i have never in my 36 years ever been called a ned...

adieu and could you pass me the first aid box please...

Cherrybaby · 02/04/2010 02:04

I dont find scottishmummy amusing in the least.
She sounds like an old, bitter and twisted bag who has nothing better to do than be nasty to people in virtual reality when he/she probably wouldn't have enough courage to do it face to face!

On the alternative, you might be absolutely pissed out of your arse, scottishmummy.

Condensedmilkaddict · 02/04/2010 02:19

I like you Scottish Mummy - and I like your directness.

That for me, is the beauty of Mumsnet.

Cherrybaby - you are calling someone an old, bitter, twisted bag and then criticising nastiness?

SO we STILL haven't established whether OP is allowed out of her own home yet...

Cherrybaby · 02/04/2010 02:25

condensed, Yep. My nastiness is reserved for nasty people!