trinity - i haven't a clue!! we are seeing a psych. cos dd won't take medicine, so she has to learn to swallow tablets & we've tried every trick in the book, but she deosn't seem to be able to swallow them.
with dd, i keep being warned to make sure she eats enough iron - and from your list your dd doesn't. we use vit. tablets & iron drops in juice to help this. however, more iron = constipation, so we have to cut down milk & up the apple juice, which = more sugar. AARGH!!
my opinion is that as long as they get a healthy balance, does it matter? we no longer live in post war rationing, so does it really matter if someone is fussy. given time, most kids grow out of it, if not pressured too much. dd knows that if she goes to a friends & doesn't like it, she may be offered bread, or she will just go hungry til later. she also knows to at least try it.
a 'typical' meal for her is a slice of bread, cold turkey, still frozen sweetcorn. it's boring, but it is healthy. the only problem is with eating out, but she'll eat plain pasta, so sometimes that's what she has.
the psych. will mainly be focusing on tablets, but did say she'll try some new foods - i'll get back to you if we have any insights!
oh, and dd will eat tortilla wraps - so i stir fry veg & meat, and put them on a plate with the wraps on another plate. this gives her 'control' as she then makes it into a roll & eats it. doc thinks her having control is GOOD, btw. (of what she eats, not the house in general) i then add a sauce to the rest of the stir fry for me & dh to eat.
and we cut roast pots length wasy & call them chips, then she eats them. actually, now she'll eat them 'normal' - it was a gradual transition.
also, she eats better in diff. situations, e.g. visiting family, she is more relaxed, at school where she's hyper, i suspect that lunch is a bit of a myth.