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Pregnancy test pictures on FB?

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 07:44

A friend has just posted a photo of her clearblue digital pregnancy test on facebook. It shows she she conceived 1-2 weeks ago. It's a recent result, she is only just pregnant.

AIBU to think this is a bit early to be sharing such information with so many people? So much can go wrong . I don't want to be a boring cow, but shouldn't you keep it private for a while?

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2shoes · 20/03/2010 07:45

well I would have
but each to thier own

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 07:47

Yes, I suppose it is each to their own isn't it? I am being an old moan bag i think! Thanks.

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D0G · 20/03/2010 07:51

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frasersmummy · 20/03/2010 08:01

The thing about keeping it quiet is that if it goes wrong then you either need to tell people you were pregnant but you have now lost it or you have to struggle on alone with your sadness

If people know you are pregnant its much easier to get support if things dont work out

girlsyearapart · 20/03/2010 08:01

she must've just taken the test too cos the results don't stay on the screen very long!

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 08:13

D0G I think you're right, she is just super excited. I feel mean now for being about it!

FrasersMummy I've never thought if it like that before. I always just assumed it was best to keep it quiet to avoid disappointing grandparents or whoever if anything went wrong, I didnt actually think that maybe I would need support if it went wrong!

This whole thing stems from the fact that I got a BFP this week, and am now terrified if anything goes wrong, and my OH wants me to keep quiet until at least 14 weeks, maybe I will give him your perspective FrasersMummy, thank you!

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MaisietheMorningsideCat · 20/03/2010 08:15

Girls - that's not true. I have one test upstairs (forget which child it refers to!) which is years old.

I'm sure she is super excited - it's just a bit weird to post a wee stick on FB. But hey, that's just my opinion!

suwoo · 20/03/2010 08:21

My perspective is exactly the same as frasersmummys, in fact I had the same conversation with a friend yesterday. With all three of mine I told people straight away. I would also tell those people if I had had a miscarriage, so why not tell them I was pg?

suwoo · 20/03/2010 08:25

I have my pregnancy tests from my DC in a drawer too.

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Madascheese · 20/03/2010 08:30

FWIW I don't agree with the whole you have wait til 12 weeks thing for that very reason.

If people want to share the fab news, share it, then you do have support and hugs if you need it.

I told my sister about 10 minutes after I did the test, my parents that night and then close friends (the kind of close friends I'd share general life news with) then I think outside that I probably did wait until twelve weeks - mainly because I was 2 weeks into a new job when I found out....

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 09:20

Thank you for all that, I thought it was just a given that you didn't tell anyone until 12wks, so thank you for enlightening me!

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5DollarShake · 20/03/2010 09:28

It's a very personal thing - to be honest, if more people announced their pregnancies early, then there would be much more awareness of how common miscarriage sadly is, and then maybe those going through it wouldn't feel so alone, and as if maybe there's something wrong with them.

If people want to shout it from the rooftops, so be it - at least there will be plenty of support for them if the worst happened.

Likewise, people are just as entitled to keep it quiet, too.

I've had 2 m/cs, 1 birth and am pregnant (20 weeks) now - we told our immediate family before the end of the first tri in all cases (although waited until after 7-weeks scans after the 2 m/cs).

pigletmania · 20/03/2010 09:31

I had dd very quickly, everything was textbook, and told everyone early straight away, but when I was pg again I made the mistake of telling lots of people and M/c . So i had to go back and tell them that i had lost the baby, I was about 9 weeks.

queenoftheslatterns · 20/03/2010 09:32

even after 10 mc's I would still tell people when/if i get pg again. as others have said, if something goes wrong I would need support. i have also posted a BFP pic on here before now. I was excited and happy!

LadyBiscuit · 20/03/2010 09:32

I didn't tell anyone with my first pregnancy but miscarried at 13 weeks and wished I had done as it was so hard explaining to people. So after that, I told everyone I saw (except for work obviously) as soon as I saw them after I got the BFP. I needed the support tbh. And yes my pregnancy tests are all in a box and they still have lines on them ...

Congratulations by the way

susiey · 20/03/2010 09:33

I have always waited till 12 weeks and when I misscarried in June I was really pleased I did.We have had 2 successful pregnancies before this and thankfully am now 15 weeks pregnant with DC3
We had only told really close friends and our immeadeate family but even having to tell them was heart breaking and we had to in some cases deal with their grief as well(rightly or wrongly)
so it a case of each to his own but you have to be prepared for things to go wrong people reactions to that

EmmaBemma · 20/03/2010 09:34

There's no "should" or "shouldn't" about it - I wouldn't personally, but it wouldn't bother me if someone else did.

Trafficcone · 20/03/2010 09:36

The OP said it was a digital test. The digitial tests go blank after about an hour.

farmerjones · 20/03/2010 09:39

i have a fb friend who announced she was going to try for a baby. hows that for oversharing?

waiting until the actual result came back positive seems to be positively archaic...

i waited until the 12 week mark to tell close friends and family myself

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 09:43

Thank you LadyBiscuit

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RockbirdisdrinkingGuinness · 20/03/2010 10:06

I have my test too. It was a digital one so it's blank but it's still in dd's box with her name tags and scan pics. Wonder what she'll make of that when she's older

each to their own on the fb thing though. I personally wouldn't show pics of the stick, that's a little too personal for me but we told key people as soon as it happened.

mrsbean78 · 20/03/2010 12:58

I have my test too.
All 11 of them
I removed the bit I weed on though.
And wrote the date beside the result.

mrsbean78 · 20/03/2010 12:59

I had to tell my boss at 5 weeks, too! Slapped cheek virus in a school I was working in.. she was very good about it!

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cluckyduck · 20/03/2010 13:04

Oh Writing the date on is a really nice idea I will steal that if that's ok!

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