Pregnancy test pictures on FB?

[cluckyduck]

A friend has just posted a photo of her clearblue digital pregnancy test on facebook. It shows she she conceived 1-2 weeks ago. It's a recent result, she is only just pregnant.

AIBU to think this is a bit early to be sharing such information with so many people? So much can go wrong . I don't want to be a boring cow, but shouldn't you keep it private for a while?

Duelling Fanjo in that instance you would be justified in hiring a marching band for your announcement

I hope it all works out for you.

I wouldn't announce a pregnancy on fb in the first place, let alone a pic of a test.

I would only tell a few people before 13 weeks, first pregnancy told all group of close friends, a couple of DP's close friends and my family. Were going to tell DP's family, didn't get time before we went on holiday, mc'd on holiday so came back and had to tell his mum I'd been pregnant and mc'd. It would have been awful if I'd told many more people than that.

2nd pregnancy we only told my parents and my close friend, I think I knew it wouldn't work out and was glad it was only a few people to tell after I mc'd.

Personal preference like so many have said but I completely disagree with fiveisanawfullybignumber - it's not 'precious' to not tell people, I think that's a very unkind thing for you to say really.

I am planning to keep my news off facebook for as long as possible, although I expect it will be outside my control a bit once friends and family know.

Its partly because I'm a very private person, I cope best with grief when I can deal with it privately and pretend I'm ok to the rest of the world. Thats just how I cope and expect what I would need if something goes wrong, its not a judgement on other people who cope by sharing though. That's not being 'precious', its just knowing myself well enough to know what I would cope best with

Another reason why I want to keep it off facebook is that I am conscious that there are people on there I know of (and probably some that I don't) who would desperately like a child of their own but either are struggling ttc/ not met the right person yet/ or other reasons, and I don't want to rub it in their faces all the time.

But, pregnancy is also a happy and exciting time, and lots of people do want to share the excitement with their friends and family, and often these days friends and family are scattered. So I do sort of understand why some people choose to put it all on there, and I will be putting a few baby pics on there (if all goes well) as we have close family and friends scattered all over the place, who really will want to see these.

Yeah... bit odd... I mean, I guess it's personal choice and all that but couldn't you just say 'Guess what everyone? I'm pregnant!' instead of taking a photo of a little stick you just marked with your pee and posting it up there with the holiday pics...

I find the whole 'wait 12 weeks' thing very odd. I think it is a very English thing as I had not heard of it until coming to this country (from South Africa). Back home we would tell every one immediately and have a party. People would start buying gifts straight away, but here my MIL was very when I started buying things for DD from the minute I found out I was pg. She did buy anything until hers were born, I assume she thought it was unlucky or tempting fate or something. Just a cultural difference I think?

Obviously that should read "did not buy anything"... sticky pastry fingers - oops!

well hell why not show the stick? people think posting photos of newborns + knackered looking mum immediately on fb as if its compulsory to share EVERYTHING on that bloody site whther its appropriate or not!!

maybe thats another rant :-)

Cheez - we do the 12 week thing in Scotland too

If people want to share parts of their life on Facebook, what's the problem?

I can understand why you might want to keep aspects of your life quiet, but there seems to be a snobbery around Facebook/blogging.

I like hearing about people's lives and seeing their photos. It's more entertaining and interactive than a soap opera and if they're closer friends, it's a nice thing. Facebook can also bring you closer to people who were just acquaintances and then you find you share lots of interests.

If everyone was so precious about their privacy, there would be no TV, no autobiographies and probably no magazines. There would also likely be much less theatre, poetry, art and writing in general. It's just another medium, isn't it? But a bit more accessible than going through a publisher.

because fb can sell your pictures

When DH and I found out I was pregnant we agreed to wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone.

At 8 weeks the midwife said I would lose the baby.

A few days later we had a scan which showed baby with a heartbeat.

I suggested to DH that we should tell his parents straight away as I wanted them to have the enjoyment of knowing there was a baby on the way even if I then miscarried.