to think that if you are off sick with severe exhaustion/morning sickness then you perhaps shouldn't go to a wedding?

[Ceebee74]

I am totally sympathetic to people being off sick when pregnant - I know how bad it is plus the person in question has 2 other DC under 4 so no wonder she was exhausted

However, I am not sure if it was appropriate to attend another colleagues wedding in the middle of her sick leave? When she returned to work, she told us it was that bad, she couldn't get out of bed for 3 weeks etc - yet she managed to get out of bed, get ready, attend a wedding (afternoon and evening) until at least 10pm and, by all accounts, look pretty good aswell.

Am I being a bitch to think badly of her??

YABU
HG is till treated with such suspision. I had HG through my pregnancy and was signed off for a month as tiredness was making it worse.When I returned to work I was absent at least once a fortnight due to being hospitalised and often late when I was ok. I struggled in and just about coped with my work. I was often sick in the toilets. I was shocked at the number of women who were downright rude to me, making snidey comments and one even reported me to HR incase they weren't aware as I hadn't been disciplined for my absences! Thankfully my line manager and boss were both brilliant but I did struggle in as I felt I was letting the team down and some attitudes really didn't help.
Give the woman the benefit of the doubt. Coping with a one off event is nothing like coping with a full time job

When I was pg with Dd, I suffered HG and still went to my Sils wedding !

I begged to be dis-charged from hospital (and was) I was told to make sure I went for a rest half way through and call it a night as soon as I got tired.
I went and lasted pretty well.
Felt like crap for the next week but it was bloody worth it because it is very deppressing having HG and missing out one evrything can make it feel worse.

ceebeeyes you did hit a raw nerve because it really upset me and still does, at how many people thought I had a bad morning sickness. Well, to some extend I did, depending on your definition of morning sickness which as said by some is sometimes only differentiated by whether the gp has identified it as such. I hauled my ass into work for weeks and weeks puking and hardly functioning because i felt i was letting my colleagues down. And then it got so bad I could barely get up without being sick and those people who i felt i was letting down bitched and gossiped anyway, and probably felt i was letting them down as I was feeling a little sick despite the ultra effort i put. I realised then that I could not think about what they thought at all as it made me feel worse that my illness was not taken seriously, so yes, I probably would have gone to the wedding, as being invited to a wedding means a closeness deeper than just colleagues. And, i would have looked bloody marvellous with lots of make-up on and my hair done, as I was skinny with a nice little round bump even if I felt like death warmed up.

getorfmoiland glad i made you laugh! I love the words 'gallavant'

badgardner i so agree. I too recall vomiting next to a cow pat, then covering it with sawdust from the compost toilets to stop the foxes getting it in the night! Life went on.

But ceebee i apologise for being so snippy