to think my neighbour should give them back?

[Tiredmumno1]

Right i just needed some advice and whether anyone has been in this situation. Months before the end of last year my kids had kicked a few balls (by accident) into our neighbours jungle/rubbish tip garden, but havent thrown them back, even though i asked, i am so sick of it. There is no point in knocking again they never answer the bloody door. Surely this is theft. wwyd.

possession is nine tenths of the law. i.e. if it lands on their property they are not obliged to give it back.

They might currently be "in possession"-but that doesn´t mean they own it!

I apologise if I have breached some unwritten 'nettiquette' by contributing to this thread - which is all I was seeking to do; I was not looking to 'resurrect' it - having only just joined Mumsnet, I had not previously seen it.

Furthermore, I am not aware of any time limits which may apply but, should they exist, perhaps some kind soul could direct me to the rules which pertain. As the thread is not closed, I assumed my own contribution would not be unacceptable, given its relevance to the topic.

Once again, I sincerely apologise [BoysAreLikeDogs] if I have committed a dreadful faux pas.

Oh yawn, how boring. been there done that. (i am talking bout this thread)

tiredmum = crazed woman, stand back

you tell 'em bizzzybee. Post away on threads as old as you like and tell the old goats to shut it.

Children need to be taught respect for other people's rights and property, including gardens. We used to have the problem of footballs being kicked into our garden, even hitting our windows at times, and the teenagers who led the group of kids simply refused to go away. Of course if a window had got broken we wouldn't have seen them for dust.

I don't understand parents who allow their kids, both young and older, to behave like this. Their attitude seems to be that kids have rights, but of course they don't seem to subscribe to the idea that all rights have corresponding responsibilities. No wonder we hear on the news some dreadful stories of vulnerable people's lives being ruined by young people who think it is clever to torment their elderly or sick neighbours. If they haven't been taught to respect others, if they think it's ok to do just as they want and that anyone who objects is a fuddy-duddy old fogey, then it's hardly surprising some of them take this attitude to extremes.

you are not seriously pulling this up again, oh come on.

and btw they were neither elderly or sick, just lazy

what do you want young children to do just sit quietly?

Iseult40 puts it SO well!

People need to respect others. Kicking one ball over is an accident and it is only polite for the neighbour to give the ball back.

But if a neighbour's children kicked a few balls into my garden, I wouldn't give them back!

The noise is irritating and the balls damage people's plants/ornaments/frighten their pets and that is not acceptable.

Your children should play football in the park where they have enough room to really kick and run about.

Its not a matter of locking them up or making them sit quietly 24/7 you just need to be a bit more respectful of other people's feelings.

i am really a lovely person but seriously go away. my kids have respect for others thank you.

and its not always possible to take them to the park. so they can play in the garden with whatever toys they like.

meh

YABU, and quite unpleasant.

I spend months raising plants from seed and planting them in my garden. If some kid kicks a ball into my garden and breaks one of my plants, then they are not getting the ball back. Maybe that would get the message across that I don't consider it in any way acceptable that you damage my stuff, on my property.

Why do you think that if you dump your stuff onto someone else's land, the onus should be on them to return it to you?

difference being, no ones property has been damaged, and they have no flowers growing unless they are in the midst of the fence high weeds.

I feel like we've been here before... If only DD slept all day like she did when this thread first came about I might actually get some mumsnetting cleaning done.

Just had police round asking for ball back.
I have spent 14 years, yes 14 YEARS, listening to the ball thudding against my fence and coming over and damaging plants.
I lost it last week and stabbed the football.
Kids came round and very cheekily asked for ball back. Said no. Told them I had enough after 14 years. Dad came round and asked and said it was theft. Came round again and started on my mum. Both times we shut the door.
Then he shouted down the street it was theft and I told him I was not discussing it, Said he was going to the police.
Another ball came over Friday and hit my mum while she was sitting in garden.
I think that I have kept a lid on it quite well over this length of time. My fence is damaged and the balls hit the plants and veg we are growing on a regular basis. It also bounces in through the back door on a regular basis.
Think I am going mad. I have two kids but they never got on the neighbours' tits like my neigbours do.

Cannot believe the police came round. Told him that he will have to arrest me next time cos he said I HAVE TO RETURN THE BALL.

Soyouneed - I can't believe you didn't crack years ago! Tis the one thing that drives me demented around the twist - neighbours children thudding the football against our fence, breaking it and also my plants as it lands in our garden.

(and breathe)