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To want my first mothers day to NOT be crap

57 replies

mrsflux · 14/03/2010 09:30

I got a card made by nursery. That's it. Nothing else different to normal.
Oh and I got thrown up all over as ds has d and v still.

Today sucks.

Yes I know I'm being silly and unreasonable but I can't help it and I'm pretty sure mothers day gets less and less nice as the dc get older.

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MrsJamesMcAvoy · 14/03/2010 09:33

My have been constant source of disapointment. This year has been a right let down. Very sorry for myself!

I too am waiting for a nice mothers day.

LittleMrsHappy · 14/03/2010 09:36

Sorry your feeling this way, Im not a fan of mothers day, I DONT need a day to tell me Im a mother or to have it celebrated so a card company can make money, Im a mother 24/7 and I get recognized for it, everyday It another commercialised day for me.

So Im up with the DC while hubby gets a lie in as hes worked 11 days off the trot, and when they eventually wake, were going to get ds1 is TV bracket for his room, and then im back to tiding/sorting dc clothes lol x

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mrsflux · 14/03/2010 09:39

It would be nice to be fussed over just a little- even a cup of tea in peace would be nice.
I'm especially miffed as I made a big fuss of dh for fathers day. I'll not be doing that again.

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PrivetDancer · 14/03/2010 09:39

I'm very happy with my card made at nursery.

I think you need to lower your expectations and life will be a lot more pleasant.

sarah293 · 14/03/2010 09:39

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PrivetDancer · 14/03/2010 09:41

Well yes that last post is relevant - I don't make a big fuss of Father's Day and don't expect one in return. Ditto Valentine's Day!

BravoJuliet · 14/03/2010 09:42

yanbu, but they're all crap!! this is my 7th.

my kids woke me up at 7am with flowers, lovely, but i had to get out of bed and put them in water. thanks guys, but arghghghh. I would have preferred half an hour more sleep.

but it does make me think, I am glad I'm a mother. I could easily not be. It doesn't work out for everyone. I am grateful I have them.

BravoJuliet · 14/03/2010 09:44

Privet Dancer, my son made me a card and I said 'oh lovely, did you make that?'. He said 'no, pamela did'. (TA). so i have a card from Pamela. That's nice!

Longtalljosie · 14/03/2010 09:45

This is about your DH, though, isn't it? He should have made a bit of effort to thank you for all you've done this year. YANBU.

PrivetDancer · 14/03/2010 09:48

How lovely of Pamela

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mrsflux · 14/03/2010 09:48

longtalljosie that's it. I'm not cross with ds as he's only 11mo! Dh has obviously put in no thought. That's what's annoying me

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mrsflux · 14/03/2010 09:49

What would we do without TAs and nursery workers?!?

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Longtalljosie · 14/03/2010 09:57

Tell him then. I got some very nice presents and a lie-in. However, I made it pretty clear I was expecting both!

SpitSpot · 14/03/2010 10:07

Mothers Day doesnt get less nice it gets better as dc get older!

I spent my first few mothers days being disappointed with dh making no effort on their behalf (and getting cards made by nursery staff) but once they can make their own it is lovely - this year ds(6) made me a lovely card and had written inside "To the best mummy in the world" and even dd(3) had attempted to write her name inside hers.

Also they made dh take them out to buy me flowers yesterday so they could bring them to me in bed this morning. So it can improve!

CamelBladder · 14/03/2010 10:12

I was awoken at 6.35 am with a wrapped present and a demand for breakfast

It was a pink pinny with a few quality street shoved in, very nicely wrapped

I paid 2.50 to the school and they organised the whole thing

I also got a lovely hand painted card (from school, by ds1) and a lovely collage card (from preschool, by Ds2)

And for the single mums amongst us, it's lovely lovely thing they do

GingaNinja · 14/03/2010 10:25

YANBU.

F**k all in this house (and it's the first one), not even a cup of tea and god forbid I ever get a lie in, but I'm hoping that next yr or yr after will feature something 'made' in nursery - don't care what, it'll be treasured.

Oh, and Father's Day is now cancelled. (DD is 9.5 mo so last year I knew that DH would be a daddy by 21st June even if I was massively overdue so I bothered to get him something he really really wanted. Lesson learnt - won't be wasting cake money on him again )

gingerbreadlatte · 14/03/2010 10:27

Whoever said, lower your expectations has it right.

I had nursery made card. DD is 1 so she'd "painted my portrait" on the front. I was thrilled.

DH did help DD to get me gifts though, but I'd never expect it.

This isnt quite my first mother's day. I was pushing out an 11 lb baby on mother's day morning last year!

LeQueen · 14/03/2010 10:33

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fluffyguineapigs · 14/03/2010 10:36

No YANBU, hubby sleeping off a hangover at a friend's house after leaving 24 hrs ago to go to a stag do. DS woke up screaming giving me 4.5 hrs sleep.

My dh did give me a bunch of tulips a few days ago but did say 'you know that's for mothers day - there is nothing else'.

In between biting my breasts and putting his fingers up my nose my son has smiled sweetly at me which was nice; however that is not the point, I have done all night feeds and all childcare, and it would have been really nice to be taken out anywhere - even wetherspoons - and be told that I'm doing a great job etc.

Instead my first mothers day is spent on my own, and when my dh eventually staggers in he will no doubt just collapse in bed and sleep till evening. Bye bye lie-in, bye bye lunch out, bye bye cooked dinner, happy mothers day

Mimile · 14/03/2010 10:44

same here FGP, DH has left me on my own with DD. I am coughing my lungs out and have lost my voice. Meanwhile, he is on the road somewhere, going to collect some random ebay purchase of his (not for me, something for his shed)...

lowrib · 14/03/2010 10:46

congratulations gingerbreadlatte on being a mum for a year!

And happy birthday little gingerbreadlatte !

BigWeeHag · 14/03/2010 10:47

I had Mothers Day yesterday, because DD (6) was SO EXCITED about the card she had made, I had to have it then! Lovely. DS1 hid the present he had made for 0.4 seconds coming out of Nursery on Friday, then handed it to me, it was also lovely.

Gave myself a lie-in this morning by neglecting the children

snugglejunkie · 14/03/2010 10:55

YANBU. It is your first one after all! After that, maybe set your sights a little lower...

Whilst being stitched up immediately after giving birth to DS, I quite firmly screamed stated that I fully expected Carbonnel et Walker Marc de Champagne truffles on Mother's day for this.

Fast forward 4mths, and that's exactly what I got. plus brekkie in bed.
Am making the most (still in bed with napping DS next to me) as not exactly holding my breath for repeat performance next yr!

BustleInYourHedgerow · 14/03/2010 10:56

It's my first too and I told P (he's not getting a D today, no way!) to get up with DS when he woke at 6:30.

'Oh but I'm in work at 8 and I want to sleep until half seven' says he.

Never mind the fact that half seven is a great lie in for me and I get up every single day and night with DS.

Never mind the fact that I am working 3-10 today and will be wrecked at the end of it.

Although I got a really nice card with DS's handprint in it

And this. ????

Which is a strange present and not one I would ever read. And I haven't read a book since DS was born, I haven't had time!

So it's a kick in the teeth getting a shit book that I will never ever read anyway, even if I had the time, which I don't.

Phew. That feels better.