To want my first mothers day to NOT be crap

[mrsflux]

I got a card made by nursery. That's it. Nothing else different to normal.
Oh and I got thrown up all over as ds has d and v still.

Today sucks.

Yes I know I'm being silly and unreasonable but I can't help it and I'm pretty sure mothers day gets less and less nice as the dc get older.

well my kids went to their dads at 11am. At 3 and 2 they dont have a clue what day it is and promptly spent the usual 3 hours this morning shrieking/fighting/trashing their toys.

I was hoping for at least something from the ex on their behalf (he did for my birthday and christmas), but not even a happy mothers day. Spent an hour in tears on my own in my car (first mothers day as a single mum) and hoping he's got the sense to at least get a card from the kids by the time I go get them at 6pm. (he went to his mums for mothers day yesterday, so not like he's oblivious to the day)

But at least I have a day of quiet, and an adult tea with my own mum later. and DS1s nursery worker made me a card with DS (he wrote his own name and decorated it) as she knew I was on my own which was lovely when I got it on Tuesday.

Problem is you cannot force things to go a certain way on a specific day, life is just not like that.

I wanted a lie-in, wanted the kids to be calm and quiet and sleep til a good time. Instead they woke up ridiculously early, DD had an argument about card making while I attempted to sleep. But I got breakfast in bed. DH was watching gp, and now gone to give a friend a lift somewhere, DS is playing libraries and I have not had lunch yet. So will probably have to make it myself. it is just how it goes.

On other days, it all goes absolutely perfectly, like friday despite being very tired, I had the best day with the children. You just cannot plan it.

Oh and I mean, YANBU to want it to be lovely, but a bit U to think it has to happen (ie, your little one cannot help having D&V)

Well dp just sent me a 'ring me' and when i called spent 10 mins waffling on about shite before i had to ask 'Did you at least remember to say Happy Mother's Day to your mother seeing as you clearly haven't remebered to say it to me?'

his response?

'Oh shit yeah, sorry babe... Happy Mothers Day, i forgot it was mothers day for you too'

Have to admit that I have got into the habit of doing a certain bit of directing

Have never forgotten my Mum's 50th when she provided no directions, my father failed to provide suitable celebrations and everybody was thoroughly miserable in consequence. I am not going to take the risk of that happening in this family through my expecting people to be mindreaders.

As a result, I have had breakfast in bed at a reasonable hour (my fear was more that dd would oversleep and I would have to spend the whole day in bed waiting for my cuppa). Then a walk in the woods with dh (dcs can't really walk much). Dh was going to cook leek pie for supper ("we must use those leeks up"), but after sufficiently heavy hinting he rushed out on another expedition to the shops and there is now rather an interesting looking chicken is now marinading in the fridge.

The only thing that has happened to spoil the day is that the little boy nextdoors is ill with a ruptured appendix- so his poor Mum is not having much of a Mother's Day.

DD (Demon teenager from hell, see teenager thread) is now making truffles for me because she knows I love them, has produced lovely card and bought me exactly what I wanted. I so love her. In fact, I'm feeling so happy I'm going to go and visit the mother and MIL with some of the truffles and spread the love.

Aww so sorry some of you have had a shit day. You really should have words with your husbands, its not a lot to ask to get a bit of appreciation. I got a lie in with the papers and croissants. Ds made me a card and bought me a bath bomb out of his pocket money. And dh bought me a lovely card and took me out for a fab lunch. He also cleaned the kitchen while I was having a lie in. And of course I'll spoil him rotten on father's day too. In previous years when we've been skint, breakfast in bed and a bunch of daffs has been just as good.