To want my husband to STOP TALKING when I have already told him that I don't care and don't want to talk about what he wants to talk about?

[heQet]

Go on, sock it to me

We were talking about police and whether they are, basically, military.

I think yes, he thinks no.

Anyway, I said I don't care, not interested and don't see the point in continuing the conversation. He thinks what he thinks, I think what I think and I'm bored now.

But he is still talking at me! Despite my very bluntly saying "I don't care" and "I don't want to talk about it any more, I'm done." etc, he's saying "Yes..." and then carrying on with the whole police thing!

I'm not interested. It's pointless. What more to say once opinions have been exchanged? You're just going over and over the same thing. And I don't care about it anyway!

Clearly he thinks I am unreasonable.

So should he let it go once I've had enough or should I have conversations on topics I don't care about or continue a conversation after the exchange of facts / pov when I've lost interest?

Actually, typing it out - I am quite arrogant, aren't I?

YABBU

maybe distract him by pinching his bottom?

Think of all the things you want to talk about and he doesn't. Does he tell you to shut up because he's bored?

a mate of mines h has to tell ehr about work EVERY DAY
she HAS to listena dn pretend to be interested

to be fair, I didn't say "shut up".

I said "I don't care. Why are you still talking about this?"

He said "I know you don't" and carried on

And if I am talking about something he doesn't care about, he changes the subject.

But it doesn't happen very often because I don't like long conversations.

I like - state my opinion.
hear a reply
conversation over

or state a fact
conversation over

or hear something
reply
conversation over

If I get into a long back and forth, I've forgotten what was said first off, by the time we're halfway through.

It's me that's unreasonable. Yup.

This is funny because I was just thinking earlier about things I often say to ds's dad.
He'll start talking about something on the news or the weather or something to do with his work and I find myself saying "yeah, I'm really not interested" or "I dont care".

I actually thought, as I often do, what would an aibu thread on this turn out like. I decided not to find out.

It sounds bad doesn't it? Oh well, I dont actually care.

Obviously yanbu.

Yes, it does. He has worked hard to teach me to stop saying "I don't care" on the grounds that - even if it's true - it's rude. I say it far less often than I used to.

I just cannot seem to bring myself to have conversations on topics that are not of my choosing or even if they are, to continue them past the point at which I'm done.

Gawd. How the hell does he stand me?

Oh well now I feel a bit bad because at least you only resort to saying this after the conversation has reached a certain point.
Whereas this is my first and only contribution to the conversation.

Tell him. Walk away. Anything!

My father is like this and will talk for hours (literally) about his favourite subjects when it is absolutely clear no one is listening.

My mother told him at the beginning of their relationship apparently that she loved to hear him talk about his favourite things and would feign immense interest in him.

Put him straight now!

Saying that I do this to DH and he still talks at me in great detail

Oh, not always JV! It used to be straight away! If he attempted to engage me on a topic I didn't care about, I would say "I don't care".

Not being rude, just a simple statement of fact - I don't care!

But I have (mostly) been trained out of that now just left with forcing myself to continue to participate in conversations past the initial exchange of information.

I mean - what's the point? I know what he thinks and he knows what I think - after we've done that bit in a conversation, what's left? You're just repeating yourself!

Heqet I am exactly the same. I cannot stand long drawn out conversations. I want facts and I want them succinctly.

DH will explain every point of his conversation to me as if I am three years old and it drives me nuts! Tell me the main points then shut up about it please!

Offer him sex. That will shut him up.

peppa - he does that when he's been drinking! All he wants is an audience! I remember one time - think I posted about it (surprise surprise!) where he reduced me to tears because he just wouldn't leave me alone, even though I was begging him to!

hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha pennies, oh you have no idea how funny that is.

Yanbu

dh has been known to follow me from room to room relentlessly ranting and talking shite about various subjects I find either mind numbingly boring, or else a subject on which our views are so polarised there is no point to the discussion.

Irritating in the extreme.

I don't drivel on at him about dancing class or nice shoes or special offers on shampoo. I save that sort of talk for friends who I know are interested.
Wtf would I want to know the difference between an automatic or semi automatic weapon for?
Just SHUT UP fgs.

I have a very clear memory from when I was a teenager of my dad ringing home from somewhere and starting talking to my mum. She simply put the phone down and walked away. Every 20 minutes or so she would go back and say 'mmm, yes' etc.

He never realised

You have to put a stop to it now

I feel your pain and my dh's lack of social awareness. Yanbu

This thread has realy made me laugh.

My Dh tells very long stories and has opinions about everything. I switch off, say mmm and nod my head now and again. He also reads bits from the newspaper or internet to me .

I love him dearly but his talking drives me mad.

YANBU

YANBU.

I'm currently talking to a friend online who is rambling on about what rpm and what ratio of gage would be needed to turn a small motor, or something like that. I can't understand a word of it.

I love my husband desperately. But like yours, he has a weird OCD tendency to whitter on fucking endlessly when he really gets the bit between his teeth about something (usually some very arcane aspect of electoral law, or an anecdote I have heard twice and not laughed at already).

Have you discovered ITV4 and/or the Dave channel? "Auf Wiedersehen, Pet" is on ITV4 right now. It's keeping DH amused.

In some small way, I take comfort from the fact that it is not just me that has to put up with this shit

Last Monday, for example, he phoned me at work to tell me with great delight that it was now 4.12pm and therefore Gordon Brown had bottled his last possible opportunity to call upon her Majesty for a cup of char to call an election for Maundy Thursday, which would have given him a 4 day weekend to stitch up a coalition in the event of a hung parliament.

Yes, lovely dear, I am actually trying to draft someone's divorce petition at this precise moment, nothing important.

You are all saying YANBU because it is Heqet. Obviously she is BU. It's awful when people completely disregard what you are saying. My Mother did it to me all the time. She would offer her opinion and that was that. She never actually asked my opinion nor does my dp.Leads to people feeling that their opinion does not count, or in fact they don't actually have an opinion worth counting.

I really don't do celebrity MNer shite. Everyone has an opinion worth listening to - once. Some people, particularly men, are mind numbingly repetitive and there is absolutely no reason why they should be pandered to.