To want my husband to STOP TALKING when I have already told him that I don't care and don't want to talk about what he wants to talk about?

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Go on, sock it to me

We were talking about police and whether they are, basically, military.

I think yes, he thinks no.

Anyway, I said I don't care, not interested and don't see the point in continuing the conversation. He thinks what he thinks, I think what I think and I'm bored now.

But he is still talking at me! Despite my very bluntly saying "I don't care" and "I don't want to talk about it any more, I'm done." etc, he's saying "Yes..." and then carrying on with the whole police thing!

I'm not interested. It's pointless. What more to say once opinions have been exchanged? You're just going over and over the same thing. And I don't care about it anyway!

Clearly he thinks I am unreasonable.

So should he let it go once I've had enough or should I have conversations on topics I don't care about or continue a conversation after the exchange of facts / pov when I've lost interest?

Actually, typing it out - I am quite arrogant, aren't I?

MoreCrack, but are you both happy with that arrangement? If you are, who's to judge? I am desperate for DH to get his own tv so that I don't have to watch what he wants to in the evening - mostly it's ok, we coincide fairly well (and he spends most of it on the computer reading football shite news anyway - but on the odd occasion it would be nice not to have to put up with some of the stuff he wants to watch (especially when it clashes with Ugly Betty etc.)

Dp is watching football and trying to tell me what the offside rule is, I dont care what it is or what conversions are (during the rugby yesterday) but i was listening and asking questions and showing interest.

So tonight im going to dig up a long thread and try telling DP all about it and see how many posts he lets me read out to him before he says anything

ooh no, MGC - you have the wrong idea there - that's a very funny thread! Find one on Style and Beauty about handbags, or WOHM vs SAHM or something of far less interest to him!

Ah but DP switchs off as soon as he hears the word mumsnet so i think any thread would do it but maybe your right i should pick something thats not so funny, that one had me crying with laughter

me too, MGC, me too! I visited that BirdWorld (or whatever it's called) a short while after and was snickering quietly to myself about "Jane" while we watched the penguins!

Thumbwitch we are happy with the arrangement

I suspect our relationship wouldn't have lasted twelve years without a second tv.
Actually I am more concerned with the idea of watching seperate tvs than with the reality of it. In fact the reality of watching programmes I want to see on my own in the lounge is pretty perfect.

Me and DP watch quite a bit together but each have programmes that the other dont like so while im watching my programmes DP will go watch a dvd or play on the playstation and if he's watching something i'll go for a long hot bubble bath, watch dvds or MN I dont see anything wrong with that.

YANBU reasonable to want your DH to shut up but that is only because he is embarrassing you by being right.

Of course he is BU if you live in Russia, Cuba, North Korea, Burma, China, Syria, Saudi Arabia, Pakistan or one of the myriad other places that are police states rather than a State with an accountable police force that occasionally does things you don't particularly like.

That's nicking you for speeding rather than wiring your genitals up to electrodes for voting the wrong way, BTW.

The other general test for a free state is whether you are allowed to disagree with your husband.

My DH sometimes does what you did OP- we are in the middle of a (sometimes fairly heated) discussion and he will end it when I am still trying to explain my views. He'll say things like 'well we'll just have to disagree' or 'there's no point in talking about it any more'. And I HATE it. It's not that he doesn't agree with me- no problem with that at all- it's when he doesn't understand what I'm saying or why I care, and doesn't think it's worth finding out. So I'm glad that you apologised.