To wish my colleague wouldn't do this.

[swanandduck]

I work part time for a publishing company and there are six of us on my team. Two of us have young children and the other Mum is constantly saying she can't do this and she can't do that because she has kids. I remember, before I had dc, how annoyed I used to get when working mums assumed I had no life outside work and should always be available to provide early morning or late evening cover, travel miles to a meeting or cover the Christmas/New Year holiday. I therefore am paranoid about not doing this to my colleagues now and making sure I pull my weight as much as possible and remember to thank people if they do oblige in some way. This colleague really treats people without children as people without lives and just assumes they will fit in with her circumstances all the time. I'm starting to feel a growing resentment in the team and once or twice pointed remarks have been made about 'working mothers'. I feel I'm being tarred with the same brush as her. AIBU to wish she'd stop doing this and be a bit more considerate and professional?

swanandduck, we have the same reqiurement for morning/evening/Christmas cover, and it is so hard as a manager to cover these. Christmas cover can't be 'taken in turns' as the staff turnover is so high. Luckily recently we've had one woman who didn't celebrate Christmas and was happy to come in and one miserable git who wanted to be away from his wife Mornings aren't a problem but everyone seems to want to come in early and leave early. Most people accept that someone has to stay until 5 and do their share, but some don't. Not sure what the answer is really.

is she aware that this is causing some resentment?

why are people so afraid to discuss things, maybe she truely believes she is doing her fair share?

otherwise mention it to the management rather than letting it fester on in this unproductive manner

I think the only fair way round this is to have a rota of stay lates for general office cover. Then it's irrelevant if she got there early/had a short lunch.

I don't think you can do anything about weekend conferences as that is probably unreasonable to demand anyone do that (assuming normal office type role). If attendance is mandatory then it is for the line manager to address.

I think the line manager should deal with any refusal to attend a meeting that goes on beyond 4. There is normally a protocol about this. In our office, you would be expected to attend if it were scheduled to 5, if you were scheduling after this you would ask if people minded.

I don't think you should speak to her about it directly unless you are the manager of the team. You should bring up concerns with the line manager. TBH the line manager is pretty rubbish if they are not noticing the discontent within the team and addressing it.

We had a support team within our larger team and they had to cover certain hours whilst the rest and the bosses didn't have to (this was not reflected in their pay) so the bosses would do the worst hours e.g. lunchtime to 5 on Christmas Eve. They then get reminded how out of touch they are too lol.