DH and I share childcare of DD. Today was one of my days, but I had to go into work for a couple of hours in the evening. My sister was looking after DD and DH was supposed to be home by 5.30 to take over, do bath and bedtime (usually 6.15) and let my sister go home to have her dinner etc.
As I was leaving work at 6.45 I got a text from him saying that he'd be home in 15minutes! I rang him straight back and he was still on his way home and had basically totally forgotten that he was meant to be at home with DD.
DD wasn't alone, and my sister actually coped really well- she got her bathed and into bed (albeit without her babygro buttoned up and not in her sleeping bag, but in bed and asleep, a minor miracle without her usual full BF before bed!). But I am FURIOUS. I rely on my sister to look after DD once a month for 2 of DH's days when he regularly works away. I need her to feel that she can trust us to be home when we say we will. I know that things come up sometimes, but he didn't even remember that he was meant to be here, he didn't even ring to say that he was going to be late. I hadn't gone through bedtime routine with my sis at all as I thought there as no way she would need to do it.
He has apologised, to me and to her, but I am finding it sooo hard to let it go. It's just not fucking good enough. But what more can he do? I can't bear to sit next to him fuming so have now come to bed to MN and have some space from him.
I need to let it go, don't I? I know I do. Guess it won't feel so immediate in the morning.