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To feel hurt at troll accusations?

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Vivia · 09/03/2010 20:47

I posted a thread this morning that has shocked and saddened many MNers. I was a bit judgmental in my OP because I was in shock. People questioned why a person would come on here and reveal such awful information: I had no one else to talk to.

I made nothing up. I didn't sit weeping all day, that's why I have other random questions on MN today, and nor did I concoct a fantasy world either. As you can all see, I have frequently posted topics on MN and reply to others. I feed biscuits to real trolls, I'm not one!

Certainly my OP was true but perhaps in poor taste or badly worded: I wasn't thinking straight.

I feel physically sick knowing that people here think I would make up a story about a baby being accidentally hurt. I didn't.

People thought that the family involved would be recognizable by location if you figured out where I stay. I have always used the city I lived in as a student as 'home' on here, it's not actually where I am. I revealed nothing by way of identity and am angry to be accused of such.

That said, many people talked me through the sad situation and shared good tips on helping an injured child. You are all lovely.

I'm leaving MN now, decent people should not be made to feel monstrous here.

Thanks.

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MadamDeathstare · 09/03/2010 20:49

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BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 09/03/2010 20:51

There's alot of people on here, it's like life, alot of people with different opinions. So what if you were called a Troll? Alot of people on here have been called this at some point, myself included. There's alot of really lovely people on here aswell so don't let the odd person drive you away. There's alot of support and advice on here, you just have to look past the people who shout troll.

MaureenMLove · 09/03/2010 20:53

That's sad. I read your threas, but didn't post on it, it had already started to get lairy, when I arrived!

I do understand entirely, why you had to post though. You needed to talk to someone and you hoped for some support. Which I think you got in bucket loads actually.

Don't be put off by some posters comments. The majority of them, were in full support of you and tbh, it will be tomorrows chip paper.

Take a break for a couple of days, but really, you have had a very emotional day of it. It muust have been horrid to see, what you saw and you've every right to sound off to the only people you felt you could.

Let it all die down and try to see the bigger picture of MN. It is a wonderful, supportive place. Just like rl, there will always be someone that doesn't agree with what you've said.

Take care.

acebaby · 09/03/2010 20:55

sorry to hear you are going Vivia . I didn't think you are a troll, and nor did most of the people on the thread. I hope you change your mind after a bit of a break...

BrahmsThirdRacket · 09/03/2010 20:57

Honestly, I think some people spend too much time on here. They then jump on people who they think aren't following 'the rules' of MN, want proof of things and get all amateur sleuth about it. It's silly really. I read it, thought 'shit that's really bad' then moved on. Didn't post, nothing to say really.

RedRedWine1980 · 09/03/2010 20:58

Sod it- dont leave because of other people's small minded nasty comments!

2shoes · 09/03/2010 20:59

I think it is sad you feel you need to leave.
what you posted was shocking, so you must have been shocked.
I hope you ignore the attention seekers and decide to stay.

shakingmyfattybumbum · 09/03/2010 20:59

I believed you. Maybe it was easier for some people to not believe you IYSWIM as it was such a terrible thing to contemplate.

Lizzylou · 09/03/2010 21:00

Oh Vivia, don't leave.
Most of us were supportive of you, don't be put off by a few suspicious posters.
You have nothing to feel bad about, have a little break and come back all refreshed, please let us know how the baby is as well (if you find out).

heQet · 09/03/2010 21:00

"decent people should not be made to feel monstrous here."

You are quite right.

There is also no reason on earth why you should stop using mn over this. So some people called you a troll. That's their problem! We've all had the face and a gob-full at one time or another, but MN has a lot going for it that makes up for such incidents.

If you like chatting, like using the resource, then chalk it up to experience, think "bollocks" to the troll criers and carry on posting.

darkandstormy · 09/03/2010 21:00

vivia-I think it has been suggested in the past I am a troll. I am not I just have my own valid opinions as others have theirs. I too read your thread I did not think you were a troll.There are some arrogant types on here who need to get so over themselves.forget it if i were you.they are mean individuals.

MaisietheMorningsideCat · 09/03/2010 21:03

I've just had a look at your thread - all I can say is, ignore them. Really. Rise above it, and move on. As Brahms says, some people do spend more time on MN than is strictly necessary (not me, oh no no no ) and seem to think it's their place to police the place. The (tiny) minority can shout whatever they like - you know the truth, and it seems as if most of the posters also realised it was a genuine post. Stick 2 fingers up at the troll screechers and get straight back onto the MN bike/horse

Amapoleon · 09/03/2010 21:04

I read your thread. It must have turned nasty later on. I didn't think you were a troll. What you saw ,was horrible but it was a good reminder to people to be extra careful. There were a few new mums on your thread that appreciated it.

Troll hunting has become a bit of a past time on here. I remember my first flaming, I never realised I would take it so personally. Luckily in those days, the word troll wasn't bandied about and aibu didn't exist.

Sorry you feel you have to go.

MrsPixie · 09/03/2010 21:04

Vivia I didn't think for one minute you were making it up - I mean why would you? not everyone was like that. You have had a rotten day. Don't leave feeling bad...

RedRedWine1980 · 09/03/2010 21:04

Agree with darkandstormy

ShadeofViolet · 09/03/2010 21:09

Some people honestly have nothing better to do and they like to wear thier troll-hunting badges with pride!

Please dont let it upset you, and dont feel you have to leave MN because of it.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 09/03/2010 21:11

Vivia - I know you feel hurt. I would not have started this thread though. Get it deleted, go away for a bit and name-change, is my advice.

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/03/2010 21:11

Vivia - I posted on your thread. Pretty early on though, when I was on it it seemed full of synpathy. I don't think there was anything wrong with your OP.

Sorry that it all went pear shaped. Don't dereg over this, I know it is harsh to be on the reciecing end but don't let it make you leave MN. I have seen you about and a lot of the time agree with what you say - you seem a good no-nonsnene sort of MNer.

Perhaps take a rest from MN but don't leave

thisisyesterday · 09/03/2010 21:16

Vivia, please don't leave over this.

I read your thread and didn't think you were a troll, and I've been getting increasingly agitated over the past few months at the accusations that fly around over every other post.

Please don't let them win.

I've been sat here since I read your thread wondering whether to e-mail MN about the troll-hunters, because I think it has got out of hand. There is a trolling policy, but no-one sticks to it and this is how it ends... people genuinely coming for support being shot down and made to feel awful.

I hope you're all proud of yourselves. If you thought Vivia was a troll then why not just report to MN? oh no, cos then you don't get to gloat IF you turn out to be right.

damnedchilblains · 09/03/2010 21:20

vivia it's pretty shit the way you were treated on that thread, I didn't believe for one minute you were a troll and tbf I don't really care for the whole troll hunting thing some people have going on here. I agree with Brahms. Even if some of the threads aren't real, very good advice is given to people who might genuinely need it.

I was going to email you when i saw your comment on the other thread to tell you to ignore them but you don't receive them. Seriously, the way some of them speak is tantamount to bullying, I don't doubt one of them will pop up on this thread to tell you to stop whining. It is best to just ignore it and move on. I

QuintessentialShadows · 09/03/2010 21:21

I just dont understand it. Sorry. Another longstanding mumsnetter posted about this yesterday. And today you do too, saying you JUST came back from the cafe and having witnessed this.

RedRedWine1980 · 09/03/2010 21:25

Right on cue...

AitchTwoOhOneOh · 09/03/2010 21:26

haven't read the thread, vivia, and obviously it's up to you if you wish to leave, but with 1000000 users of mn you must expect some of them to be nobs. don#'t let them rule you.

BrahmsThirdRacket · 09/03/2010 21:26

for fuck's sake. Maybe it was TWO DIFFERENT INCIDENTS? It's not beyond the realms of possibility, and even if it is untrue you're never going to find out. I really don't understand why people get their knickers in such a twist over stuff they are never going to be able to prove or disprove. It doesn't even matter anyway

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