I have been a mug. I know I have. But AIBU to think asking someone to babysit on friday night doesn't mean all of saturday morning as well?

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Because I said yes to a friend asking me to babysit her 18 month old on friday night (at mine, for free)and I stupidly didn't give her a pick up time but assumed she would be home in the morning for me to drop him off (she lives down the road).

Now, she is still not home, I have been round twice now, and I had plans for the morning.

I am kicking myself for not saying to her "yes but you'll need to pick him up at 9 as I'm going out in thie morning".

But would you just leave your baby for this long? And would you not bother contacting at all? I don't have a phone number for her, she promised me she would contact me yesterday with a contact number for her but she never did...

YANBU

how annoying

YANBU, hugely piss taking and irresponsible.

V dodgy not leaving contact number.

She hasn't even left a contact number? It does sound like she is taking the mickey somewhat, so YANBU.
But...would you mind babysitting for me next Friday night

Tbh, you both are at fault, I would never have a child without having contact number, and also its only 10am, but maybe I am a minority that if I babysit anybodies children I have them until noon, as I like doing things with the child,and getting them lunch etc...

YANBU

That's out of line.

Hopefully, she's just taking advantage of you. Rather than some more serious reason for her no-show.
But did you really accept someone else's child without contact details? A pick up time?
If nothing else, you will be more prepared and organised next time anyone asks you for the same favour.

Also,did you tell her you have plans?communication is key!

how could she disappear out and not leave a contact number? what if something happened!!

YA 100% NBU

i'd be tempted to tell her we'd been at the hospital all night when she finally bothers to reappear!!

I could never leave my child without a contact number. That's mental. What if you needed to contact her urgently?

Can you walk round to her house and bang on the door?

If I was asked to babysit friday night I would expect them back friday night (or maybe early hours)

cheeky bint!i'd let it be known that that was NOT on.how weird to leave your baby for this long..i'd be desperate to see mine!

Yes nattie,because two worngs make a right

Unless she's under a bus, been abducted by aliens or fallen down a well.

i didnt say i would, just that i would be tempted!!

I know I'm at fault LittleMissHappy.

But unlike you I don't want to spend any time with the child, getting them lunch and stuff, Not when I wasn't asked to babysit on saturday morning.

If someone else babysits my DS for the night, I pick him up first thing in the morning.

I would expect to have child until noon-ish if nothing had been definitely arranged. If she's had a night out, she's probably having a lie in somewhere. Not leaving a contact number for emergencies is not on at all though.

You are limited in what you can do as you have no phone number. Other wise you could say

'I'm ringing SS at ten to report an abandoned child'

'I'm going to sell him to babyfarmers on ebay'

'He's on your doorstep, tied to the bootscraper.

It was only when she dropped him off last night that she told me her phone was broken and she would text me once she got to her friend's house with her friend's number. I wrote down my number for her.

I didn't tel lher I had plans in the morning, I didn't ask her to pick him up at a particular tim, I know I am a mug for doing this. But I hadn't anticipated that she would not text or be home in the morning. I assumed she would have come home last night, gone to sleep , and been there in the morning.

How odd.

You probably should have clarified time but not having a contact number is stupid, I would be more cross about that when she gets back.

the question is, with no number and her not at home, at what point do you start to worry??

I have been to her front door twice now, once at 9am and again judt before ten. She is not in.

If I ask someone to babysit, I tell them what time I'll be home. The latest I've been out so far was for a concert, and as soon as I got there and saw how many support acts there were (no way of finding out ahead of time) I texted to give an ETA.

I can't believe she dropped her kid off without an ETA, let alone a phone number. How could you have a night out without your 18 month old, knowing that the babysitter has no way of making contact if there's an emergency? I can't comprehend that.

Does she like the baby, or has she done a runner?
Had a parent do that to her 10 and 11 year old, they went home to their rented house and found she'd gone. So they walked back to school to ask us what to do.
Mother was located four months later, with a new boyfriend. She wanted a clean slate.

shiny she is a relatively new friend actually, I don't know her that well, she is a neighbor.

I'm not going to worry until after midday, I will just take the baby with me and go out.