I have been a mug. I know I have. But AIBU to think asking someone to babysit on friday night doesn't mean all of saturday morning as well?

[overmydeadbody]

Because I said yes to a friend asking me to babysit her 18 month old on friday night (at mine, for free)and I stupidly didn't give her a pick up time but assumed she would be home in the morning for me to drop him off (she lives down the road).

Now, she is still not home, I have been round twice now, and I had plans for the morning.

I am kicking myself for not saying to her "yes but you'll need to pick him up at 9 as I'm going out in thie morning".

But would you just leave your baby for this long? And would you not bother contacting at all? I don't have a phone number for her, she promised me she would contact me yesterday with a contact number for her but she never did...

Yes, she is irresponsible and yes, she does owe you a reciprocal night/morning of babysitting.

However, I don't think I would be comfortable leaving my child in the care of someone who thinks it is OK to behave the way she has. She has questionable judgement.

Gosh I have a panic attack when leaving DD with her grandparents over night I can't comprehend how you leave an 18 mo with someone you don't know very very well. The safety and comfort of the baby is the biggest concern but another factor is, like overmy's expereince has been, 18mo s are not known for their readiness to sleep! I would feel too bad leaving mine with someone who wasn't family or a very good friend, knowing they were agreeing to a night of sleep deprivation!

Overmy I think you were a bit naive but certainly not BU to be annoyed/worried at this point.

Agree earlybird

I agree, no way would I leave my child with her. Or ever watch hers again.

yay, she just came and picked him up, and appologised profusely, and was really appreciative and grateful.

Now I'm gonna get on with my day and go out!

Glad everything turned out ok.

What was her explanation/excuse? Or do you think she planned it to turn out the way it did, and the two of simply hadn't communicated properly?

that's good - I'd been lurking and worrying! Happy Ending

What a fucking liberty!!
I hope you made her grovel.
ANd what had she been up to?!

I agree with earlybird et al, I wouldn't leave my child with her, nor accept to watch hers again, and I would tell her this, to her face, when she picks up.

Glad she is ok, and won't be be on the news as missing person tonight.
If this is her first child, she may need a friendly guiding hand regarding stuff like leaving emergency contact numbers, a note of permission for medical treatment in an emergency. Sometimes they just do not realize what could happen.
You sound like a nice person.

i find this very uncomfortable, why would she intrust her baby to you if she doesn't no you that well? ( not that your untrustworthy ) i wouldn't let anyone but close close family look after my child for a night out, whatever that is lol.
but seriously, i would of probably phoned SS after 11am.
she should of given you a time that she would be there to pick him up! if she can't do that minimal thing she needs some parenting classes!
i am very

OTTmummA I guess she trusts me and didn't have anyone else to babysit for her. She is a very nice person, just very scatty too, and not quite adapted to motherhood yet.

She has looked after my DS in the past, once for 2 hrs and once for about an hour, and I was completely happy that DS would be fine, but then DS is 7, not a baby, he can take care of himself.

She didn't really give an excuse, just that the party had gone on all night and she hadn't been to sleep yet. Nad her phone had started working again whixh is why she didn't text me a contact number, but I didn't know the phone was working again!

Ah well, I know for the future now. I will not be repeating that!

your a much kinder person than me

OTT or maybe I'm just a mug

thesecondcomning that is truly awful!! I tihnk the situation I had was more a case of really really shit communication and her taking advantage a leeeeetle bit.

I will deifnately not be doing it again though. She did seem genuinely really grateful.

so she hasn't been to sleep all night and is now going to look after the baby all day?
jeezus

For anyone else who might (infrequently) be willing to help a friend, I suppose a cheap PAYG phone with a quid of credit on it might be a solution - top up once every 3 or 6 months and run down the credit yourself.

If some friend comes with a 'dead' phone, you can then supply them with one. If you have it on Orange, they (a) can list numbers that have been called and (b) give you 30 free texts per month sent form the Orange website...

I know it's a bit of a long shot but if it means some peace of mind, and a quick way to ask "Where the f&^%$£* hell are you?" at 8am the next morning, it might be worth 5 to 10 quid buying a used phone on Ebay!

I'm sure you can't tell us thesecondcoming but I'd love to know who it was!

I'm gonna google him

It was never eric clapton!!!! lmao

Secondcoming, one sleb parent whose daughter went to the same school as mine asked me to have her kid for a FORTNIGHT once because 'she had to go to a wedding in France and children weren't invited'.

I had never met her.
FFS!

She couldn't get back because she hasn't been to sleep yet?

They're going to have a fun day then.

Quote "I guess she trusts me and didn't have anyone else to babysit for her. She is a very nice person, just very scatty too, and not quite adapted to motherhood yet"

I am not surprised she doesnt have anyone else to babysit for her if she treats them all this way.

Also there's scatty and scatty.... going out without leaving a contact number, not saying what time she is coming back is boardering on negligent. You don't know each other that well, she is lucky you hadnt phoned the police or social services. Someone not as tolerant or more anxious than you may have.

Poor child.