I have been a mug. I know I have. But AIBU to think asking someone to babysit on friday night doesn't mean all of saturday morning as well?

[overmydeadbody]

Because I said yes to a friend asking me to babysit her 18 month old on friday night (at mine, for free)and I stupidly didn't give her a pick up time but assumed she would be home in the morning for me to drop him off (she lives down the road).

Now, she is still not home, I have been round twice now, and I had plans for the morning.

I am kicking myself for not saying to her "yes but you'll need to pick him up at 9 as I'm going out in thie morning".

But would you just leave your baby for this long? And would you not bother contacting at all? I don't have a phone number for her, she promised me she would contact me yesterday with a contact number for her but she never did...

She's probably stayed at her friends and in bed with a terrible hangover. She'll call you when she surfaces. Next time make sure you get a number and set a time. You are good for doing it. I wish I had neighbours like you

GoblinChild I did think that. Yes she likes the child, she's grest with him, but she hasn't let go of her single life yet and all her friends are single party animals so she was probably just enjoying the freedom last night and is fast asleep somewhere now...

Just wish I had a contac number.

Have just looked in the bag and there are an awful lot of nappies in there!

I will be making sure she repays me with a similarly long babysitting stint that's for sure!!

Abd I will make it clear it was a one off and while I am happy to babysit again it won't be on a friday night and it won't be for the next morning as well. I work with kids all week, I could do without having them around at the weekend too!(ds not included of course)

lol at loads of nappies. There aren't several changes of clothes as well are there?

You are right, she is probably asleep and hungover but its very selfish. Not really fair on the baby either if he doesn't know you that well.

Is she back yet?

Very strange!

She's still not back.

The baby was getting quite upset and tired, I have just put him down for a nap, lay with him until he fell asleep, he is so sweet but I think he just wants to go home, he was pulling me to the fornt door.

Did I mention he was up loads in the night and took ages to settle and then woke up at 6? So I am somewhat sleep-deprived....

Learn from this,dont do any more babysitting for her.

Im just wondering how well you actually know someone you have no contact number for to be looking after their 18 month old overnight the whole thing is disgraceful really

Gosh, that is rather strange. How could she forget to leave a number?

Might something have happened to her?

Has she turned up yet?

I assume she wanted a proper night out so wanted a lie in too?

Still she should have made it clear. A bit odd to just drop off a baby without carefully laid plans.

So no you are not being unreasonable at all.

This happened to me once. A hideously irresponsible girl whose daughter was friends with my eldest would leave her with pretty much anyone and disappear for days on end. I offered once as I was sure she wouldn't do that to me ....she left her on the friday and went to brighton for the weekend where she picked up a herioin habit. By Sunday I thought it may be best to try and ascertain who the childs father was, and finally got him to collect her... very sad story which I could go on about more but won't.

I gotta find out what happens!

You are not at fault. Just because you didnt specify that you didn't want to be taken advantage of, doesnt mean it is alright to do so. It is quite clearly taking the piss, and you shouldn't have to say that this sort of thing shouldnt happen.

the next time she asks you to babysit tell her where to go , poor you & poor baby he's probably missing his mum by now .

Is she back yet?
And how would she feel were she to show up and see your house with yellow police tape all around it.
(wonders if they sell that in joke shops?)

so it's midday - and she's still not home ...

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I'd be fuming by now

Bet she'll be pissed off if you go out with the baby as well

I feel sorry for the baby