to be upset that my friend called me barren

[asteri]

ok so bit of back story, DP and I have been "properly" trying for a baby for 7 months now, although I have been pregnant twice in the past and miscarried both.
My friend found out she was pregnant last year and to be honest we havent really spent that much time together in the past few months (mainly because a few people have left wher I work and I have become really busy and ended up working quite long hours and by the tiem I get home I struggle to want to go out) anyway, she is due to give birth in a two weeks so I popped over last night and took her a gift for the new baby as we will be away when its due. She then said ooooo Ive not seen you for ages, I know it must be upsetting coming over to see me now im pregnant with you being barren and all. errrrr, Im not barren. Am I being overly sensitive or is calling me barren a bit harsh?

your "friend" is quite simply, a cunt

that was my thoughts on reading your op. then read follow up text

don't waste another nanosecond of your life on this "woman". dont give her head space. delete her from your life and your head.

good luck with the ttc hope you don't wait too much longer now. took us many many years but definitely worth every single heartbreaking moment

Ugh, only read OP but how unbelievably rude and hurtful!

My mother called me barren (along with my sisters) when she was resentful that she hadn't been provided with DGC yet! Not good. I was furious and I don't think you're overly sensitive at all to mind.

I haven't read the thread but that is a vile, vile thing to say to anyone. What a cow!

Seriously, have just read the text from her, you NEED to send her Josie's text, you simply can not let her off the hook with that....

No way! CAT me her number.. I'LL send the text..

please???? lemme lemme lemme lemme lemme???

I dont believe it.

that's horrible but sometimes people are just being thoughtless, not actually trying to inflict pain. Anyone who has gone through infertility has collected a few insane comments, I think.
Sorry about your miscarriages. I'm another third time lucky person and I hope you will be too.

Just wanted to say thank you for reassuring me that Im not just being overly sensitive, I have decided to just rise above it and ignore her, I contemplated sending Josies text but skihorse is right, I suppose I have to be careful what I say or how I say it, as it could possibly come out a bit wrong and look like jealousy/bitterness over her happiness, so I think I'll just leave it, ignore her and just get on with it, and if she approaches me, then I will take it from there. But I think I may be better trying to just sraw a line under the whole thing and sacking her off.
Again, thanks for listening to and supporting my rant yesterday, I was just so upset.
And FWIW secondcoming, I know its hard to believe such a situation, If it hadnt happened to me I wouldnt have believed it either but its not "cough,bullshit,cough".

'Barren' is a vile term. I'm not surprised you were upset.

I think when she looks back on this she will be ashamed of herself.

thesecondcoming, seriously, no egging. though I can see why you would think that as no sane person would behave in such a way.

I thought the text was entirely believable, it is the self-justifying babble of someone who wants to push away someone else's emotional upset and get self-righteous instead. I know people who could come out with something like that.

Think distancing yourself from your "friend" is a very good idea. She definitely has issues. Has she any idea how vile she is being? I suspect not, which means the insults will only continue.

By the way, getting pregnant on average takes around a year, so you're still ahead of schedule!

I don't think I'd keep her as a friend.. what an insensitive, smug cow.

asteri

I think trimming this vile bitch is tbe best thing to do, trim trim trim! I think she might try and use the jealousy card but then you simply respond:

I am not jealous, I have many close friends and relatives with babies that I love spending time with with. I just prefer not to spend time with people that make vile and thoughtless comments . bye

good luck BTW with TTC, seven months is early days too, hang on in there

and trust me if you are constantly "far too busy" to see her, but keep the smile on your face this will fuck her off big time!

Good grief, what a horrible comment.
The text is even worse. What a smug self-righteous patronising cow.

Friend clear outs are very good for the soul - makes room for others, who are much more worth it.

How on earth do you know someone like this?

Alternatively you could forward the text to someone, and accidentally copy her in, with words to the effect 'Can you believe this???'

what a bitch,
What an out and out bitch.
I am sorry but I think you need to get some better friends

BTW seven months are nothing, it took over three years with DS2.

Is she still standing?

What an unpleasant woman. Normally I think resounding silence is the best response but given she's "advised" you to keep away until you have got over your "jealousy" that's probably how she's interpret it. Josie's suggestion is a good one.