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to be upset that my friend called me barren

96 replies

asteri · 04/03/2010 08:51

ok so bit of back story, DP and I have been "properly" trying for a baby for 7 months now, although I have been pregnant twice in the past and miscarried both.
My friend found out she was pregnant last year and to be honest we havent really spent that much time together in the past few months (mainly because a few people have left wher I work and I have become really busy and ended up working quite long hours and by the tiem I get home I struggle to want to go out) anyway, she is due to give birth in a two weeks so I popped over last night and took her a gift for the new baby as we will be away when its due. She then said ooooo Ive not seen you for ages, I know it must be upsetting coming over to see me now im pregnant with you being barren and all. errrrr, Im not barren. Am I being overly sensitive or is calling me barren a bit harsh?

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lisianthus · 04/03/2010 16:52

Seriously, copy Long tall josie's wording and text it straight to her. It is perfect. I can't believe the rudeness of this awful, awful woman.

Still when you have a baby yourself and CONTINUE to avoid her, it should hammer the point thought.

Poledra · 04/03/2010 16:53

Asteri, I know you've gone out for tea, but BIN THIS WOMAN. She is a self-centred thoughtless unpleasant bitch and you do not need her in your life. (and also, it took DH and me 13 months to conceive DD1 - sometimes these things just take time. Best of luck).

StewieGriffinsMom · 04/03/2010 16:55

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ilovepiccolina · 04/03/2010 16:57

Agree with sending that text. She sounds about 12.

pigletmania · 04/03/2010 16:58

How smug and insensitive of her

BetsyLittleson · 04/03/2010 17:00

Dump her ass AND egg her house. She's a five star fur lined ocean going bitch and you don't need anyone like that in your life.

I'm sorry to hear of your m/c and I wish you lots of luck TTC.

Caitni · 04/03/2010 17:01

at that text and her original comment - bin her! She sounds horrible, totally self-absorbed, and is about as supportive/sensitive a a plank of wood. She sounds like one of those people who get off on being hurtful to others...

Longtalljosie's response is perfect.

skihorse · 04/03/2010 17:02

Send Josie's text but do not be surprised when she subsequently lays on the waterworks and accuses you of being insensitive/jealous/etc.

What a bloody cow.

5DollarShake · 04/03/2010 17:03

What an utter bitch.

She sounds like she's going out of her way to be a bitch, too.

Send Josie's text and then have nothing more to do with her.

amber1979 · 04/03/2010 17:07

The irony is, no sane person would be jealous of a woman who is as clearly unhinged as this one is.... I can imagine her child being just as "nice" to other children in a few years time...

mmmwine · 04/03/2010 17:13

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Maleeka · 04/03/2010 17:16

Total bloody bitch! To have 2 m/c's behind you and for her to say that?? I'd have slapped her stupid face!

thesecondcoming · 04/03/2010 17:18

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Conundrumish · 04/03/2010 17:27

Horrible woman - that's the sort of language you'd use about an animal.

Ask her where she bought her maternity bra because her udders are looking good in it .

Conundrumish · 04/03/2010 17:32

Yes, send Josie's thread!

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AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/03/2010 17:39

Dump her and if you ever run into her make sure you stop to say hello and remark how she hasnt lost her baby weight.

AnnaSceptic · 04/03/2010 17:41

Is she a complete and utter bitch on a normal day?

Who on earth uses the word 'barren', anyway?

msrisotto · 04/03/2010 17:45

Personally, I'd thank her for the warning that pregnancy clearly makes some people insensitive, self absorbed bitches.

groundhogs · 04/03/2010 17:49

Seriously? For REAL.... ? What a total cow.

I'd not be having anything to do with her. In fact I'd have given her a mouthful back about her insensitivity. With her hormones raging, that'd hit her between the eyes, she'd never forget it.

Actually Josies text is the best thing to do, it deals with the matter and tbh it's something so hideous for one person to say to another, that you have to say something tbh.

In DH country, I kid you not, that'd start a real FIGHT!

FWIW, no-one in their right mind could ever defend a comment like hers, she could cry a lake of tears and still what she said was utterly senseless and totally unnecessary.

Send the text and write her off, you don't need friends like her at all.

capricorn76 · 04/03/2010 17:50

I've just read through this thread and I am OUTRAGED! She is a toxic friend who only keeps you around to make herself feel better by putting you down, I've recently distanced myself from someone very similar. You said that she has form, boasting about how many expensive gadgets she has etc. I'm sure you've got other friends, you don't need this one. She's not even a friend, more of a fiend. When you do have a child, she'll start putting your kid down to elevate hers too. Ditch the witch!

giveitago · 04/03/2010 17:54

Nah - she's being a calculated bitch.

I'd not even bother to respond - delete text from your inbox (I don't believe in holding on to toxic things) - then delete her number.

capricorn76 · 04/03/2010 17:55

Forgot to add that you must tell her that your angry and why. She must not be allowed to go through life talking to people like that without facing the consequences.

Besom · 04/03/2010 17:58

Ditch her.

starkadder · 04/03/2010 18:16

She sounds HORRIBLE. Definitely ditch her.

I'm sorry about the MCs. I had 2 MCs before having my lovely DS. He is great and yours will be too

AliGrylls · 04/03/2010 18:30

asteri, you need to tell her what is wrong with her behaviour. I am assuming that you were friends with her for a reason and that she actually is not even aware of how awful and insensitive she has been.

Sorry to hear about your miscarriages.