My H's XP has named her child the same as our son

[tartyhighheels]

OMFG - my H has just told me that he got an email last night from his French XP saying that her newborn son has been named Lucien - our 15 month old son is named Lucian.

Given the plethora of names available to this highly educated woman, WTF is she doing nicking our name????? She did remark at the time what a nice name it was but this is ridiculous. This is an unusual name here a bit more common in France but in hardly common use.

I am so angry about this. I think I want to actually send her an email and say something (although thinking maybe not a good idea.......)

Is there a "correct" pronunciation? Bloody hell now I am thinking of it again.

I would probably say Looshan (yay Underworld!) but in Oz I have only ever heard it pronounced Loo-cyan. All of the Australian Lucians I know are called Luke in any case.

Don't mind either really. It is a rather nice name isn't it?

I think id be more bothered in the cat scenario!

imitation is the sincerest form of flattery

It IS weird, but have a rant and then let it lie

Its a hugely popular name have to say there are alot of little Lucas and Lucians out there

reality - haha

and no strop over pronunciation ours is a lucy-en sounding as hers his - not fond of the looshan one makes me think american and cramp twins!!

Do people really get so precious over a forename?

It's not like a domain name, where your whole business or livelihood may hang on it.

Puhleeze.

Amarone
Chablis
Bollinger
Chardonnay
Retsina

Moet! You know, it has a nice ring to it.

nicking 'our name'? Did you copyright it or something?

I'd be flattered.

Grow up and get over it. Sending an email is pathetic and will only make you come across as petty and spiteful.

I'm guessing the new baby's father had some say in what it was called too.

My brother in law and his wife nicked my daughters middle name for their daughter .
We gave her that name so that we could use it as a double barrelled name IYKWIM now we cant as they are cousins and everyone finds it confusing so wont use it - They obviously have NO imagination of their own!

DD1 has the same name of one of DH's exGF.
It is a lovely name, and we both loved the name
She is a nice girl, (the ex) and it was not a serious relationship.
None of us still in touch although she knows friends of friends
I always wonder if she thinks it's wierd
BUT I don't, it's just a name
You're not using someone's personality

She is french. I guess it's pretty common in france (Lucian Bonaparte). It may well be a name she's been liking since she was young.
Are you also french? Is your DH?
If your DS is pronounced loo-shan, it may not have crossed her mind.

LOL @ all this 'nicking' of names.

Unless it's copyrighted or a domain name, it's like, um, free for anyone to use.

Littlemoomin- I'd say thank you to them. Hyphenated names very infra dig.

Ohh, I think everyone is being a little unfair (funny, but still unfair). I would be a bit if my DH ex did that. But then again, I don't let my DH to have any contact with his ex!

For god sake don't send the Email, you'll come across as a complete loon.

Everyone knows someone somewhere with a name you like.

Dig hard enough and there would never be one you can use.

Who is to say that she hasn't loved this name for forever? and was extremely miffed when her ex stole it for his baby?

G>E>T>A>L>I>F>E

my OH's ex (the one he was with just before me) has named her DD the girl version of OH's name (in other words it's his name with an 'a' on the end) he says she was a bit obsessed with him. it isn't OH's baby by the way!!

Maybe the XP had discussed with your DH when they were together that she wanted to call their child Lucien, and then you nicked her name! Hmm.

TBH unless they share half-siblings I really don't see that it's an issue. Don't say anything. It's not like they will be seeing a lot of each other, and even if they do, I've had friends with the same name as me all through my life and it hasn't fried my brain yet.

no i wont send an email (but really cheesed off at not being able to say anything...bah!), I was just so stroppy about it his morning - unreasonable I may be but really it has upset me.

And not sure why people don't 'allow' their H's to have friendships with exes - I honestly didn't ever have a problem with it.....maybe until now! Still trying to talk myself into being less cross and much more reasonable.

oh gagamama - no they didn't ever discuss having children or anything like that. Now that would be weird......

I can understand you feeling a bit weird about it, but perhaps it has always been one of her favourite names. Try and take it as flattery! She must think your Lucien is such a lovely boy that she went with it too.

My dh sees exes. I don't see the big deal. Sometimes we all meet up or sometimes it'll be just him. I trust him completely. Sounds to me that a lot of people don't trust their partners!

As this graph showing the popularity of the first name Lucien in France over the past century demonstrates, the name is seriously old-fashioned and out-of-fashion...

bonsoir - exactly

And here too - it is far from popular...

Even if it was her husbands choice - if i had been in that situation I would just have not gone there.

Agreed schilke - I have no prob with the H having the odd lunch and email with exes - there are two he keeps in contact with (both live abroad though) and cannot see why this would be an issue.

Oi, tartyhighheels, I was sticking up for you - don't have a go at me and my contoling ways.

How do you know that they didn't discuss baby names when they were together?

It is making a comeback though. As I said we had considered it and I know two babies with the name.

That is how it works with names I think. Everyone thinks they are being clever and different, but we are all thinking the same thing about the same name.