to resent DH for going out?

[RelieRoo]

I have a 5 week old DD, who is wonderful until it gets to around 5pm, when she turns into a screaming banshee. She wants to either feed or be cuddled constantly and screams even when doing both things. There's nothing 'wrong' with her, I just assume this is fairly normal behaviour for such a small baby?

Anyway, I find evenings really hard to cope with on my own, but DH has a really stressful job and went out last week for a vent with a colleague from work and came home hammered at about half 11. We had a massive row into early morning, with me crying myself sick because I felt so unsupported and alone.

Anyway, he's going out again tonight and although I know he needs time to unwind, I really resent him for going out while the eveningsare so hard. Surely he can wait a few weeks for the evenings to get better before ge resumes his social life? I'm sitting in the dark with my scre\ming baby, white noise playing and only MN for my sanity. What should I do, AIBU, and a bit moany and pathetic?

Glad you are managing to get out later. I remember trying to explain those firts few weeks of new motherhood to a childless friend. The way I put it was "It's like a bomb has gone off right in the middle of my life. My DH is like the building next door- he's suffered a little collateral damage, but can patch it back up, whereas my life will have to be rebuilt from scratch!"

6 years and 3 babies later my life IS rebuilt, and FAR better, but those first few weeks are a real real shocker, and your DH needs to understand that THIS is the time when you really do need to feel like a team. It really does get better, but you might resent your DH if you don't manage to pull together over this. Hope it all goes well. if you are going out with other new mums tonight, I bet their experiences will reassure you further too!