a bottle of wine a night - too much?

[cjn27b]

AIBU to consider a bottle of wine a night, drunk solo, is rather a lot? This is DP on a regular night having got home from the office, more tends to go down on a night out.

I realise government figures say this is a lot, but what about in the real world - I've no idea what people drink at home.

Well quite a few of my friends see off the best part of a bottle a night and yes I think it's too much.

It is too much, yes. His liver is getting no time to recover between sessions.

I have been known to drink a bottle of wine in a night but you need a couple of days off the booze after that. So YANBU.

Too much! I think there can be about 12 units of alcohol in a bottle of wine so that'
s 84 units of alcohol a week! That's FOUR times the maximum recommended male intake! That's asking for serious long term health problems.

I did develop a nightly wine habit but gave it up completely to lose weight and now probably drink a bottle a week. I thought it would be hard to give up but it was really easy after the first week. It was just about breaking the habit and replacing it with something else.

yes

why are oyu drinking it
imo you need to think that

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If it is regularly then yes! Whether or not others are doing the same should not impact on his decision making....

Best way to see the impact would be a liver function test from the GP

Yes too much in the long term. Have you broached the subject of cutting down and if so how does he react? Does he drink at the weekend? Does he ever drink early in the day?

how does he react or feel if he doesn't get a drink? Can he go a period of time without alcohol?

It may be habit that he drinks the way he does . He may genuinely enjoy it however he may pschologically or physically need alcohol which suggests a bigger problem.

With regard to the liver function tests they will probably only show a raised GGT which will only tell you that he is drinking to much. This is a reversible abnormality and doesn't reflect long-term damage but can sometimes 'shock' people into thinking abou their alcohol intake.

We have talked about it, he's talked to the GP who did a liver function test that was fine.

He's drunk this much for years (now in his early 40s) and doesn't think anything of it, as other people he knows also drink this amount. Rarely does he drink less and whilst he quit drinking for a month about 8 years ago, since then he hasn't had a drink holiday.

I just find it rather a lot and worry about his health now we have small children especially. He doesn't react very well when I raise the issue, saying it's all fine. I'm posting this as I'm not so sure and hoping to find new ways to address it.

In answer to your question, in the real world I've found this to be quite common.

I could have typed your OP.

My DH does this at least 5 nights out of 7.

He knows it is too much but it doesnt stop him doing it. Unfortunately.

How is his behaviour when he's drinking? If it's a problem then that would be another way to approach it with him.

I agree with you that a bottle of wine a night, every night, is too much and likely to affect his health. But if he thinks it's fine it's not easy to persuade him to cut down.

I think its too much.

Yep, far too much.

I think it is too much, but in answer to your OP, I think this is pretty common.

the liver function test is misleading. nothing is going to show up until it is too late.

and yes it is too much

Its too much, way too much but I do know a lot of people who consider it normal.

It is far too much, I don't know anyone who drinks that much.

He's probably been lulled into a false sense of security by having an OK liver function test.

Honestly, someone who cannot go a day without a drink, sounds like an alcoholic.

I think it is too much and if it was me or DH putting a bottle away a night I would be worried.

too much

This is where it gets tricky - his behaviour is fine after a bottle.

He can be obnoxious after more, and does have a tendancy to totally over do it at events like weddings, boys nights out etc. but these don't happen often. Whilst this is really annoying a couple of times a year, it's not what worries me. It's the impact on his health, which the Dr went and said was fine (though he could do with loosing some weight).

no its just too much cjn
you know that

Not just liver in actual fact. I used to put a bit too much away before kids etc and I used to think liver but in actual fact by drinking even a couple of large glasses regularly you've doubled (I think) your risk of breast cancer, mouth cancer, and is it stomach or throat cancer?

Also has some kind of cardiovascular increased risk maybe stroke if I remember correctly.

So its not all about the liver. But to answer your question its not terribly uncommon.

It is too much, that's beyond doubt, but the bigger problem tbh is probably that he's not having a break from it at all.

Could you maybe ask him to have 2 (consecutive) nights off a week, so that his liver can recover a bit?

I'd think that having say Sundays & Mondays, or Tuesdays & Wednesdays booze-free isn't an unreasonable request? If he thinks it is then you've got evidence of dependency rather than just 'habit'.