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To think that the brides dresses and bridesmaids dresses in My Big fat Gypsie wedding are really tacky

146 replies

pigletmania · 18/02/2010 23:32

Well they are! Nothing against the travelling community, they have good morals and attitdes, but imo the dresses were hideious! That poor baby in what can be described as a toilet roll holder thing . Luminous green bridesmaid dresses that look like Las Vegas showgirls, and brides dresses weighing 27 stone .

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poshwellies · 19/02/2010 00:11

You can't account for taste.Each to their own.

Just because you dont like it or it would fit you ,you really can't judge.

I liked the fact the girls had morals,ok they marry young but that's part of their heritage.

jasper · 19/02/2010 00:14

I could not get over the juxtaposition of the young girls dressing like prostitutes yet having very strict rules about no dating/sex before marriage.

Clary, I agree about the wedding outfits. I could not believe my eyes

ItsAllaBitNoisy · 19/02/2010 00:19

Belle if you were trying to run a business you would be more than sad if you allowed a reception for these people to go ahead.

Farking scary.

There is a reason why they don't divorce, because those 16 year old children would be killed if they tried to leave.

You will never meet a seperated traveller woman.

poshwellies · 19/02/2010 00:20

they are all bad then Itsalla?

PoppityPing · 19/02/2010 00:21

Have you seen this site? tacky weddings

Boys2mam · 19/02/2010 00:21

I flicked over on to this programme tonight and couldn't understand the premise.

One of the brides said at the end of her reception she "didn't know if they'd last cos they fought all the time. They knew this before they married but....."

I still don't quite get the program makers point?

Clary · 19/02/2010 00:21

It was bizarre wasn't it jasper - no sex until you are wed, but you can go about looking like a 14yo tart.

Did you see the pregnant woman in the black and white corset at one wedding?

BelleDeChocolateFluffyBunny · 19/02/2010 00:21

wendylady2.livejournal.com/45719.html I don't know if this link will work, it's funny though!

BitOfFun · 19/02/2010 00:24

The dressing like a hooker thing was well explained on the other thread- it's to work the young men up into a frenxied interest which they can only realistically consummate on marriage. A good old-fashioned courtship display to bag your man in a culture where 22 is considered on the shelf.

jasper · 19/02/2010 00:39

bitofFun may be repeating the other thread but what would be in it for the girl? Tieing herself for life to a horny oaf at age 16?

Clary, pregnant corset lady ( I hope she WAS pregnant) was quite something.

itsallabitnoisy please tell us more - looks like you know a bit about this.

Great links ladies

runnybottom · 19/02/2010 00:42

Its the way it is. Its not like you have any other options anyway. As a young traveller girl you are quite possibly functionally illiterate, have been brought up to expect marriage and children before you are 20. You never expect to have a job, or to live outside your community.

BitOfFun · 19/02/2010 00:48

In a no sex before marriage culture, I guess early marriage is inevitable.

poshwellies · 19/02/2010 00:56

Romany gypsy article

petisa · 19/02/2010 01:00

There has always been quite a big community of travellers near my home town and oh yes they have really OTT dresses for weddings!!

Pikelit · 19/02/2010 02:15

"The dressing like a hooker thing was well explained on the other thread- it's to work the young men up into a frenxied interest..."

A version of this happens all the time out here in the rural badlands. But mainly with teaser rams.

skihorse · 19/02/2010 06:37

YABU and snide. You're also showing a truly remarkable lack of knowledge on "travelling families". Fuck off an Vera Wang yourself.

jasper · 19/02/2010 08:51

skihorse I and others are genuinely interested in the culture which was shown on the programme. Can you tell us more to balance the discussion?

giraffesCantCeilidhDance · 19/02/2010 08:54

The violence in that culture is truley horrific.

minxofmancunia · 19/02/2010 09:12

I'm very interested in their culture too, as it'snot something yoy hear much about apart from negative attitudes, unlike say the Muslim culture which is better integrated.

I've only come across travellers once and have to say it was pretty scary! myself and a friend were in a pub and there were about 30+ travellers in there, they were absolutely slaughtered and trashed the entire place pictures ripped off the walls and over peoples heads, the lot. There were lots of children there too. They congregated near me and my friend next to the quiz machine and chatted to us whilst the adults engaged in a drunken riot .

I'm aware that this is the steroetype that's perpetuated about travellers and am interested to hear about the other aspects of their culture.

CloudDragon · 19/02/2010 09:36

I know lots of Irish travellers.

it is a very differnent way of life in some aspects but the biggest one is that they are the most discriminated people in the UK.

People I know who would never say anything prejudges against any other group of people are quite happy to make huge generalisations despite never have met travellers apart from in passing or the shit they read in the papers.

Lucyellensmumma · 19/02/2010 09:41

Vile thread, truly vile (apart from those who have defended traveller culture that is).

Why is it OK to be racist about gypsies?? FFS

If i came on here and said "Corr, those indian women look really tacky in their sariis (i know they dont but you know what i mean)" i would be RIGHTLY flamed to kingdom come!!

Ziggurat · 19/02/2010 09:52

Lucy - the OP said the dresses looked tacky; not that the women looked tacky in them - there is a difference.

It's her opinion - she's allowed to voice it - we don't all have the same taste in clothing.

I mean even Sammy-Jo (was that her name? The bride with the slim-line dress) was going on about how tacky lots of the dresses were.

Instead of being defensive, why don't you tell us a bit more about the culture and why the dresses are the way they are, etc, etc...

motherbeyond · 19/02/2010 09:53

i watched the whole thing with my chin on the floor!
the dresses were utterly hideous,sorry but when i was 16 i still had an idea of what was classy and what was trashy!!
it made me laugh as well,that the girl who was saying she hated the merangue dresses because they looked ridiculous,then had a 20 foot train!!not ridiculous at all of course!

i was agape at the lime geen bridesmaid dresses,complete with tango tan..and the little bo peep babies with the frilly hats and diamonte covered dummies

Ziggurat · 19/02/2010 09:57

OK, motherbeyond kind of stamping all over my point there...

I admit - the dresses were not to my taste at all, BUT I found the programme such an eye-opener, and got a much better understanding of the traveller community.

I didn't realise quite how religious/traditional they were.

As someone said earlier in the thread, I guess the dresses are the way they are because the girls are so young - barely out of watching Disney princesses in their over-the-top hoop-skirt style dresses. When you look at it that way, it's much more understandable.

runnybottom · 19/02/2010 10:00

Having an opinion on clothes does not make you racist. If you say my dress is tacky/ott/unfashionable/not to your taste...can I tell you you're racist if I am of a different culture to you?

That said, the links to sites that call them "chav weddings" and laugh at them without any attempt to even know who they are I find in poor taste and quite offensive in a lets laugh at the knackers childish way.

What do you want to know about the culture? (I have studied it to write a thesis on literacy and schooling in the Travelling Community in Ireland)

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