Was I? unreasonable in this situation?

[CreamEggSeasonIsMine]

We have 3 kids. DD (13) DS1 (11) and DS2 (9).

So its the school holidays. DS1 gets up early as usual and has breakfast before 7am. DS2 gets up around 8.30am and has breakfast. DD gets up at 12pm. Too late for breakfast so gets a tin of soup out of the cupboard and begins making it for her lunch.

How grown up I think.

An hour later, the younger ones are hungry and ask what is for lunch. Youngest wants soup but DD ate the last tin. I rake through the cupboards and all I can rustle up is egg sandwiches. (shopping day tomorow). I make them both fried egg sandwiches.

I think no more of it.

DH later comes in from work in a right mood. Turns out DD had text him earlier in the day saying the boys had egg sandwiches whilst she was forced to have crappy soup. DH goes off on one (she's always been his favourite whether he admits it or not) and says I'm always leaving her out and neglecting her.

I explain what happened. He sticks by her and says I'm out of order. I'm livid.

So, did I do the wrong thing?? what else could I do? make her pour the soup down the sink? she'd already opened the tin. I didn't even know what I was going to make for lunch. If I'd come back with McDonalds meals for the boys I could understand it but I'm fed up with them both ganging up on me and making me out to be a bitch.

AIBU???

I can't imagine how you can have been out of order? Your DH is not showing a very united front to your DD.

i find it weird that anyone in their right minds could be bothered to start an argument about such a ridiculous thing.

why would DD text him about soup? this makes no sense to me.

YANBU - not your fault that she got her own soup and then wished she had had fried egg sandwiches instead

She sounds like a brat, and he sounds like a fuckwit.

What, precisely, is he saying youve done wrong? Does he not beleive your version of events?

Oh hang on, are you the boxroom troll? sorry if you're not, but the ages fit.

Your DH is a twat

YADBU. Lazy and unthoughtful. Crap mum basically.

abbier! You beat me with Boxroom! I was checking the posters only other thread.

hf - I agree!

What's the boxroom troll?

no I'm not a troll

He says I should have got the kids down together and asked what they all wanted I pointed out that whilst DD had only got up at 12pm. The other had had breakfast etc and wasnt ready for lunch. So what, as soon as DD is up we all have to immediately have our lunch because SHE is hungry?

I explained it all as much as I could. He insisted I was in the wrong as I should have organised a lunch for all of them so nobody went without.

She's 13. There is no reason.

Your DH is being a twat though, is he an eldest/only child>?

lol @ abbie

OP, whoever you are, you need to sort your husband out

my dd often texts my DH, saying woe is me etc

we just present a united front, refuse to be manipulated

it's easy (unless your DH is an idiot, of course)

I would have offered DD a fried egg sandwich though... just so she had no comeback when she was sulking about it later

So did you name change specially for this?

Creamegg - what's a Troll?

Oh my god life is too short. Tell your DH to grow up and accept your DD is a manipulative teenager!

No I namechanged for my last thread. simply because DD has seen my real username.

and take the phone off your DD if she's using it to undermine discipline/your relationship with your husband.

Cheeky cow!

Mind you, you know she's only doing it because she knows she'll get away with it (thanks to her dad)

[sorry if i'm being too blunt. bit pissed]

boxroom posts periodically..odd situations,but is this really her...

if it is,i doubt she'll be back,she rarely revisits her threads

Sorry - can sniff Boxroom at 20 paces.

I'm a bit pissed too pure I have to be to maintain some sense of normallity

I think your daughter is playing you off against each other and your husband and you need to provide an united front as much as possible with the children.
Does she think that there are difficulties in your marriage? Does she often cause upset? Perhaps a sit down sort out talk is needed firstly for you an dhubby about being supportive for each other and then for your eldest to say no more.