Was I? unreasonable in this situation?

[CreamEggSeasonIsMine]

We have 3 kids. DD (13) DS1 (11) and DS2 (9).

So its the school holidays. DS1 gets up early as usual and has breakfast before 7am. DS2 gets up around 8.30am and has breakfast. DD gets up at 12pm. Too late for breakfast so gets a tin of soup out of the cupboard and begins making it for her lunch.

How grown up I think.

An hour later, the younger ones are hungry and ask what is for lunch. Youngest wants soup but DD ate the last tin. I rake through the cupboards and all I can rustle up is egg sandwiches. (shopping day tomorow). I make them both fried egg sandwiches.

I think no more of it.

DH later comes in from work in a right mood. Turns out DD had text him earlier in the day saying the boys had egg sandwiches whilst she was forced to have crappy soup. DH goes off on one (she's always been his favourite whether he admits it or not) and says I'm always leaving her out and neglecting her.

I explain what happened. He sticks by her and says I'm out of order. I'm livid.

So, did I do the wrong thing?? what else could I do? make her pour the soup down the sink? she'd already opened the tin. I didn't even know what I was going to make for lunch. If I'd come back with McDonalds meals for the boys I could understand it but I'm fed up with them both ganging up on me and making me out to be a bitch.

AIBU???

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OP
You have obviously lost control over your children. Beat DD harder.

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Oh nooooo Boxroom has returned....is dh/dp still laying his DD's clothes out underwear included that you found to be soooo wrong?

I think you're husband is being silly. I mean, having a go at you over an egg sandwich?!

And you should certainly tell your daughter that it was her choice to get up at that time, and her choice to have soup and if she was unhappy at missing out on an egg sandwich, she should have said so to you, not text her dad!

Kids will always do this sort of thing, it's called "divide and rule" You and your husband need to present a united front! She cannot be allowed to think that she can get in the middle of mum and dad and have them fighting.

Oh, and it is very damaging to all your children for him to display favouritism. Very damaging. I hope that he loves all his children equally, but if not, then he has to work very hard to not show that, or he'll mess his kids up.

oh dear god, "you're"?

I am SO sorry.

YANBU...United front. I wonder if is there something else troubling your DH which would make him react in this way.

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