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Was I? unreasonable in this situation?

65 replies

CreamEggSeasonIsMine · 18/02/2010 22:56

We have 3 kids. DD (13) DS1 (11) and DS2 (9).

So its the school holidays. DS1 gets up early as usual and has breakfast before 7am. DS2 gets up around 8.30am and has breakfast. DD gets up at 12pm. Too late for breakfast so gets a tin of soup out of the cupboard and begins making it for her lunch.

How grown up I think.

An hour later, the younger ones are hungry and ask what is for lunch. Youngest wants soup but DD ate the last tin. I rake through the cupboards and all I can rustle up is egg sandwiches. (shopping day tomorow). I make them both fried egg sandwiches.

I think no more of it.

DH later comes in from work in a right mood. Turns out DD had text him earlier in the day saying the boys had egg sandwiches whilst she was forced to have crappy soup. DH goes off on one (she's always been his favourite whether he admits it or not) and says I'm always leaving her out and neglecting her.

I explain what happened. He sticks by her and says I'm out of order. I'm livid.

So, did I do the wrong thing?? what else could I do? make her pour the soup down the sink? she'd already opened the tin. I didn't even know what I was going to make for lunch. If I'd come back with McDonalds meals for the boys I could understand it but I'm fed up with them both ganging up on me and making me out to be a bitch.

AIBU???

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hf128219 · 18/02/2010 23:13

Creamegg - all the decent blokes are doing their kayaking.

lololol · 18/02/2010 23:15

I would tell your DD that next time, if she has a problem with something you have done that she should come and tell you and you will do your best to rectify it. eg in this situation, if the soup had been opened and not eaten, you could perhaps have put it in fridge/shared it out or whatever.

If I was being really vindictive, I'd ask her why she was moaning to her dad knowing that he'd come and argue with you about it later - I'd ask her quite bluntly whether she enjoys causing arguments/disagreements/misunderstandings and how would she feel if you got divorced.

displayuntilbestbefore · 18/02/2010 23:16

blimey lololol, that's quite a weight to put on DD's shoulders even if she was being a bit underhand with crying to Daddy

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:17

You don't like her much going on your other thread.

RumourOfAHurricane · 18/02/2010 23:17

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4kidsandlovingit · 18/02/2010 23:20

Simple, tomorrow wake her up when everyone else gets up and she has breakfast then, either that or make her wait until lunchtime when she can eat the same as everyone else. Dont forget to phone DH and let him know what you are doing and warn him that he will get a text from DD stating she is very hungry cos of no breakfast or got woken up early or had to eat the same as everyone else.
Show DH this thread and make him realise what a complete arse he is being and what a precocious sp? brat his PFB is being.
God help him when she gets older if he is this easily manipulated that he has to start arguements over her.
Does he actually realise that you are not running a restaurant?

abbierhodes · 18/02/2010 23:21

I think boxroom is writing a book, and periodically checking whether her situations are ridiculous or not. Once she's got enough opinions, she stops coming back.

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:24

Who would really faff round teenagers like this? I would have had my arse kicked.

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:25

I would like to disclose the traits that give it away - immediately, but don't want to make it easy.

displayuntilbestbefore · 18/02/2010 23:28

Ah, I missed boxroom's threads....if they had silly OPs then I probably didn't even look at them

RumourOfAHurricane · 18/02/2010 23:28

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abbierhodes · 18/02/2010 23:29

Boxroom, love, I wouldn't include the Michael Jackson bit, I think it'll be old news by the time yout book comes out.

RumourOfAHurricane · 18/02/2010 23:30

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displayuntilbestbefore · 18/02/2010 23:30

That rings a bell
If you're going to troll then surely there's little point namechanging if all the family details are all exactly the same?

abbierhodes · 18/02/2010 23:30

And I don't think she'd give them fried egg sandwiches, maybe boiled egg on toast?

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 23:31

pmsl

am just trying to remember why "boxroom"

was it summat to do with the DH insisting that the girl had to have the largest bedroom and 2 boisterous boys had to go in the boxroom to share

summat like that anyway

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:31

I was thinking more subtle than that Shiney!
After all, here it is a DH and a DD rather than a DP and a DSD....

lol abbie

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:33

There was always a boxroom in the early threads AF.

RumourOfAHurricane · 18/02/2010 23:33

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abbierhodes · 18/02/2010 23:34

Yeah, that was it AF. She posted for advice before she'd moved in with him, and everyone said 'run like the wind'. But she didn't, and she still comes on here. Mental.
Wonder why she's dropped the stepdaughter angle?

PortofinoLovesPancakes · 18/02/2010 23:37

too obvious

AnyFucker · 18/02/2010 23:38

Op has gone

abbierhodes · 18/02/2010 23:40

He's probably gone back to his writing.

Boxroom, are you Roddy Doyle?

GypsyMoth · 18/02/2010 23:44

so it WAS boxroom....well done whoever sussed her....

wheres her other thread tonight?