to hate hugging?

[JamesAndTheGiantBanana]

I love hugging dp/ds, but nobody else. Mil gives me whiskery hugs, and a friend inflicts long braless hugs on me which I find excruciating. They give me shudders for about ten minutes afterward, that "nails on a chalkboard" feeling iyswim? But thankfully no-one else usually hugs me.

And then today I met my new home start volunteer who was very nice, but when she got up to go she swooped in and gave me a big hug, and my heart utterly sank. I've let another hugger into my life, and I'm going to see her every week. At least I only see the other huggers every few weeks. Waaah!

Am I the only one who hates hugs? Is there a polite way of saying "Don't touch me you give me the creeps?"

Oh I love mums net. I'm not huggy either. Hug my kids loads and dh but only my family if Xmas or going away for a while or if upset etc.
Dh's family kiss and hug every time we see them and again when we leave. I can't stand it and try anything to avoid it. I normally stand back stiffly and I notice mil doesn't push it but fil will be bobbing and weaving around me for ages determined to get a hug in.
I hate it. Especially when sil kisses me as its obvious she hates me.
My friend suggested I head butt one of them when they zoom in and then stand back with a wild look in my eye saying "who's next then"

Zombie thread.

Oh yeah so it is. Give us a hug then

I love hugging. If it's a hot, sexy person :o.

I hate the word hug.

I hear "give us a hug" and want to do damage.

I had to stop salsa classes as I couldn't bear people touching me.

I have ishoos I think

I hate being hugged by other women unless they are very close family. Happy to hug male family members and close male friends.

otherwise a handshake please, only not a weedy girly one. Ladies, please learn a proper handshake.

No, not a hugger here. Even my mum says I was never a huggy child.

I never used to do touchy-feely stuff, used to hate people who grabbed my arm when talking to emphasise a point.

Then I married DH and went to live in his country, where it is normal to kiss women even when being introduced for the first time if that person is a distant relative, close friend of relative, friend of friend etc etc

I`ve got used to it and it seems normal now

When I visit the UK I have to restrain myself from kissing complete strangers

My friends intuitively knew from the beginning not to hug me- I must give off severe no-hug vibes. It's like I have an invisible hug-repelling field around me- people move in to give me a hug, then falter, then stop. Hilarious.
It's a running joke amongst us that 'no-one touches peachy'!!
I think it must be a lot to do with upbringing. We aren't a huggy family. However DH and DSs are very tactile but I love hugging them!

I like being touched. By people I find hot and sexy. Sometimes, I only find them hot and sexy after they have touched me, and then, I think, 'Mmm. Do that some more.'

I only like hugging very close friends and family..... There is a circle of people who I happily let into my space and can hug, kiss, hold hands, share a bed etc....then there is everyone else... For everyone else I need them to stay well away. Not to close, no kissing, awkward hugging etc! I need to adopt the hand up "I don't do hugging" stance. I do ask people ho stand to close to me in the post office queue to "please take a step back as they are invading my personal space". I am also sick people phobic....

Yup. I hate it. And don't even get me started on kisses.

i don't even like kissing my husband!

I don't see why people want to keep pawing at each other all the time.

I am a non hugger. to all those huggers out there.... can you tell when you are hugging someone who doesn't want to be hugged? worse than the hugging itself for me is the feeling that the hugger has realised that they have just made me Very Uncomfortable

I loathe the entire experience and know naught why it seems to be acceptable,ever. When i am unable to avoid(rarely)having to "hug someone back??" it"s akin to that shot of Sheldon, (big bang theory) trying to hug penny in thanks for a gift UGG!.

I quite often state firmly to pil " I won't kiss you cos I'm ill" they must think I'm a hypochondriac ha ha
It so odd though. If its a big family gathering we kiss them all at the beginning then a few hours later when we leave I can see them all advancing like the walking dead arms outstretched lips puckered up.
I feel like screaming nooooooo!

I grew up in a Presbyterian Scottish family where we didn't hug, kiss or show our emotions at all.

So did I Euphemia (same east coast city )

My parents used to shake my hand on special occasions like birthdays, Christmas and New Year.

I hug my children (when they allow me to) but that's all. Everyone else knows I'm weird not to attempt a hug.

Dps dad smacks a wet one on my cheek .. Have to wait till iv left to wipe it away ... Bleuggh!

I can't bear it either.

I'll happily hug DH and the DDs, but other than that, I find it cringeworthy.

I also hate cheek kissing, and touchy-feely-ness. Even people standing too close when talking to me makes me uncomfortable

I really don't like my space being invaded

I'm a hugger and a kisser. But DH and his side of the family aren't. I have to restrain myself!

I can hug my children (all three) and my husband, and any animal...I hug these people A LOT. And any small child that needs affection

but anyone else...bleurgghh.

YANBU...when does the hug end, how close is it...all sorts of unreasonable indefinable bits to hugging that I hate....

I love hugging my children and hug them constantly. I can't stand anyone else hugging or kissing me. I really hate it in fact. I think I give off anti-hug vibes, an acquaintance once circled the room and kissed everyone individually but she just waved at me and said Hi. It was a massive relief.

I know what you mean OP. could spend all day hugging my babies, but am a bit of an awkward hugger. I like to kind of barricade myself behind things if I think I'm going to be in a stressful hug related situation.

However once I've had a drink or two you try pulling me off you. I'll love everyone when I'm pissed enough, and will have no issues showing it!

Take a step back and offer your hand simultaneously.

This is what I do.

I am only physically with very close friends and family.

I don't care if it offends or whatever, I will decide who can touch me.