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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that this is terrible !!!!!

107 replies

thecloudhopper · 14/02/2010 20:26

Was in Boots printing pictures and a man walkes up to the counter - lady behind counter asks man if she can help he replys with "yes I need something to shut the baby up"

I was horrified
The lady behind the counter fair play in my opinion said "WE don't sell anything like that here!!!"

As it happend the baby in question was teathing.

My thought was don't hve children if you are not prepared for them to be wingy at times.

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posieparker · 15/02/2010 14:00

Riven, how did that go?

EssenceOfJack · 15/02/2010 14:02

I think that's funny.
I have before responded to people saying things like that with 'Valium or a gag?'

When I was approached the other day in M+S by some busybodies staff as DD2 was having a fairly normal todler tantrum they asked if they could help and I said
'OOh, have you started stocking cages for children? That would be awesome'

I have never seen such lovely catsbummouths.

Tee2072 · 15/02/2010 14:03

There is no agreeing to disagree here. This isn't a matter of opinion. This is a matter of you speaking about something you know nothing about.

I slept bad even before I had my son. Insomniac from long ago.

Nothing compares to the sleep deprivation from having a child.

Except, maybe, when its used as a form of torture. That may be worse.

salimali1 · 15/02/2010 14:03

wedding your are quite nasty ...

WeddingDaze · 15/02/2010 14:05

PMSL -Yet OP is a lovely fluffy bunny, judging other people based on her non - knowledge.

tethersend · 15/02/2010 14:10

thecloudhopper, I used to work with extremely autistic children who were physically violent, and who often spent most of the day tantrumming. Like you, I often went into work on very little sleep. I never lost my temper with the children, was patient and remained in control at all times.

When my DD was born, I lost the plot after about a week. A tiny, defenceless crying baby pushed me and my professional patience over the edge. I wanted to throw her out of the window.

"like I said i know I am being nieve[sic] but lets agree to disagree."

It seems a little odd to start an AIBU thread about something which you confess you are naive about. This is not a topic where people 'agree to disagree'.

You have been unreasonable.

Kewcumber · 15/02/2010 14:17

"I have been in school with about 3 hours sleep " so try soing that for three weeks then saty with them 24 hours a day so you can't look forward to getting rid of the little buggers darlings...

than ccme back and judge post.

sarah293 · 15/02/2010 14:24

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thecloudhopper · 15/02/2010 14:31

No i don't work for SS- who are in MY area absolute crap- with VERY FEW exceptions.

I have opened such a can of worms havent I .. I must apologise if I have offended that was not the intention. ]

I have my opion and you lot have yours.

I am not going to continue arguing.

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posieparker · 15/02/2010 14:32

Riven Fucking hell, that surely is a load of shit for you. What does it take to make them help? Honestly, people murder their children when pushed to a limit(not implying you would) but it's no wonder they feel they have no alternative when help is so hard to get.

What's your plan? Phoning everyday?

posieparker · 15/02/2010 14:33

Or you could just phone your mate Dave?

tethersend · 15/02/2010 14:34

Maybe steer clear of AIBU if you've made your mind up that you are most definitely not being unreasonable and don't fancy arguing about it?

Maybe just think it. Or write it down.

MummyTumble · 15/02/2010 14:38

cloudhopper - you asked if you were being unreasonable......and have been told yes!

if you don't want to hear what all the parents on here really think then don't ask!

sarah293 · 15/02/2010 14:45

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Wanderingsheep · 15/02/2010 14:53

I can't believe you're comparing a child that you work with screaming to a child that is your own screaming day and night!

I'm a CM so I also work with children.

I have never lost my temper with a mindee or wanted to tell them to shut up either but I often lose it with my own DD!

Mindees or nursery children GO HOME at the end of the day FGS!

The other day someone who was pregnant was asking me how I cope with 2 at once my answer was very well but one goes home at 4.30 so it's not the same as having two all the time!

Wanderingsheep · 15/02/2010 14:56

You are perfectly entitled to your own opinion, Cloudhopper but I think that it may well change when you have your own DC.

Kewcumber · 15/02/2010 14:58

the problem is OP that your opion is uninformed and ours is infomred! It's like me pontificating on the approach to depression (they should all pull themselves together and cheerup), of course I'm entitled to my opinion but never had depression or been close to anyone whose suffered from depression I accept that my opinion may not be as well informed as those who have.

I would be reluctant to share my views on a forum for people with depression too. But obviousy you are more convinced that your opinion is correct. Good for you.

(but you do promnise to come back after your first baby, don't you).

BTW sleeplessness from a baby crying isn;t just abotu sleep deprivation its mushed up with anxiety that there is something wrong, that you are failing your baby in some way about being desparate for some precious time where you're not responsible for this extra human being.

BackToBasics · 15/02/2010 15:05

Cloud, if and when you have your own dc, i urge you to look this thread up, you will cringe trust me!

It's not really your fault, we ALL say things before we have our dc with lots of do's and don'ts but then when you have your dc it all goes out of the window.

Before dd was born i was going to be a wonderful patient mother, she wasn't going to watch any tv, she was going to eat all her vegetables up with no fuss (ha,) i was going to speak to her in a calm way at all times, the list goes on...

Wanderingsheep · 15/02/2010 15:13

Before I had DD I actually thought that I wouldn't mind a snuggly little baby waking me up in the night as I thought I would be happy to have a cuddle! [knob]

Morloth · 15/02/2010 15:14

hahahaha.... you don't have children? Come back when you have spent months with a teething baby and talk about tone.

Morloth · 15/02/2010 15:27

Wanderingsheep before I had DS I thought when they were sick and you needed to stay home with them, that you would pop them into bed and then spend the day watching telly/drinking cups of tea.

There was no consideration given to projectile vomiting/poo, wondering whether you should take them to A&E at 3am, washing and washing and washing and putting them in the bath while you cleaned the poo out of everything, pacing backwards and forwards holding your 3yo cause he is crying with fever and doesn't want to be left and so on and so forth, and all the time having that awful sick feeling of worry in the bottom of your stomach that they might not get better, or they might die and not being able to sleep at that point because you are so scared.

Riven I don't know how you do it, I once managed 3 days with no sleep and just about lost my mind.

AccioPinotGrigio · 15/02/2010 15:28

wanderingsheep rofl seriously pmsl. I thought the same thing - loser that I am.

overthehillandfaraway · 15/02/2010 17:55

This thread is getting a bit like the monty python "living in a shoe box" sketch with everyone trying to outdo one another with their dreadful experiences.

I think the OP has got the message that she was over-reacting but I hope there's no suggestion here that only someone who has had kids can make a judgement on whether someone is treating a child badly.

Just for the record - yes I have kids, yes I have suffered sleep deprivation and yes I have locked myself in another room and banged my head against the wall in frustration when the crying has got that bad.

tethersend · 15/02/2010 18:03

"yes I have kids, yes I have suffered sleep deprivation and yes I have locked myself in another room and banged my head against the wall in frustration when the crying has got that bad."

You were lucky

overthehillandfaraway · 15/02/2010 18:09

yes tethersend - i didnt realise my dh could cry that much