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Original poster

to think that this is terrible !!!!!

107 replies

thecloudhopper · 14/02/2010 20:26

Was in Boots printing pictures and a man walkes up to the counter - lady behind counter asks man if she can help he replys with "yes I need something to shut the baby up"

I was horrified
The lady behind the counter fair play in my opinion said "WE don't sell anything like that here!!!"

As it happend the baby in question was teathing.

My thought was don't hve children if you are not prepared for them to be wingy at times.

OP posts:
overmydeadbody · 15/02/2010 08:27

It's easy to be a perfect parent when you have no children of your own.

Tee2072 · 15/02/2010 08:32

Oh, yes, I so appreciated my son the other night schnoogledybroogle when he woke up every hour on the hour because he couldn't find his dummy.

Good thing you and the OP weren't there to hear me say 'oh FFS shut up and go to sleep' after the 7th hour of this. You probably would have called CPS.

One can appreciate their children and still get annoyed with them. Especially when you are sleep deprived.

gorionine · 15/02/2010 08:34

I think you should carry on hopping on those clouds OP

fembear · 15/02/2010 08:35

"I don't actually have my own children my experence comes from working with children."

Please tell me, Mrs Smugpants, that you are not in education: your OP is littered with grammatical and spelling mistakes.
Try being a bit more perfect yourself before you start judging other people.

drinkyourmilk · 15/02/2010 08:38

arf!
I'm not a mother yet, just a lowly 12 hour a day nanny and there are times I feel like that! (not that I would ever say it or hopefully show it - that's not what I'm being paid for)

There is evidently no hope for me if I can't even be a perfect non-mum.

SchnoogleDyBroogle · 15/02/2010 08:39

Tee, I have absolutley been there myself, I have 3 under 5 and know about sleep deprivation and have said things that I would never have thought before I had children, I was just offering a different perspective, sorry if it touched a nerve for you.

PuppyMonkey · 15/02/2010 08:40

Medised would do the trick wouldn't it?

OP clearly on a windup up methinks...

StealthPolarBear · 15/02/2010 08:42

in defence of the OP I can imagine if he said it in a nasty way I'd have felt sad for the baby. More than likely when he got back to the baby he'd have gone back to loving patient dad, but who knows

HanBanan · 15/02/2010 08:52

MMmmm, he made a bit of a booboo there. Not quite what you should be saying in a shop to an assistant! Perhaps the wife was at her wits end and he got an earful that morn?! Perhaps he meant 'give me some teething powders quickly or my mrs is going to go insane and my life will be hell'....!!!

And what happened to gripe juice? Was that booze or is that an old wives tale?

Ziggurat · 15/02/2010 08:56

"Ah come on don't be so tough on cloudhopper, I remember very well not having children, desperately wanting them and feeling upset and saddened at how some people didn't seem to appreciate theirs."

I hear you - but come on!

I was long-term TTC for DS1 and while I was perfectly entitled to moan about that, I am just as entitled to moan when he's had me up all night and grizzled relentlessly all day.

The OP, as a non-parent, has No Idea of what it feels like at the bitter end of that tether!!

Tee2072 · 15/02/2010 08:59

SchnoogleDyBroogle you hit the same nerve the OP and all OPS that are similar hit. The absolute judgement of all parents by all other parents.

Unless you see a parent actually beating a kid, it is none of your business.

And I also believe you do not have a right to judge if you have no kids of your own.

Until you walk a mile in my shoes, shut the hell up. (note, that was a genetic you, not you specifically SchnoogleDyBroogle)

EccentricaGallumbits · 15/02/2010 09:10

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

cheered me right up this has

EccentricaGallumbits · 15/02/2010 09:11

Also cloudhopper - you do know that those photo printing machines in boots are shite and your photos will lose their colour after a while.

you'd have been better off going to a proper photographers.

BackToBasics · 15/02/2010 09:18

Oh no, i have said things like "I am going outside to beat this child" before! Obviously i am NOT going to beat my child outside but it's what you say when your child is playing up in a shop or whatever. Some parent who has overheard has probably started a thread on here saying; I heard some mad woman say she is going to beat her child!

MummyTumble · 15/02/2010 09:43

YABU - you have no idea what has been going on to that put that man in such a mood....and therefore shouldn't judge.

not everyone has a rosey happy cheery life

If you saw him verbally/physically abusing the baby then that's different....

BetsyLittleson · 15/02/2010 11:37

Get your judgy pants off, OP. You saw a small snippet of someone's day. For all you know the baby has been screeching all day and even the most perfect parent would get a bit fed up of that.

I've said that and worse about my children - particularly ds2 who for the last 16 months has spent most of his time screeching.

Original poster
thecloudhopper · 15/02/2010 13:32

I just know I wouldn't say it about any children of mine in the future its just not me. I love the children I have worked and do work with and I think that they are great and yes I know I am being slightly nieve and it does make a dfference that I hand them over at 3:30, but me myself have gone through weeks and weeks and weeks and weeks of a particular cild screaming and tantruming for some or all of the day and never once did I loose my temper or tell a colege that I wised he would shut up.

OP posts:
Iklboo · 15/02/2010 13:34

I have joked with chemist before when he asked if I wanted the drowsy or non-drowsy cough medicine. I replied 'drowsy, I'm going to bingo tonight'. Luckily he knows me well but I didn't think about anyone else in the shop

WeddingDaze · 15/02/2010 13:38

cloudhopper - some or all iof the day? really so 8 - 3.30 or whatever is similar to 24hours is it?

Just SMH

posieparker · 15/02/2010 13:38

Sorry OP but when you're a parent and your hypothalamus goes crazy everytime your baby screams/cries and you've had a week or ten of a moaning baby that is like a drill in your head then you make comment (gritted teeth). Nothing sends me mad like one of my own children endlessly moaning.

posieparker · 15/02/2010 13:40

I often remark 'creche' when asked 'anything else?' at the supermarket!!

Tee2072 · 15/02/2010 13:40

Really cloudhopper? And have you dealt with that screaming child after not having had a full nights sleep in a year or more?

With one who has yelled non-stop for 24 hours (or so it seems) without pausing for breath?

Like you said, you hand them over at 330, go home, perhaps have a nice quiet dinner, a glass of wine, read a book. And then sleep for as long as you want.

You have no idea what you are talking about.

sarah293 · 15/02/2010 13:44

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Original poster
thecloudhopper · 15/02/2010 13:47

like I said i know I am being nieve but lets agree to disagree.
wedding daze i didn't say it was.

I have been in a possision where I have been in school with about 3 hours sleep (i don't sleep well) and then have had to deal/calm a screaming tantruming child yes its hard but i still wouldnt say it.

iklboo - now that is funny

OP posts:
WeddingDaze · 15/02/2010 13:52

I'm loving the whingy at times comment in the OP, clearly you have a crystal ball, and know your few hours of screaming child compares to what he has to deal with.