breast is best

[Haitch27]

Is anyone else who is pregnant sick to the back bloody teeth of the 'breast is best' campaign being shoved down your throat everywhere you turn and being badgered by health carers to attend breastfeeding 'workshops'?? Maybe its just where I live but it seems to be everywhere yet the one thing no one says is "are you planning to breastfeed"? Assumption that all Mums will!!
Curious to know as I said if it is just my area or is it everywhere?

Hear hear MillyMollyMoo

My big word from day one was delegate.dh parents relatives anyone feed the baby, .dd has turned out v sociable v.rounded no problems.did the same with ds 3.Don't understand why anyone would view their baby as something for "me, me, me" think perhaps could be self esteen issues,Something to love them

No, it's to do with secure attachment

sungirl,mums from lower socioeconomic less likely to bf.hence sure start target that specific group

Is no one else thinking troll here?

It's great that you are happy with your choice and that it was a choice rather than due to lack of support but I do think it's a little sad that you're pretty poorly educated about breastfeeding yet say stuff that isnt true about bf as if it is rather than just your opinion.

I do very much agree that there should be the support in place to actually successfully bf rather than just posters. Posters wont help you latch a baby correctly at 1am in the morning.

mean to say ttroll because you disagree with her

im thinking feeding threads always go this way

diametrically opposed opinions
lots of high expressed emotion
lots of typing, no evidence of listening
swapping of personal narratives toafter back up anecdotal accounts
some research

stir.stir.it will come to boil quickly.and remain hot thereafter

no but posters might make the urgh that's disgusting brigade think slightly before they open their mouth (talking about the general public here, not ff mums - IME mums tend to know all about it / have come across it even if they're not doing it so don't really bat an eyelid)

Thing is someone says BF is disgusting, ruins breats and they want to keep their body in good condition etc and everyone jumps on them.

But these are reasons that women choose not to BF. They are big reasons. Surely better to try and understand why people feel how they do rather than getting all shouty and offended.

This is, I suspect, why the campaigns don't hit their target audiences, as the people running the campaigns don't address the things that are actually stopping people if they deem them frivolous.

thanks scottishmummy

darkandstormy - the more you say the more it seems like having babies is a big inconvinience for you. what a shame. poor self esteem? do me a favour - bf helps with bonding, bonding creates attachement - read some Bowlby - read something!!

bubbley - yeh i thought that a few pages back

Nothing to do with disagreeing with her. I see plenty of different opinions on the thread. I just find that her points just seem to be trying to stir rather than add to the discussion. Her last post being an example of that. People only breastfeed so they can keep their child to themselves and have something to love?

So loads of BM is good for baby and not enough don't worry about tit sag.

And no practical points about having to wear hideous uncomfortable nursing bras 24/7. About wearing a bra during sex. About no underwire and how that can make you feel like a sack of spuds.

These things stop women, but are they ever addressed? No. As people think they are silly concerns and aren't worth talking about.

I do think it is interesting to know why women don't bf. A lot of women on MN explain why they were unable to due to various medical reason, but we don't get to hear often from those women who don't for other reasons.

On the 'be a star website' people are saying the campaign is good because young mothers see breastfeeding as frumpy and something old mothers do.

I am sure there are other reasons why people stop, or don't start at all.

And no practical points about having to wear hideous uncomfortable nursing bras 24/7. About wearing a bra during sex. About no underwire and how that can make you feel like a sack of spuds.

So don't have kids then

It's nothing to do with breast feeding and all to do with stuffing your face whilst pregnant. Any personal trainer will tell you it's entirely possible for a normal woman to put on 14-10lb's in pregnancy and her body will be relatively unaffected.
Sitting on your arse eating for two does the damage, she says having another packet of kettles crisps

*14-20lb's I meant

dark my boobs look very nice actually(if I may say so myself) ...I was never up all night I used to just get the boob out have a snooze while she fed then pop her back in the moses basket next to the bed..never got me baps out there are special tops and a blanket to cover your modesty is fine too..sterilizing really got on my wick..irritating as hell

I wore an ordinary underwired bra while breastfeeding, and I didn't wear anything at night. I didn't know you were meant to wear a bra 24/7.

I think you have kind of made my point for me there ladyintheradiator. There are many many reasons that women don't BF, and to improve rates we need to find out the reasons and address them, no matter how off the wall they are.

If someone is pg and says they don't want to BF, and says the reason is they are worried about sex with their boyfriend afterwards if they are BF, to resond that that is not a reason and thus dismiss her concerns is not going to give the desired result.

To talk through her concern with her, with practical advice, might encourage her to give BF a go.

I would also contend that most of your friends are probably quite similar to you, which is why they tried to BF and when they stopped it was for reasons you consider to be valid.

There are, however, different sorts of people in the world, and some of them, believe it or not, will choose not to BF as they think it ruins their breasts.

MillyMollyMoo - It's quite possible to be unaffected even when you gain much more. You couldn't tell I have two children and I gained 58lbs the first time and 42lbs the second. Another reason I loved pregnancy, I got to eat 24/7.

Oh and once again breast pump

Clearly the OP is fed up with an aspect of antenatal care, but there is good reason to promote breastfeeding, and there is good reason for women to look at the benefits to society/humanity in general, when deciding how to feed their baby.

The NHS would save vast amounts of cash if women breastfed and countless human lives - babies' lives - would be improved simply by not having to be admitted to hospital with gastroenteritis due to being fed artificial baby milk . This money would then be freed up to be used in other areas where there is arguably a greater need. So no wonder the government, rather feedbly IMO, are trying to increase rates.

Finally, aren't breastfeeding workshops a good thing, a form of support that many people say they aren't getting?