to crave excitement this much?

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I'm nearly 40. Married for 5 years and together for 7.

Part of me knows that this is a mid life crisis/7 year itch....

But is this all there is? Where's the excitement? Where's the thrill that you get from meeting someone new, dating, sex texting, talking dirty on the phone.. just being EXCITED???

I'm soooo bored with it all. Someone talk me down before I start waving my knickers at the next passing 18 year old

Surely I'm not the only one that feels like this? It's driving me crazy. I'm becoming obssessed with the past, how I felt, the men I went out with, the partying...

Not posting and running but have to do teatime things, but will be back later.

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oh god ... i feel a little like this and I am only approaching 36!!

I watch with interest on this thread I really dont want to dig out the cross-stitch/knitting just yet!!!

Sometimes I really want to do something totally nuts .. like throw myself out of an areoplane, or ab-sail down a cliff ... hmm .. I may need the Valium for both of those ideas!!

I know what you mean tho .. sounds like you got that "I am stuck in a rut" feeling!

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I want lots of new admirers.

Oh dear yes, typical midlife crisis .

I get this when I hear "insomnia" totally takes me back to hedonistic carefree times...

I'm 35 and I get very bored and restless by Family life...I do enjoy it too but I don't find it particularly thrilling.

I do think though in my 20s I was too focussed on fun and freedom. Wish I'd worked harder really and drank less!

I still really miss getting pissed with my mates on a night out, have to be so restrained these days cos have to be up in the am and back onto the domestic bloody treadmill of life.

I know excatly how you feel...

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whats the cure

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Oh gosh I´m much happier being settled than on the merrygoround of looking for someone.

I still look forward to my husband coming home & love it when we have a day together when the children are at school.

Have been married 15yrs & it gets better.

God, I really don't want to go back to that. I partied harder than nearly anyone I know, and for a good number of years I actually did throw myself out of aeroplanes every weekend. But my life has changed and I love it 100x more now. No more humiliating drunken episodes, no more egotistical wankers failing to tell you that they have an STI, etc.

One thing that DH and I have done which is so much fun is to meet for a date. i.e. meet at a bar or restaurant as if for the first date, rather than leaving the house together. It is brilliant fun getting ready for a date at home by yourself, anticipating what you'll wear, getting a cab, turning up to a restaurant and scanning the room for your "date".
You can even think to yourself 'I really think I might be having sex with this guy tonight!' It's a great buzz.

I regret that, though less pretty and thin, I'm more confident and better at flirting now than I was when I was single. Mind you, I was very young when I was single as I have been with DH since I was 20.

I was always a bit of a stay-at-home, and I get my thrills from DH growing a beard. I'm with you diddl.

I found that my confidence re flirting rose in proportion to the alcohol ingested.

may sound stupid but whenever I feel like this I write- I currantly penning a novel (which will prob never get finished and def never get published) about a single girl (me) who is having a romance with a vampire- it gets it out of my system.

Go have some dirty sex with your hubby

I sometimes feel like this. Probably because I had loads of fun as a single. I have been with DH 5 years.

I soooo love going out now. It is such a treat and each time I always have one glass too many. The other thing you could do is to take up an exciting hobby that takes you out of the house (warning: ballroom dancing wrecks marriages).

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Thanks girls. At least I know I'm not alone in being a bit flighty

I don't want dirty sex with my hubby though. I want dirty sex with someone new. Someone that will be thrilled with my sexual expertise and not expect their pants washed....

No. It is more personal than that. Ballroom dancing broke my parent's marriage up (well, among other things).

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I know just what you mean.

I am 38 and was walking DS's to school the other day and about 5 or 6 6th form boys from the local high school walked past me, like a Tommy Hilfiger/Ralph Lauren advert, testosterone filled the air, so tall, muscular, floppy hair, innocnet boyishnes........you see what I mean, I envisioned myself tangled up amongst at least two of them.

I actually blushed.

I walk regilarly to school now, desperate for a little glimpse.

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No, being married is much better.

I was out in a club on Friday night and overheard a couple of 18 year olds. One was saying 'looks like I might be having sex tonight', plus details of how a girl she liked had been sending saucy mails, etc, and the second girl was getting all excited on her behalf. And I thought 'oh, poor old you, I can have sex any night I like'.

Oh forgot the advice!

I have been with DH for 20 years, we met in the 80's when I was 17.

We went to an 80's themed 40th the other night, got all dressed up, me big hair, tucker boots, leg warmers, him all Tony Hadley, slicked hair - it was HOT!

We danced and snogged on the way home,

Not done that for years.

You gotta make the effort. Dull but true and worth it.

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