to crave excitement this much?

[HappySlapper]

I'm nearly 40. Married for 5 years and together for 7.

Part of me knows that this is a mid life crisis/7 year itch....

But is this all there is? Where's the excitement? Where's the thrill that you get from meeting someone new, dating, sex texting, talking dirty on the phone.. just being EXCITED???

I'm soooo bored with it all. Someone talk me down before I start waving my knickers at the next passing 18 year old

Surely I'm not the only one that feels like this? It's driving me crazy. I'm becoming obssessed with the past, how I felt, the men I went out with, the partying...

Not posting and running but have to do teatime things, but will be back later.

Sorry, pongy. I never wore poncy knickers at 25.

Yes indeed Expat, it was thrilling wasn't it all that?

Well, the craving to be rich is a far more attainable goal than wanting to be 25 again.

Reminds me of this guy I went out with briefly when I was 17.

This man was Irish-American down to the forename and surname. With dark hair, big blue eyes and skin like milk. I mean, he was like friggin' Noisu from the Deirdre story and I was all set to give him the blow job of his young life in the front seat of his car when he turned to me and said, in all earnestness, 'I wish I were Chinese.'

WTF?

We split soon after that (he also had ishoos with his dad and a rather alarmingly close relationship with his mother).

You can be promiscuous without any of those things, surely?

I've never had reason to visit the GUM clinic, or to get pregnant when it wasn't planned

Anyway, this isn't a debate about how much of a slag I was. I would be willing to bet that I'm by far not alone in how I feel.

Well do it then!

Then I suggest taking up moony's idea: perhaps your husband would also like to wave his cock at some barely legal and have the opportunity for some excitement, too.

All this talk of waking up with strangers is getting me all misty-eyed.

Oh, my eyes were definitely misted over many a morning when the sun hit my face, tethers, shortly after that painful moment my first thought was, 'Where the fuck am I?'

I also look back sometimes and think, well was that it then, what have i done with my life? Get up, kids to school, go to work, get kids, cooking, washing up, pick up OHs pants off floor, laundry....ZZzzzzz!!

Then i look at my 3 annoying yet adorable kids and think, well i managed to get something right i guess

I think a lot of people have a secret wistful time when they yearn for the carefree days, but reality has to set in, and in the end, if you have someone who loves you to bits, then you should be happy.

I draw the line a picking up someone's filthy underwear. Would not have married a man who did this.

Of course I'm happy with my children. And also with my husband, believe it or not. But there is this overwhelming horror that I am expected to spend the next 30 years in Groundhog Day.

expat... The tears are running down my legs.

I don't pick up anyone's filthy underwear either, moondog. As a consequence, we live in squalour.

HappySlapper, maybe it's because we always knew this bit (marriage, kids, settled) was coming; we arrived at it, and now have absolutely no idea what's next. More of the same? Or something we haven't anticipated?

God, I definitely identify with the OP! What's more worrying is that I AM 25 ...

happy slapper- you are not alone love dh completely, but, nonetheless sat here wine in hand sunday afternoon contemplating putting pink streaks in my hair.Now if that is not sad or middle aged then what is?

Reading this thread with interest. I am single, since divorcing abusive ex h, and can hardly ever get out, have no friends to socialise with anyway, and am also desparate to meet men!
I thought it was just because of my situation.

happy slapper- me too, you are not alone! Had to attend a few days training recently at a University, and walking around all these 18 year olds was just heady, was so sad I couldn't go and get drunk and foolish and stay out till god knows when and sleep in till whenever... I felt like one of them (though clearly am not), but instead headed off to do washing, cleaning, picking up things, sleeping in the same bed, discussing the mortgage, discussing the bills... I love my family to bits but yes I completely emphathise with you...

FWIW think a few folk are being a bit mean, happy slapper not saying she actually wants to go out right now and shag 100's of youngsters, rather yearning for the feeling of being young and all that comes with that.

Thank you Effie. That's exactly what I meant. I was being funny about the 18 year olds - trust me, 18 year old boys do nothing for me whatsoever

It's the feeling. The feeling of being lusted after, pursued... I'm glad you get me.

Happy, I get you too, completely. I really miss men looking at me and wanting me. It seems like I'm invisible now, and I think, fuck, I don't look that different to how I did 10 years ago surely??

Sorry, my post sounds really arrogant doesn't it?
But you know what I mean? Years back it was great to get all dressed up for a night out and know you looked good - and men looked. Now even when I've made a huge effort it doesn't really work.

HappySlapper you need to find excitement elsewhere, and make sure you still have new experieinces, do things that scare you, push your limits, just because your sex life is settled now doesn't mean the rest of it has to be.

Alternatively, as SGB would say, monogame is not for everybody but if you have chosen to be monogamous with your DH and stay with him and commit to him then you need to accept that part of that commitment is giving up on other oppertunities for sleeping with new people etc.

But life doesn't have to be boring or lacking in excitement because of this.

oh tigerbear, you don't sound arrogant.

Sometimes whether or not you get attention is more to do with your asttitude than anything else, and sometimes you just think you no longer attract attention but really you just don't see it.

I know what you mean though, it's a lot to do with age I think. Younger girls just attract more attention

Thanks Overmydeadbody - you're right. I suppose now I'm married I'm not actively seeking out new people and gauging their interest so I don't really always see if they give me attention or not.

I haven't read the whole thread but I soooooooooooo know how you feel. I feel exactly the same. I am going to be 40 this year, been married for 10, been full time SAHM for 7. And I am desperate for some excitement in my life.

I don't want to go our partying or getting drunk, I want to travel (off peak and cheaply) to far flung exotic places, just book a flight and work things out day to day once I get to the airport at the other end, change my plans at the drop of a hat.....go mountain climbing, trekking, white water rafting.......

I miss that aspect of pre-DC life soooooo much it hurts. A 2 week holiday to somewhere 'safe' and 'child friendly' just isn't the same.

i feel the same too...but i'm only 30. keep putting it down to the time of year and being mother to 3 young children,however lately have been desperatly hankering after carefree long weekends involving drink,decadance and spontaneous dancing;not cbeebies,herbal tea a moany oh. i know i'm not alon in feeling that the memories are like looking back on someone else's life....oh god bring on spring!

'HappySlapper you need to find excitement elsewhere'

in fact, OMDB is going to take my fat, sorry ass climbing this year. oh, yes. it has been, almost to the day, 8 years since i tied on.

i still own my Mythos. i don't even think those are made even more and i flogged my orange slippers, Kaukulators and other gear to pervs on Ebay for what a former climbing bum like me considers big money.

so me, i suggest you get yourself to the local climbing gym if you are looking for hot young bodies.

they abound in climbing! they're mostly all arseholes, or stricken with Peter Pan Syndrome or burners, but if you are just after a fling they are usually up for it.

you just need to be enthusiastic, IYKWIM.