to think someone recieving incapacity benefit shouldnt be going on holiday on their own if they need a carer?

[allthreerolledintoone]

and by holiday i mean abroad for nearly 2 weeks.This is a person suffering from a bad back/neck. And by carer i mean a person who is their partner and very capable of working but hasn't for nearly 18 years and is therefore recieving all the benefits a carer is entitled to.

If their partner is going too, they won't be on their own, they'll have their "carer" with them.

it is entirely possible to be up to a holiday (and to deserve one and need one) but not to be up to a full time permanent job.

i think you are being very unreasonable.

yes but the carer didnt go that is the pont the person recieving IB went alone. The carer stayed at home. I wouldnt questionit otherwise.

i think you shouldn't be 'questioning' it at all tbh.

what is it with all these "lets bash the benefit scrounger" threads at the moment

oh for gods sake go and do 'good' somewhere.

someone forgot to tell us it's mean spirited month on Mumsnet this month

Maybe there were carers on the holiday. And the partner was having a bit of respite.

Perhaps they didn't tell you all the details because its none of your beeswax.

They are probably sick of the sight of each other and need a holiday apart.

[spends 24/7 with DH and knows the feeling]

No-one of your business anyway.

i know tippytumbles. i'm a single parent, and no doubt, when I go on holiday later this year for the first time in 8 years, paid for by my parents, (and sigh, with my parents) there will be people bitching that I shouldn't be on lone parent allowance and going on holiday.

cos I haven't suffered enough. Only had to run away from an abusive man, relocate hundreds of miles away, start again, manage with no car, and on a shoe string, but I just know when I tell people I'm going on holiday there'll be a few people begrudging me that holiday.

puke

puke.

there's a bit more, hang on.

puke.

Lol maggie...... Same story as mine

So op........what's the problem??

The cared won't be working but claiming caters allowance?
Or the incapacity claimant is on hols with no carer, so could manage at home without one too??

For god's sake. What's it to with you? It seems like it's benefits bashing month. I haven't been on any luckily but don't judge those who are. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

mm carers benefits ,all that there entitled to that be little sleep lots of worry , being judged by other people all for £54 a week and you can not get income support as top of they take your carers of it

Well... it depends. Is this person with a bad back/neck planning to go jet-skiing, bungee-jumping or paragliding? Or are they just going to be sitting/lying somewhere warm, beautiful and stress-relieving for a couple of weeks? If it's the former then yeah, I'd say they were taking the mickey with the incapacity benefit thing! However, if it's the latter... well, even people with chronic illness or mobility problems need a holiday now and then - and so do their carers. I've got a friend on incapacity benefit with respiratory problems, so she spends her life permanently on oxygen from a tank she has to carry around everywhere with her. Using your logic, she and her husband (and carer) aren't entitled to take a holiday either, as long as they're in receipt of incapacity benefit. Do you honestly think that's fair?

Who cares??? Benefits or not

I'm on them .......and we are having a family holiday in august AND dd is going abroad with her friend, which I will be paying for.....that alright with you is it??

I just find it weird that someone who claims to need 24 hour care can go on holiday abroad alone without their carer?carers.I understand the respite and needing a break from each other. Im not saying they don't desevere a holiday.The reason it is niggling me is because the carer actually had a job opportunity and turned it down because their partner was moaning to him and to me that it would effect their money and entitlements one being free dentistry.Not about how they would manage without them etc.

what the fuck has it got to do with you?

unless you are claiming that they are faking their injury in order to make a benfits claim, in which case report them appropriately.

so because this person has an injury where she usually needs assistance with certain things she should be strapped to a chair and only allowed the "luxuries" you decide?

piss off and mind your own business

Mind yer own.

Im just asking a view im not bashing people on beneifts- i grew up in on benefits so no too well how hard it can be. Im just asking becuase theres been a few things that have been said and done and this being one of them. You are right it isn't my business but when i have to hear about it. I was merely asking a question.

oh for god sake grow up its just a question i dont really care either way or else i would of reported them wouldnt have i. It was more of a query from a previous thread. But obviuosly im not allowed to ask a question. Im very unreasonable for asking am i unreasonable question about incapacity haha so there!

Ok you asked the question, you have had a united view in reply - so you will stop thinking badly of your acquaintaince now? Stop judging situations you know nothing about and generally mind your own business?

If you don't really care either way why start the thread?