to think someone recieving incapacity benefit shouldnt be going on holiday on their own if they need a carer?

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and by holiday i mean abroad for nearly 2 weeks.This is a person suffering from a bad back/neck. And by carer i mean a person who is their partner and very capable of working but hasn't for nearly 18 years and is therefore recieving all the benefits a carer is entitled to.

josie you are on the wrong thread love

what does "deserving(according to mumsnet) mean?

are you suggesting that those on benefits are not deserving then josie?

I think we should have more of these threads. I get to point and laugh at the hopeless OPs

I think benefit recipients should (when they are not on holiday) park their expensive cars outside the houses of 'the hard working decent british people' and strut around in their designer clothes comparing plasma TV sizes and shouting 'nya nya!"

Yes, sorry folks, drinking second glass of wine and cooking meal and posting highly intelligent and relevant (after two glasses of wine) comments not to be recommended.

I am of an age (55) where loads of people around me are early retired or on benefit - and it's a bit scary how the country is going to pay for this - assuming many last into their 80s. I feel pretty fit and not over the hill (if heading up it a bit) and certainly not old.

I feel it must be so depressing for those on IB to think that there is nothing ahead of them but worse health, poverty and old age, years and years of it.

Not sure what the answer is (actually I am sure and it is serious psychotherapy, but that is a taboo subject in the UK, to give people the skills to take more control of their lives (despite their illness), I spose some CBT might help as that is all there is on the NHS). Also a way of allowing people to earn more to subsidise benefits might give fuller lives.

It is a problem and benefits will not go up in these straitened times, only down.