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Original poster

to have given DD just bread and tomato soup for supper?

56 replies

dilemma456 · 08/02/2010 11:55

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Disenchanted3 · 08/02/2010 11:57

fucking hell, nowt wrong with that. if she eats it then thats bloody great. i spend an hour cooking a bloody good meal for ds and he doesnt touch it.

that sounds like a great day of food, ignore her.

Vinomum · 08/02/2010 11:59

YANBU at all. Sounds like a perfect amount for a 4 yo to be eating, and a good balance of food too. Presumably if your DD is hungry she tells you and you give her more food? If not then yes that would be unreasonable

FlamingoBingo · 08/02/2010 11:59

yanbu

some people are very rude! It's none of her bloody business anyway!

Mine frequently have just bread and butter for lunch - it's home baked bread and they love it so eat loads of it! They gorge on cucumber along with it and occassionally decide to sully the bread taste by adding cheese to it

ChickensLoveMarmite · 08/02/2010 11:59

Nope, YANBU. My two have soup and toast/beans on toast for their tea once a week. It's lovely to be able to fix dinner in minutes sometimes. They usually scoff a bowl of cereal before bed, too.

arsesandoldlace · 08/02/2010 12:02

I'm impressed that she eats such a wide variety of food in a single day, that's brilliant for her age!

Your menu sounds great, nothing wrong with it at all.
What's your friends story, does she have DCs?

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dilemma456 · 08/02/2010 12:05

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whoopstheregoesmymerkin · 08/02/2010 12:05

yanbu sounds lush
mine have one cooked meal (usually lunch) and a bitsa tea - bitsa this, bitsa that

ChippingIn · 08/02/2010 12:06

YANBU how old is your friend??? Sounds more like an elderly Aunt!!

Just laugh at her, really, it's all you can do with someone so clearly bonkers!! Else tell her: breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, dine like a pauper!

PrettyCandles · 08/02/2010 12:07

If the diner feels satisfied after, then soup and bread is a perfectly good meal.

I was hesitant about serving that to dh, because I, too, thought that of soup as a starter. But dh finds it not just acceptable, but a very nice meal. If a working man finds soup and bread a good meal, then I don't think a child is going to go hungry after that.

PrettyCandles · 08/02/2010 12:08

Hey, whoopstheregoes - I like your "bitsa" meal! We call it "fridge-raid".

Naetha · 08/02/2010 12:09

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

And how is soup and bread not a full meal? Half a can of heinz tomato soup is 200 calories, and two slices of bread and butter is about 300 calories. Add a yoghurt on to that at 100 calories, and that's a perfectly balanced 600 calorie meal. Plenty for an adult, let alone a 4 year old.

Francagoestohollywood · 08/02/2010 12:09

Since when soup + bread and yogurt is not a proper full meal?
It's a very healthy meal, actually.

Portofino · 08/02/2010 12:10

My dd has a 3 course lunch at school plus fruit and biscuit at 4pm. Rarely is she that starving in the evening. She quite often has something like crumpets, or beans on toast, ham sandwich etc. I try to squeeze a bit more fruit in if I can. She seems to be thriving.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 08/02/2010 12:10

I am so of your dd's food intake. yesterday my dd had a waffle with honey for breakfast then sausages and baked beans for lunch and for tea she had approx 1tspn of broccoli and the same of carrot and half a roast potato and a chicken drumstick. Today she had two waffles, a glass of orange juice and for lunch I've sent a salami stick, marmite sandwich, three jaffa cakes and some crisps. I know there is no point is sending fruit or yoghurt or anything else. It will just come home uneaten.
Your friend is BVU.

coldtits · 08/02/2010 12:11

It's fine as long as she was satisfies with it. My 3 year old wouldn't have been, and my 6 year old would have assumed it was a snack and continued waiting for dinner!

FlamingoBingo · 08/02/2010 12:11

dilemma - I also have 4 of them and I say it's fine

pigletmania · 08/02/2010 12:14

Gosh what planet is your friend on! yANBU at all thats fantastic food intake, my goodness does your friend want you child to be obese!!!! My dd is nearly 3 and has what a year old baby would have, I would give anything for her to love food like I do and eat 3 good meals a day. My mum said that when i was young i would only have one meal a day and a small one at that (my choice i hated food) now look at me she is trying to get me to lose weight lol. Ignore your friend and carry on as you are!

MoChan · 08/02/2010 12:28

YANBU. Most days my daughter has a light supper. What's wrong with soup, anyway? As others have pointed out, it's a perfectly adequate meal.

Plus, this three-solid-meals-a-day fascism is ridiculous, IMHO... as long as you are eating enough (not too much), and healthily, over the course of the day, what does it matter?

bubblagirl · 08/02/2010 12:28

no if ds has cooked lunch he has egg and soldiers or soup etc for tea im not risking over feeding him lol thats more than enough for day

bubblagirl · 08/02/2010 12:30

also he is able to voice " mummy im still hungry" and if he is he gets fruit or yoghurt or whatever else i have at hand

Mybox · 08/02/2010 12:39

Sounds a good meal. My dd just had porridge & bread & butter for lunch. This evening we'll have soup, pasta, tomato sauce & cheese.

Wispabarsareback · 08/02/2010 12:40

How breathtakingly rude of the OP's 'friend' to express this opinion - I can't quite believe what some people think it's OK to come out with.

OP, it sounds like a great tea (and a great day's food) - I feed my DDs much the same way. Soup is just the best way, ime, to get them to eat lots of veg.

Do hope you will ignore your friend!

mistlethrush · 08/02/2010 12:56

Sounds a perfectly good diet to me - and I wouldn't have thought friend would have been if she'd eaten the soup and bread at lunchtime and had the 'cooked meal' in the evening. However, if her dc's are anything like mine, they could eat an adult sized breakfast (or two sometimes); fruit as a snack in the morning; a cooked meal at lunchtime, including cake and custard for pudding (school!); an apple or banana as a snack after school; and another full cooked nearly adult portion of food for supper followed by a big bowl of yoghurt with oats sprinkled on top. (Ds is 4.10 and, no, he is not fat - he is just growing and running around like a mad thing!)

MarthaFarquhar · 08/02/2010 12:59

my 3yo would be very happy with that as her light meal, and she is a very good eater indeed.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 08/02/2010 13:07

Wow, wonder what she would think of my DS eating a bowl of cornflakes for his supper yesterday. It is sometimes all he will eat and I rather he eats something rather than nothing!