to have given DD just bread and tomato soup for supper?

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We nearly always have soup, bread and cheese on Sunday evening - I like a light meal if we've had a big Sunday lunch.

Tell your friend that eating less in the evening makes you hungrier for breakfast, which, as we all know, is the most important meal of the day....

at 4, ds would have 6 spoons (tea) of cereal for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch and about 6/10 spoonfulls of food for dinner - anything from pasta to roast meat...

It wasn't because I was withholding food; it was all he'd eat!

Your dd has a perfectly healthy appetite and diet.. ignore the weird friend!

If dd(6) ate that much I'd be thrilled. She eats like a bird, but is rarely ill, runs around like a mad thing, so I guess she's eating what she needs. I love tomato soup and bread for tea!

Don't they say children should graze more - expecting them to eat 3 full meals a day is old hat!

I'm also amazed at the sheer bloody rudeness of people who think it is their business to make comments about this sort of thing. We loved a soupy tea when my dcs were small - actually, we still love one! - and my lads had very hearty appetites. With all the delicious bits and pieces you can have to accompany soup and bread, the meal is often far healthier than a single plateful of stodge.

Mmmm soup...... sounds like a lovely tea. Plus, at 4, she's able to tell you if she's hungry, anyway. Ignore the friend, she doesn't know what she's talking about! (impressed at the tomato soup eating skills though - both mine (5 and 3) would end up with soup all down their shirts still I think!)

your friedn is clearly a loon

capital L O O N

unbelievably rude too

YANBU. I often have tomato soup and some nice bread for tea on Sunday, and I'm an adult.

Our twins are good eaters but even they couldn't finish half of what you described...

YANBU.

I have soup and bread for my dinner on a friday (don't cook on fridays and i'm a lot older then 4.

And I probaly wouldn't have eaten as much as your dd does in a day.

Bread and soup is a perfectly good meal. Sometimes that's what DH and I have for dinner and we are full afterwards, so a 4 year old shouldn't have a problem with it.

Does your friend serve a four course meal for each mealtime or something? Was she waiting for the fish course to come out?

You are definitely not unreasonable. It was your daughters third meal of the day for goodness sake. She seems to be having a varied diet which is good so I wouldn't worry what your friend says.

Your friend might be one of those women who get fulfilment from cooking and feeding people. She's talking shite though and interfering where it's not needed.

One of the meals DS regularly has at nursery is soup and bread - never occurred to me to think it wasn't a "proper" lunch.

hmmm tomato soup

That's a lovely selection of food for the day. DS and DD are real soup fans and it's a really nice thing to make together. How very, very rude of your friend. Perhaps you could give her a bit of parenting advice, too

Yanbu, that's what I'm eating at the moment because I have a terrible tooth ache. it's a proper meal.

My 3 yo DS1 often demands tomato soup and cheese on toast for a meal... provided he's getting a balanced diet on the whole I have no problem with it. YANBU.

YANBU

Not only is that a delicious and varied day of food - tomato soup and bread sounds fine to me - I'm at your friend.

I wouldn't dream of going into someone's house and telling them unprompted that they weren't feeding their children properly. How bloody rude!

Very well fed child IMO.

That sounds just fine to me, in fact it's more than my picky 13 yr old son usually eats in a day.

Some nosy neighbour reported my Mum to SS when I was about 8. They 'dropped' by one dinner time and witnessed for themselves that my brother(5)and I ate as much as my Dad did and that was after a school dinner with seconds! It's a nonsense. Chiuldren soon tell you if they are hungry. Well mine do

Haven't time to read whole thread but mine often have a light tea - soup/bread or beans on toast as they have a school dinner or cooked meal at lunch time. Sounds to me as if she'd eaten plenty through the day and a light tea was all that she needed.
Love the 'bitsa' tea or 'fridge raid' in our house its called a'nibbly' tea where we have lots of things to nibble on lol

Crikey that sounds fine.My 5 yo doesn't eat half that !
I give mine school dineers so that I can just give them a snack for tea

Daughter is 4 and her nursery (healthy eating accredited)do a lighter tea. Soup and french bread, sandwiches, mascapone pasta etc followed by fruit.

Staff always comment that the soup is popular - DD certainly likes it.

They have a cooked full lunch and a cooked pudding eg fruit crmble and custard. So don't need a 'big' tea.

Since when did two full cooked meals a day become the norm? Im sure it was never the case in the past, and one meal should be a lighter or easier prepared meal. We had school dinners or cooked lunch at home, then sandwiches and cake for tea all through my childhood.