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To have a crush on my friends 16 year old neighbour!!!

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CradleSnatcher · 02/02/2010 08:42

He is just so lovely and makes my own DP seem like a useless sack of shite

He looks a lot older... does that make it better???

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Tortington · 02/02/2010 23:54

eats nothing but cereal and then leaves the bowls in his room

where they become furry

scottishmummy · 03/02/2010 00:00

whats with the resurrected ole granny posts,wasnt funny then.isnt funny now

Mumcentreplus · 03/02/2010 00:06

wonders if Custy wanks custard??.....kinda wrong

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CradleSnatcher · 03/02/2010 00:51

I just want to clarify that I wouldn't do anything with said boy as I know he is just a boy, I know he isn't after a relationship and I know I am not after a relationship.

But I do think it says a lot for my relationship if I am crushing on a 16yo boy.

And just to settle things, he does have chest hair, lots of it. I've seen it on his rugby player physic. Really really doesn't look 16

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Rhubarb · 03/02/2010 10:22

So you are using the fact that he doesn't look 16 to lust after him.

That's the excuse perverted old men use you know, "well she didn't look 15!" they bleat.

He may not look 16 but he is 16. A boy. He probably still sleeps with his teddies, has posters on his bedroom walls, has a football themed duvet and still goes to his mum when he's hurt himself.

And if you think it says a lot about your marriage then do something about it. Stop spending your energies lusting after a child and work at your marriage instead. If there is no hope then do the decent thing and tell your husband so he can find someone who will love him. Otherwise work at it and stop bleating on here.

MissWooWoo · 03/02/2010 10:26

harsh rubharb you must be fanbloodytastic if you have never had a passing fancy for anyone other than your dp ... are you a robot?

Give the Op a break, she's a bit fed up and she has developed a crush on a young lad (who she didn't know at the time was 16 until recently) so what? it doesn't mean anything ffs.

Rhubarb · 03/02/2010 10:29

No, she's still lusting after him even though she knows he's 16. Even enjoys telling us that he has chest hair because she's seen it.

She says he makes her DP seem like a useless sack of shite - nice way to describe your DP! I'm saying that if she's that unhappy with her dp perhaps she ought to do him a favour and let him go.

Everyone has come on here with good advice and experiences to share and all she can go on about is how he looks older and he has chest hair. So now I've lost patience. It's clear she just wanted us to go along with her.

Coca · 03/02/2010 10:34

I'm sure my DH has seen 16 yr old girls he finds attractive but wouldn't dream of doing anything about it (if he wasn't married iyswim) It doesn't bother me, I could go for a bit of Zac Effron or George Clooney! The OP isn't doiing anything wrong.

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CradleSnatcher · 03/02/2010 10:35

I don't expect people to condone a crush on a boy, I was just explaining that he isn't pigeon chested like it was suggested, I honestly didn't realise he was 16 until I saw his driving license (for a moped thingy) and it had his DOB on.

Otherwise you wouldn't be able to tell, he lives alone in a three bed house, he does all his decorating himself, chopping up wood, paying all his own bills.

He is wise far beyond what I was when I was 16.

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CradleSnatcher · 03/02/2010 10:36

And like I said before, I wouldn't act on it.

If I had met him in, say, 10 years, then maybe

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Francagoestohollywood · 03/02/2010 10:51

The OP is 23 yrs old, isn't she? Hardly "old" herself!

MissWooWoo · 03/02/2010 11:05

where did you see his driving license? have you been in his house ....

Rhubarb · 03/02/2010 11:10

Good point Misswoowoo. You've seen his hairy chest, you know he chops wood, you've seen his driving licence - are you a mad stalker?

2shoes · 03/02/2010 11:11

yabu he is a child.
ok to think he is nice looking, but unless you are under 20 anything else is plain odd

BigTillyMint · 03/02/2010 11:20

Agree with 2shoes.

I was recently shopping with a friend who started flirting with a shop assistant. She is 47, he was 19!!!!

But he seemed to be enjoying it

nevereatbrownsnow · 03/02/2010 11:23

Men never grow up tho do they?
I was 13 when I met my dp, he was 18, built like a tank and covered in thick black hair.
I was and still am the mature one in relationship ( he had a smurf collection ffs)
anyways, heed my warning, oh and

therealbanksy · 03/02/2010 11:43

I had a holiday romance with a 22 yo Canvas Holidays rep when I was 16. She had recently graduated from university; I was about to start my A Levels. We got on because I was mature for my age - some boys can be you know. It was brilliant.
I also had a relationship with a woman 25 years older than me when I was in my mid twenties. I suppose it depends on his emotional maturity ultimately. This is a vast range of maturities at that age, I think.

therealbanksy · 03/02/2010 11:44

There is a vast range... not this, obviously. Sorry.

MissWooWoo · 03/02/2010 11:51

nice to hear a man's perspective on this banksy

Rhubarb · 03/02/2010 11:57

But I think we are missing the point that she is focusing on this boy whilst complaining about her dp.

I don't know if she has children but I would advise her to try and inject a bit of life back into her relationship and focus her energies there.

Sure we all get crushes from time to time, but what is worrying about yours is the way you talk about your dp. I can lust after David Tennant but know that I love my dh deeply and would never act on that crush even if DT were to knock on my front door right now with a rose sticking out of his arse. If you don't have that with your dp then you really need to sort that out. Either work on it or call it a day.

Now excuse me there is someone at my door...

MissWooWoo · 03/02/2010 12:07

pmsl at Rhubarbs fantasy image of DT ...ding dong!

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CradleSnatcher · 03/02/2010 12:19

I saw his driving license when he gave me a company card for a company that pull cars out of ditches.

I saw his chest when he was topless in the garden (him and my friend share a back garden, but he is always in their house anyway)

And I have seen him chopping wood because he always does it out the front of his house.

I have said several times that I wouldn't act on my crush, and I would never be unfaithful!!

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Rhubarb · 03/02/2010 12:22

What is a 16yo doing with a 3 bedroomed house to himself?

Have you asked him to chop your wood for you yet?

MissWooWoo · 03/02/2010 12:26

yes I want to hear more about this boy/man - although am fast developing a crush on him myself .... chops wood/helps damsel in distress/saunters around with no top on

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CradleSnatcher · 03/02/2010 12:35

I haven't asked him to chop my wood, my house is heated by electric heaters.

It is a long story as to why he has a 3 bed pace to himself but the short of it is he used to live there with his family and now he is the only person left living there.

He doesn't saunter around with no top on, he just happened to be in the garden topless when I went over in the summer.

He is studying mechanics at college.

Whilst my DP's 'manliest' moments are playing COD or AC (I think he is on the way out)

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