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to quite like that DH can look after us.

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 31/01/2010 20:48

DH used to be a brawler but since we met he's been a star- never in a fight, not even once. He hardly drinks at all, doesn't feel the need to go out all the time. Doesn't provoke anyone or anything like that. He's really turned over a new leaf, so good on him!

He is very protective of DS and I, but has never been in a situation to have to fight for us so far- but I know he can look after us IYKWIM. I find this really comforting.

The other day we had an awful appointment at the hospital (documented on childbirth threads). I'm pregnant 36+4- and a midwife made us think that our baby, who has had problems all the way through this pregnancy, has downs syndrome. They also decided they would be delivering baby early. Nothing was explained to us and we were left in a bit of a state (I have spoken to a consultant since who has apologised for the confusion and for that midwife and said that the baby isn't down sydrome, she'd got it wrong, etc) but the fact is, at the time, we were in a bad way.

We were on our way home from the hospital.
There is a busy road with a school on which we have to go down to get home. A car stopped on a speed bump to let other cars through (it was a 4x4- this isn't a 4x4 bashing thread, I'm just saying it was a big car) so obviously we were stopped behind it. The cars passed through the narrow road and the car infront just sat there. We waited a while wondering what he was doing. Then DH went round the car and we looked at the driver. DH held palms of hands up and shrugged shoulders, as in 'what are you doing?'

The man started screaming and shouting through the window (his wife was in the passenger seat). We ignored it and continued to drive away but the man was banging like mad on his horn whilst we went down the street with a line of cars behind us.

DH ended up seeing his arse and turned right into a junction and turned straight back round to go back to the car and see what his problem was. I was shouting at him not to and burst into tears just because I was upset from the hospital (but in all fairness, so was he!). He apologised and said to calm down, he'd just take us home. In this time the man had actually seen us turn back round and he had crapped his pants- he suddenly drove his big car away as fast as he could, looking at DH along the way with a really scared look on his face... having not actually waited to pick the kids up from outside the school!

All that friggin banging on his horn and shouting, but what a pussy.

I'd rather have a DH who can stick up for his family, but chooses to do the right thing rather than some stupid DH who is all mouth and fuss but panics and drives away at the first sign of retaliation!

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LeQueen · 01/02/2010 13:56

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diddl · 01/02/2010 14:01

Sounds as if OPs husband might have been interested in starting a fight-looking at driver and gesticulating at him, then going back around.

"DH ended up seeing his arse"??

lematthedogs · 01/02/2010 14:22

Royalty - so did i!! I was ready to post saying, oh i would love a big strong man to take care of everything for me! Not go around actuing like a thug.

Maybe we should go easy on the OP though, she is pregnant after all

Morloth · 01/02/2010 14:41

There is a difference between being able to finish something and wanting to start it. OP seems to have confused the two.

Jix · 01/02/2010 20:49

It's not just the danger of the other driver. It's people on the street that can also get hurt if road rage gets out of control. Where I live there was a case of a kid getting knocked over on the road as a driver speeded by to "catch up" with another driver he'd had a row with. Cars are dangerous enough without people losing their cool and feeling they have something to prove.

Also I understand that you'd both had a very stressful time at the hospital. But having a new-born baby in the house is also Extremely stressful, especially if your baby finds it hard to settle (as mine did). Sleep deprivation and a crying baby can make anyone's nerves snap...
As children get older they also become masters at winding up their parents.

It's really really important to try to learn to control your anger and not to flip out -- even if you do "calm down 5 minutes later". By then the damage may have been done.

I would seriously recommend your partner has some anger management therapy.

tallulahbelly · 01/02/2010 22:13

You must be so proud

goatinacoat · 01/02/2010 22:22

amd

The most bizarre OP I've read on MN in a while..

lollopops · 01/02/2010 22:26

If someone was trying to break into my house or attack my children/myself, my partner would 'look after us'.

If someone was having a 'tiff' at the wheel, my partner would ignore.

I am so pleased that my partner can look after us.

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