...to not want to 'settle' for mr 'right now'...

[persephonesnape]

second best??

apologies if this has been done...

Author Lori Gottlieb maintains that if you haven't met 'mr right' by the age of 30, settle for anyone that will have you so you can have children (I'm paraphrasing slightly here..)

Now, this isn't really pertinent to me - but what do you think? did you 'settle' when the old biological clock was chiming? do you think women do 'make do' in order to have kids? do we have a romanticised view of a perfect DH or DP?

(i think it's a load of misogynist claptrap - but i think that of most things! )

In fact, I glossed over the thread and missed out the part where the thread because All About Lurcio and Her Life and anyone who posts is Talking About Her.

Not worth the calories, Mumcentre.

Expat - apologies if I misunderstood your post where you said "Well, then, as suggested, go it alone" - in the light of the previous few posts, one of which I made responding directly (but, I thought, politely) to something you'd said about prince charming, I did take as directed as me. If it wasn't, then I'm sorry. And most of my posts have been trying to make the point that what works for one person may not work for another- contrary to what Gottlieb claims.

mrsruffallo - "The women I know who are still single in their forties would be very hard to live with imo- not very flexible in their approach to life at all."

I agree very much with that statement. I also find that women (generally who married young) whose husbands got fed up with them and left them and who, crucially, have not managed to find another partner, also display that same inflexibility.

Long-term partnerships involve a great deal of compromise on both sides in order to be successful. It is so much easier to make compromises for someone you really adore! That's why I think strong attraction to a romantic partner makes for much more successful relationships - you are more flexible about where you are going together (and that leads to much more interesting life paths).