To work out how little my DH respects me by...

[PavlovtheCat]

the way he butters and cuts my toast?

He gave me some toast today, and he had not buttered into the corners, as he knows i have to have done. He also waited til the toast was stone cold before buttering one of them, and then spread jam haphazardly over it, with lumps - there were bits of unmelted butter on it, and dry bits at the edge.

Then, he puts the peanut buttered toast on top of the jam one making it sticky.

And then cuts it any old how, not cut all the way through, and not in half, sort of 1/3rd & 2/3rd at angles.

I have been with him 13 years. 13years. He used to pay attention, do it how i like, now it is sloppy. The respect has gone.

Well...AIBU?

You need the advice of a good divorce lawyer and don't forget MN is the place to get the support you need.

Unforgivable, how cruel and after all those years too.

Stay strong.

Leave the bastard - this is abuse!

My dad still lightly toasts mine and cuts it in triangles, just as I liked it age 4 and still like it.

Divorce him!

This sort of thing makes me so angry

My DH puts my baked beans next to my eggs when he does a fry up, so I understand.

DWP how lovely! I would be happy with triangles, or squares even (i love nicking DDs cut toast). It was clearly done without any thought, care, or attention. Its a rocky road we are treading here isn't it?

If you need help burying his dead body then I offer my services.

If you can't talk to him about it, print off this thread and leave it where he'll see it.... ie in the washing basket when he's wondering why his clothes aren't being washed anymore.

You have to take action here or the behaviour will spiral out of control and before you know it, he won't even make the toast.

paisleyleaf I also do not like him putting mushrooms on my plate when he does a fry up. I have never eaten them. He actually put a couple on there the other day too. I can see a pattern forming.

kbear can you recommend one? One that will sort it fast if it comes to that?

I bet he didn't even make you a cup of tea either

YABU. My DH has never buttered me a piece of toast. Except if I'm really ill or it's mother's day

I deliberately don´t butter toast for my husband the way he likes it

He puts too much on & I am doing him a favour by doing it my way.

But YABU for having butter & jam together

kbear do not say that. That would be the last straw.

I shall print this off and place it by the bin on top of his now broken xbox 360.

tiger he got me coffee. Luckily. If he made me tea, then truly, the love would have been gone. If he had dared to give me toast with no coffee, it would have been blue in the house.

YANBU

DH brought me tea and toast in bed this morning. The toast was cut into squares and had correctly melted butter and honey on it.

But we have only been together for just over 5 years, so maybe I have cold, haphazardly cut toast to look forward to!

At least he makes your toast.
I bouht DH lovely new coffee this morning and mentioned how I hadn't had a chance for a cup, and his reply was 'Well, you know where the machine is'
Grrr.

rene you poor thing
diddl what else are you meant to have with it if not butter?

When DH makes toast the butter layer is thicker than the toast!

I suggest spreading some peanut butter in all his clean underpants

alibaba make sure he never stops that. Your relationship is still quite new .

fruit that is ok if the butter is all melted. I just cannot do unmelted butter mixed with jam. (Unless it is on a weatabix).

Soon, he will have not clean underpants, as kbear rightly suggested, i might stop doing his laundry.

is that how the other woman takes her toast?

PavlovtheCat

Just jam-especially if there´s peanut butter as well!

Butter, jam and weetabix? Did I read that right?

Tis AIBU by stealth. YclearlyBU.

YANBU. DH never puts enough butter on my toast (Is it dripping and greasy? If not, why not? ) He also fails to remove the stalks from mushrooms before cooking with them and that really makes me

Divorce is, I fear, inevitable.

Eleanor - now i did not think of that.... Now if he puts sugar in my coffee next time, or gives me marmite, i might be forced to read his text messages.

But diddl the peanut butter was on another slice of toast (along with some jam on the underside, pah). Toast and Just Jam is too dry.