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to be seriously contemplating legal action????

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WaitroseHater · 22/01/2010 17:57

Shopping in Waitrose this afternoon trying desperately to get baby to sleep in the process. Can't stay in the house currently during her big sleep as have builders in, so planned to do the big weekly shop. DD normally goes off to sleep like a dream but today decided she didn''t want anything without a fight.

I've learned to tune her out, apparently others havent. In the BABY aisle of all places, 2 OAP's blocked my trolley and said I was not allowed to leave the aisle until the baby stopped crying or I left the shop . DD in a sling btw. One of the OAP's SHOUTED that if I needed to 'shove your teat in its mouth then you better do it or I will take her myself and get someone to take you out'. Obv attracted other shoppers and security.

Manager came to see what the fuss was and after me explaining asked me to leave. I abandoned half-full trolley in serious flounce mode. I honestly they were being absolutely horrendously discriminatory against my crying newborn!!!! DH is being extremely unhelpful saying I should have left to 'take the high road' Do I actually have a legal case about this?

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MadamDeathstare · 22/01/2010 23:09

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DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:10

"The Waitrose bit is a good joke "

honestly, I don't get the joke. I don't know what Waitrose is like, it's a supermarket isn't it? Why's it a joke? Really, I am interested to know.

I can completely imagine a security guard having enough bad judgement to tell a nursing mum to leave a store after an incident like this. Some people are stupid and unaware. Maybe this security guard was?

catsmother · 22/01/2010 23:10

FFS .... babies cry, spontaneously, without warning. Are you supposed to stay in forever more until your child can be guaranteed not to utter any sort of noise which might annoy someone else ? Granted, an older child can be asked to stop it, but a tiny baby ?

A distraught baby's cry isn't a nice noise but it is part and parcel of life and we ALL made that exact same noise once. So what ? This was a supermarket not the effing Royal Opera House.

BooHooMonkey · 22/01/2010 23:11

I thought that was your pornstar name?

mollymawk · 22/01/2010 23:12

I don't care whether the OP is true or not because this thread now has
(a) thesecondcoming telling us she is banned from Iceland and (b) this by smallorange: "What I don't get is why OAPs insist on feeling the bread"
and is therefore worth any amount of made-up-ness

MadamDeathstare · 22/01/2010 23:13

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BooHooMonkey · 22/01/2010 23:17

Sorry, just remembered, your porn name is first pet + mother's maiden name (sorry not trying to hijack thread)

MadamDeathstare · 22/01/2010 23:19

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TigerDrivesAgain · 22/01/2010 23:23

oh DF take the pole out of your fundament and stop being so obtuse. you know that Waitrose is supposed to be the fount of all that is bodenwearing middleclassness. it doesn't matter what supermarket this was, it's still a completely unbelievable story with a vanishing OP.

Get your sense of humour back, dear

boobookins · 22/01/2010 23:27

I dont believe giving a child a clip around the ear is a prosecutable offence in the UK in 2010 if it deserves it - and not being able to behave deserves it - I remember being chased up the street by my mother for giving verbal to the shop keepers on the main road (circa 1980s) she never hit me with it but the threat of it made me never give shit to people of I wern't able to take it.

Why do so many people think sprogs should be indulged and not taught they are sprogs and should know their place.

If anyone comes to be an high court judge - I'de rather it be my god child who knows there is right ad wrong than a helian who thinks the world revolves around them

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:33

well fuck me Tiger, huge apologies for not knowing a single thing about Waitrose apart from the fact that this kind of thing just doesn't happen there!

I don't think we have this supermarket in Cardiff. I use whichever supermarket happens to be nearest at the time.

My sense of humour is intact. I just can't see why this seems so unbelievable and so far no one has bothered to explain why.

Are you saying because it's so middle class and boden people just wouldn't dare to behave like that? How odd.

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:35

Boobookins, you know that the OP is about a very small baby, not a child which can talk or knows the concept of misbehaving, yes?

TigerDrivesAgain · 22/01/2010 23:36

crikey, even more obtuse DF. I thought better of you but am now revising my thoughts about threads where we've agreed!

don't you just think the whole story is daft. have you ever seen anything like this happen? The waitrose bit is just a silly side show.

boobookins · 22/01/2010 23:37

Amy child can sense disapproval from its carer - you just need to know when to use it - if the child is hungry, wet, needs changing etc - deal with it - if its being a sprog - its disspproval from its career - it will lean and forget by the time its 10

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:40

Oh-kaaaay! you've lost me now Tiger. Don't remember you from other threads but sorry my not understanding has made you reconsider past opinions.

I don't understand what it being Waitrose has to do with this but maybe it's just something I am unaware of. No worries, it's not that important in the grand scheme

BitOfFun · 22/01/2010 23:41

Lol boobookins

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:41

"Amy child can sense disapproval from its carer - you just need to know when to use it - if the child is hungry, wet, needs changing etc - deal with it - if its being a sprog - its disspproval from its career - it will lean and forget by the time its 10"

speaking as a mother BooBookins?

NotAPollyanna · 22/01/2010 23:43

I am gobsmacked by this thread. Not by the OP. I know of an incident in waitrose (shock) where an OAP stuck his face right in front of my friend's tiny three-year-old girl who was having a tantrum and screamed really loudly "Will you shut up". These incidents happen and many a manager is a complete idiot.

But I am beyond horrified at some of your comments. I would really like you to explain how carrying a bay in a sling while shushing and jiggling it is the same as controlled crying. Have you read Ferber's book on cc? How exactly would you stop the baby crying whether in a busy supermarket or in a small stinking mother and baby room? (BTW my Waitrose does not have a moter and baby room). My babies had bad reflux and nothing would comfort them other than holding them. Who knew when an attack of acid reflux would occur. I certainly didn't think I should stay imprisoned in my house until they grew out of it.

I feel really sorry for this OP, doubly so based on the comments being made by some of the posters. And as to BooBoo she strikes me as a much more likely troll, her comments verge on the insane.

wheresmypaddle · 22/01/2010 23:43

BooBookins - what is wrong with you??

OP's child is a baby. 'Clipping' a baby around the ear is abuse in my book- if its not in yours I hope you are never, even for a moment responsible for another human being (young or old) or an animal (particularly a cat- I know there are a few cat lovers on this thread).

MadamDeathstare · 22/01/2010 23:44

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TigerDrivesAgain · 22/01/2010 23:46

DF: it's a couple of months ago but you and I were of the same mind on a very contentious thread about someone whose initials are AK. Let's not go into that here, it was very vociferous and lots of people had strong opinions. You have quite a distinctive name!

anyway, I think the absence of the OP on this for ages probably proves the point - a bit of attention seeking on a Friday night!

boobookins · 22/01/2010 23:46

I have four cats and with babies who cant understand reason a clip around the ear they CAN understand - they learn not to do what caused it

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:47

Sorry Tiger, that came out sounding ruder than I intended it to.

I don't mean to be rude, I am just a bit at the idea that teh op might be making this up. But I know people do so fairy nuff, I could be wrong

TigerDrivesAgain · 22/01/2010 23:47

you hit your cats as well as children??? that's really not very nice

DuelingFanjo · 22/01/2010 23:49

Ah - I remember the AK thing, tough times... he he.

sorry again d for being a bit RAAARRGGHHH!