aquaintance is frauduntly claiming benefits..... aibu to want to shop her

[ratherstayanno]

I cant say its a friend. Its more of an aquaintance. She is also 'sort of friendly' with someone else i know.

She was seperated from her husband. They both had seperate houses. He would go to hers everyday to help look after their DD, she would walk his dog and her dog. They weekly go dancing and socialise together.

Shes alwasys saying how skint she is, cant afford nursery, shopping in farm foods and car boots. End of last year and all of a sudden she is going on a 3 week holiday to america. With him.
Bit odd i thought, but then i hear they are back together. Apparently he stays everynight, but just takes a carrier bag of stuff. They both still have their own ( mortgaged) houses.
She is still claming single persons tax credits. I know this for a fact.
He has just brought her a new car and they have booked 2 holidays before june this year.

She was invited, with her child to a recent fundrasing event. She asked if she could bring her husband along.

This is relevent as shes not hiding the fac they are back togther, but is still openingly claiming tax credits for single person.

It sort of bothers me. But i dont know if i should actually do anything about it or not.

"She also said she wont let him move in properly as the house isnt big enough ( its a 3 bed and they have 1 child)"
Sorry, but in whose world is that not a big enough house?!? [mind boggles emoticon]

yes. that's another reason why I think the whole tax credits 'reason' is a joke/excuse on her part.

2 adults in 1 bedroom, daughter in another and 1 spare.

So the house is big enough, and it is costing more to run 2 houses than it would to run 1 - even if they lost the tax credits.

Something else is the real reason.

This woman should really stop sharing info with strangers though! It's not normal behaviour to tell someone you know vaguely so much stuff. Makes me wonder if she's ok.

Ooooh I dont know. I have a 3 bed house with just me, a 3 year old and a 1 year old. I have said several times it is far too small to ever move a man in here. I just have too much stuff, and the room dimensions are too small for a big gangly man! Friends look at me like I am odd, but I know what I mean

I believe that in the eyes of tax credits she is doing nothing wrong. Unless they live under the same roof and even then if they don't consider themselves a couple they can claim seperately.

sounds like she is losing out more with current arrangements imo.

whatever her reasons, shes as thick as a donkey donger for being a gobshyte anout it. if i was you, i would tell 'aquaintance' to keep her blabber mouth shut

nonononononono

life's too short to be grassing people up and the karma is liable to come and bite you on the arse

...plus you never know the real story behind other folks' stuff. I'd mind me own business if I were you.

Surely the karma only bites the arse of people who grass up knowingly wrongly, or maliciously though?
If the grassee is doing something illegal/dishonest or morally wrong then is the grasser still going to get bitten, and if so, why? Grassing in itself is not a bad thing, just depends on the circumstances. Perhaps a better way to think of it is that there is no need fo the OP to grass because if this woman is being in any way dishonest or selfish then the karma will eventually bit ^her' arse. Usually works for me.

Karma doesn't work like that (in deep theory, I know plenty think it does in RL)

It is supposed to balance things- so if in this life you are really independent and pushy, in the next you will learn dependence; over confident will bring shyness etc.

What OP sounds like to meis a woman who is gradually geting back with XH,is still a bit shaky about commitment for whatever reason they broke up and is trying to take it slowly but give it a shot. I would suspect she has deep doubts and doesn't want to get in too far so she can break out.

Although I suspect what she is doing is technically not allowed,morally if they are both incurring separate costs etc then not so awful.

Look OP you really do want to report this person don't you, I really cannot understand why because you have not the first clue about what is really going on have you? Leave it, keep your beak out, lots of people live in grey areas and that is how life is. So get a life and leave these people alone.

They're very popular at the moment, aren't they, all these threads about people living the life of riley on benefits. Do you think all the OPs could be persuaded to join forces and set up a small advice page for the rest of us who are clearly completely incompetent in this area?

Krauters wrote 'i would certainly shop her. Thats what we pay our taxes for!'

Not propping up greedy banks and fighting wars that have nothing to do with us , then ?

Stay out of it's all hearsay ,how do you know what her circumstances are or what she has told the tax credit people ?

what is it about people when there is a recession on, they become so bloody mean

Not your business imo. Keep out. WE all have a tough time making ends meet,leave her to sort herself out. If he actually moves back in,then she should sort out her claim. But either way, I don't think it's any of your business.

[wonders where the OP has gone]

Doesn't this thread title come up every single week?

I think she may have expected a lynch mob and got the liberals instead....

Leave it alone, it's none of your business. And yes I know all about the tax payer stuff but face it, that's mostly going on Afghanistan. £200 p/m = chickenfeed in the grand scheme of things. And if she ever found out it was you, I wouldn't want to be in your shoes.
If you are looking to do good in the world and promote fairness and value for money tax-wise, this ain't the right place to start. Why don't you get your teeth into something worthwhile and life-enhancing instead.